dobielover Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 When dating someone new, are you inclined to take their drunk words with a grain of salt, or tend to find there's likely more truth to them for the very reason they're said when drunk?
losangelena Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I think it depends on the person, what they're saying, the kinds of things they've said while sober, and how much they've been drinking. Do you have an example?
GorillaTheater Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I think that sometimes the truth is drunkenly revealed that may not be revealed otherwise. At other times, the drunk person is just talking completely out of their ass. I think I'd be more concerned about a person I'm newly dating getting trashed in front of me. 2
Author dobielover Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 Do you have an example? Fears, insecurities, statements of loneliness.
katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 (edited) When dating someone new, are you inclined to take their drunk words with a grain of salt, or tend to find there's likely more truth to them for the very reason they're said when drunk? I can't say for sure....but I would wary of dating any man (especially someone new) who proceeds to get "drunk" on dates. Even once would bother me.... how old is he anyway? Sharing a few drinks or bottle of wine is fun....but anyone who gets drunk on our dates (especially early in and to the point that he says things he would never say while sober) is not someone I would wish to date. JMO. Edited December 17, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Author dobielover Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 I can't say for sure....but I would wary of dating any man (especially someone new) who proceeds to get "drunk" on dates. Even once would bother me.... how old is he anyway? Sharing a few drinks or bottle of wine is fun....but anyone who gets drunk on our dates (especially early in and to the point that he says things he would never say while sober) is not someone I would wish to date. JMO. LOL, we were drunk together, and it was our fifth date. So self-righteous! It's not like he was falling over or belligerent. I swear, this forum is just crazy sometimes.
losangelena Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 LOL, we were drunk together, and it was our fifth date. So self-righteous! It's not like he was falling over or belligerent. I swear, this forum is just crazy sometimes. Well ... what did he/she say, exactly? Did it fall in line with with what they've said while not drinking? Are you inclined to believe them? Do you want to believe them but are skeptical? Don't mean to pry, it's just that specific details make it much easier to give good feedback and avoid generalities like, "don't date someone who gets drunk when you first meet them."
Author dobielover Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 Well ... what did he/she say, exactly? Did it fall in line with with what they've said while not drinking? Are you inclined to believe them? Do you want to believe them but are skeptical? Don't mean to pry, it's just that specific details make it much easier to give good feedback and avoid generalities like, "don't date someone who gets drunk when you first meet them." I'm not comfortable sharing the exact details. The subject neither falls in line nor is in conflict, as it was about certain feelings, which haven't been discussed when sober.
losangelena Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I'm not comfortable sharing the exact details. The subject neither falls in line nor is in conflict, as it was about certain feelings, which haven't been discussed when sober. Well, ok. I don't know how helpful we'll be, since we've got so little to go on, but in general, I'd say take what was said in mind and see if the sentiment plays out in the future under different circumstances. If you're only on date five, you've got very little information to go on, and the sincerity of things said in the beginning (sober, drunk, however) will come out in time.
katiegrl Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 (edited) LOL, we were drunk together, and it was our fifth date. So self-righteous! It's not like he was falling over or belligerent. I swear, this forum is just crazy sometimes. No I'm not crazy or self-righteous, personally I just don't like drunks...scuse me.. If you don't mind em and get drunk yourself, then have it girl! Have a blast! Far be it for me to judge you....just telling ya what I would do... which is why I wrote JMO at the end. Edited December 18, 2015 by katiegrl
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