CloudyHead Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Can anyone offer any suggestions on how to break through this fog that envelopes me? I am reeling from the end of a six year relationship. I am self-employed and the holidays are here so I spend a great deal of time alone in my office during the day (my work usually dwindles over the holidays). So, I find myself staring at four walls . . . doing nothing. Oh, there is plenty to do but I just sit and stare at the walls. Wondering what he is doing with married woman, etc. Any advice/suggestions (short of medication)?
itisdanielle Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Hello I force myself to get out of the house even when I REALLY don't want to. I'll go to the gym, swim, walk, see friends, go to a coffee shop and read, visit family. Anything to get me out. Sometimes I let myself have a blanket day and watch my favourite films, pamper myself, take a long bath and relax. But I feel that when you stay indoors too much it makes things worse. For example, even when I'm in a completely happy stage of my life, if I stay inside and don't do things/see people, I end up so agitated and down. So when in a situation when things are going wrong, this agitation and boredom added on top is waaay too much! But also don't be too hard on yourself for not feeling good. A six year relationship ending is a HUGE deal and really difficult to go through, especially at Christmas. So even if you try everything you can do to feel better, it still might take a while to see any results. But don't give up I also find that posting here helps. And not just about myself. Attempting to help others here (even though I'm not sure how helpful I am.. this is my first big breakup) really helps too. 1
Amelie1980 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I am struggling the same way.... Keep yourself busy? Any family? Friends? Gym? Volunteering? It's total **** I know. This is a sentimental time of year for many people and the season heightens emotions that are easier to suppress at other times - nostalgia, hope, loneliness, longing.
itisdanielle Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I am struggling the same way.... Keep yourself busy? Any family? Friends? Gym? Volunteering? It's total **** I know. This is a sentimental time of year for many people and the season heightens emotions that are easier to suppress at other times - nostalgia, hope, loneliness, longing. Volunteering is a really good idea. I've done some bits of charity work since the break up and it's a way of meeting new people, keeping busy and also feeling good about the work you're doing. Also learning new skills is something I'm trying. I've started knitting and I've actually gotten really into it.
Amelie1980 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Volunteering is a really good idea. I've done some bits of charity work since the break up and it's a way of meeting new people, keeping busy and also feeling good about the work you're doing. Also learning new skills is something I'm trying. I've started knitting and I've actually gotten really into it. Oooh knitting is cool. So is cross stitch / embroidery.
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