Where do players end in life ?

[kitty12345]

The title may not be appropriate but I tried

 

Nice guys finish last. We hear this everyday. Players , womanizers, serial daters, non commital guys : where do they end in life ? Alone ? Lonely ? After the thrill of the new girls is gone ? They don't stay young forever!

 

I know, I haven't written it well, I'm bad at this but if someone here understands what I'm saying , shall we talk ?

[gaius]

They end up wherever they want to be. If a guy has the skillset to be a player then there's always going to be company for him if he wants it. Even when he's old and wrinkled.

[jen1447]

^ Mmmm, not so sure about that. I think money would have to be a component.

[gaius]

Not in my experience. Unless the woman was financially strapped the senior women I knew still seemed to go for the same guys they did in their 30's. And money wasn't much of a deciding factor.

[GoodOnPaper]

They end up wherever they want to be. If a guy has the skillset to be a player then there's always going to be company for him if he wants it. Even when he's old and wrinkled.

 

I vote for this. Speaking from the "nice guy" side, I would think that if you can hook up whenever you want, then you'll always relationship options. When you have struggles of the "nice guy" variety, then simply a woman's willingness to date you or stay with you beyond a couple of dates will in and of itself become a huge factor in deciding whether an LTR will result. I'd much rather be the player.

[jen1447]

Not in my experience. Unless the woman was financially strapped the senior women I knew still seemed to go for the same guys they did in their 30's. And money wasn't much of a deciding factor.

 

Well if you're saying senior players will have luck getting senior ladies based on their game that may be, but they won't often get attractive young ladies - which is who they're more likely after, being players - w/out them getting paid. Cash, cars, fancy stuff, rent, something.

[VeveCakes]

From my observations, they use up the pool of options, then years later when they realize they do want a relationship and maybe a fmaily, end up contacting every one of those women they played only to find out there are no good ones left because those women now want nothing to do with them.

 

They get stuck with the last choices

[stillafool]

What I've seen is they end up falling head over heels for some woman, end up married with kids and their life goes on.

 

For the older ones:

As one ages your tastes change as well as to who you find attractive. That's why most senior people want to date other seniors. If your health is good and you've taken good care of yourself you can date plenty in your old age (for both men and women).

[smackie9]

The few I knew ended up married with kids just like anyone else.

[kitty12345]

The few I knew ended up married with kids just like anyone else.

That's too easy an answer ! The after effects of living a life of variety for major part of ones life , are huge. Other people have to live with the consequences too often

[LilaMarie]

There was this elderly family friend. I remember my cousins and I were like 'awww' when we saw him come to my grandmothers house with his little cane. If it was Christmas he was there, New Years he was there. I remember I asked my mom about him. We knew he had family so why wasn't he with them? My mom said he cheated on his wife etc and wasn't a good man. He died all alone. Sad.

[smackie9]

That's too easy an answer ! The after effects of living a life of variety for major part of ones life , are huge. Other people have to live with the consequences too often

People do grow up, priorities change, mature, etc. So not there isn't any mental damage of having a life of variety.

[smackie9]

please don't confuse cheaters with players. two different animals. Cheaters cheat in relationships, players don't have relationships, they hump and dump.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Again, every guy is different.

 

The players I've known are still trying their best to chase tail, hanging out at the local wrinkle ranch, spending their hard earned bucks on flat beer, tossing out tired pick-up lines, still reeling in the same "quality" chicks who are no strangers to the game, where everyone competes for attention because they're so afraid to go home alone only to wake up the next morning, hung over, looking like they've been ridden hard and put away wet, lying next to some warm body they can't remember taking home let alone their name only to be hit with the realization of just how sad and lonely their life still is after all these years of doing the same thing over and over again.

 

If you look closely in their eyes, you'll see a very sad and lost little boy. At least that's been my experience.

 

:/

[stillafool]

That's too easy an answer ! The after effects of living a life of variety for major part of ones life , are huge. Other people have to live with the consequences too often

 

Unfortunately life isn't fair. What difference does it make to anyone what happens to a person who hurt you. Just be happy you moved on.

[Erik30]

They'll probably end up being a single dad, some having children with multiple women. I doubt most of them will die alone. They always seem to find some new girl who will fall for their "act."

[Woggle]

Either they live it up to old age or meet a woman that truly is worth bringing the nice guy out for.

[Myragal]

From my observations, they use up the pool of options, then years later when they realize they do want a relationship and maybe a fmaily, end up contacting every one of those women they played only to find out there are no good ones left because those women now want nothing to do with them.

 

They get stuck with the last choices

 

Really? Do you live in a village?

 

Since I turned 50 I've been on dates with dozens of men. None of whom I knew from earlier years.

 

Life isn't a high school class. There isn't a finite dating pool.

 

If I wasn't in a relationship I could go on a date twice a week with a different man each time....forever.

[Myragal]

Unfortunately life isn't fair. What difference does it make to anyone what happens to a person who hurt you. Just be happy you moved on.

 

True. Not sure of the motivation of this thread. Some sadistic pleasure in someone eventually not settling down and not being happy in life? Lots of people meet their soul mate later in life.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

The title may not be appropriate but I tried

 

Nice guys finish last. We hear this everyday. Players , womanizers, serial daters, non commital guys : where do they end in life ? Alone ? Lonely ? After the thrill of the new girls is gone ? They don't stay young forever!

 

I know, I haven't written it well, I'm bad at this but if someone here understands what I'm saying , shall we talk ?

 

Most of these labels are descriptions of men who have done someone dirty,

Which, from a wider perspective, is 80% of men under thirty,

These men may find that one woman that wants to make them change for the better,

"Domesticated men" is the term, and some guys just haven't met her.