Lobouspo Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Do these type of relationships that drag out, make the eventual breakup easier and less painful? Or can they be just as difficult?
Zapbasket Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Do these type of relationships that drag out, make the eventual breakup easier and less painful? Or can they be just as difficult? How do you imagine dragging out such a relationship would make the breakup less painful? I can't answer your question without some sense of your thinking that led you to post this.
cupcakebunny Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Do these type of relationships that drag out, make the eventual breakup easier and less painful? Or can they be just as difficult? Just as difficult. Just as painful. I stayed probably too long in mine even though the warning signs were there from year one of living together. People stay for years in these relationships. After 4 years of knock down drag out fighting. Borderline emotional/verbal abuse and actual physical abuse. I left. It was actual pretty chill...sort of. Lots of tears on his part. Some on mine. But I left and that was that. However you will still grieve the relationship. Most do. If you stayed for awhile, it was likely for the rare good times. That's what you miss. 1
erklat Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Some people find cat-mouse dynamic comforting.
mightycpa Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Uh, yeah, because who wants to be with someone you fight with all the time? It makes the breakup feel good, because you finally get rid of the toxic partner in your life. Like you can be happy again. I'm aware that not everybody feels the way I do about this. 1
Wewon Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Do these type of relationships that drag out, make the eventual breakup easier and less painful? Or can they be just as difficult? LOL! When I was in my 20s, I had my first serious relationship with someone who would find an argument in anything and everything. It was stressful and exhausting, mostly because of my lack of experience I was constantly blaming myself. I didn't know what I was doing, but I was sure it was wrong, at least according to all of the "expert" advice I was going on at the time. But like the fool I was, I was determined to make it work because "relationships are hard" and all of the other sadistic cliches you can throw at it. Finally she ended it and I felt immediate relief. Yes, I lost a relationship but I also no longer had to argue, explain, make time for, negotiate, bicker, appease and all of the other BS that I had been doing. I felt like I was on summer vacation. After going out and enjoying myself for a couple of weeks I sat down and considered the relationship and my actions in it. I realized that a lot of the things stated in relationship books and other gurus was pure garbage and if I wanted to be happy I would need a more organic match instead of a match according to someone else's specifications. TL;DR If someone is a big enough pain the a** people will always be happy to see them exit their lives. 1
jen_r Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 I just got out of a very bad relationship. Like, only a week ago. It's SLIGHTLY easier to let go because he has made me hate him...It's harder to remember the good times. He is so emotionally abusive, lashes out and attacks every inch of my being and it's just like "ok..you clearly hate me...". So I left, without saying a word and I hope he's eating his words, though, I'm sure he's fine with it all.
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