Uncomfortable with his bachelor party. Am i just being stupid?

[sweetmind20]

hi,

 

before anyone jumps to any conclusions about my nature towards this, my discomfort does not derive from a controlling attitude or because i want to spoil his fun. trust me, i am afraid he would only end up resenting me for saying that i wish he wouldn't have a bachelor party. i mean, guy time is one thing, but having a half naked woman touching the man i'm supposed to marry, bothers me.

 

perhaps there are people out there who say i should be more lighthearted but it's hard for me because my fiance and i have been together for three and half years and we were each other's first. we have never been with anyone else.

 

you might say that i should trust him and let him have fun as a single guy before he gets married. i do trust him, but the buddy who wants to throw him the party has no respect for him being in a monogamous relationship because ever since my guy and i have been together, his friend has been making continuous remarks about setting him up to get laid by different women and when my guy says no, his friend laughs and says that he'll spike his drink and get him laid when he's unaware. needless to say, my fiance's friend makes me uncomfortable.

 

i have heard horror stories about how bachelor parties can turn into wild orgies. i know there may be people reading this and laughing and thinking that i am naive and insecure. the truth is, i am young, just turned 22 and of course i have my worries. i have heard stories of strippers having sex with the groom, etc.

 

the point i'm trying to make is : should i just give up and not bring this issue up with my fiance and just let it ride and hope all goes well. or should i be honest and tell him that i am uncomfortable with it?

 

any opinions would be helpful. thanks so much

[LucreziaBorgia]

You will want to share your concerns with your fiance. Be open with him, and completely honest about how you are feeling and what exactly about it bothers you: including your discomfort with your fiance's friend's comments. There is nothing stupid about having valid concerns.