Matthew111 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 So theres this girl in class I added on FB and we were talking so I ask her to hang out and ask if shes doing anything tomorrow shes working ok and then suggests the weekend. I say on Saturday I work till 430 what are you doing? can you after 430 she goes We will see because I go to church Saturdays what did you want to do. I say anything you want maybe we can get a coffee and have a long talk to get to know each other more and take it from there. She left me with we will see. Is this really a no?
casey.lives Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 No, it's not a no but make sure to sound sure of yourself.. you don't sound sure of yourself and that can be a turn off.
Author Matthew111 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 So I will message on Saturday and hopefully she goes I will sound sure lol
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 It's not a no. It's a scheduling problem. If you expect to see her you better talk to her before Saturday. If you wait until Saturday to reach out, odds are she will have already concluded you weren't serious & made other plans. Try to give people at least 48 hours notice if you want to spend time with them. More notice is better, especially at this very busy time of year.
Author Matthew111 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 It's not a no. It's a scheduling problem. If you expect to see her you better talk to her before Saturday. If you wait until Saturday to reach out, odds are she will have already concluded you weren't serious & made other plans. Try to give people at least 48 hours notice if you want to spend time with them. More notice is better, especially at this very busy time of year. Yes I understand but I don't want to seem needy and clingy messaging every day
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Yes I understand but I don't want to seem needy and clingy messaging every day Messaging every day would be a problem. But one call on Friday afternoon would be appropriate Notice I sad CALL not text.
Author Matthew111 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 I don't have her phone I just added her on Monday and we've been talking since then until today and I asked for the hangout earlier today I don't have her number
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I don't have her phone I just added her on Monday and we've been talking since then until today and I asked for the hangout earlier today I don't have her number Message her & ask her for it specifically so you can confirm your meeting.
alphamale Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 So theres this girl in class I added on FB and we were talking so I ask her to hang out and ask if shes doing anything tomorrow shes working ok and then suggests the weekend. I say on Saturday I work till 430 what are you doing? can you after 430 she goes We will see because I go to church Saturdays what did you want to do. I say anything you want maybe we can get a coffee and have a long talk to get to know each other more and take it from there. She left me with we will see. Is this really a no? i'll respond when you fix your grammar 2
JustGettingBy Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Usually when they have a counter-offer, its not a no.
Author Matthew111 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 i'll respond when you fix your grammar You can read it clearly can't you? Thanks for your help.....
Author Matthew111 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I really need opinions guys come on!!!
Radarsat Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Dude, I'm a guy who also tends to freak out a little and reach out on these forums for help. First piece of advice...calm down. You haven't even gone on a date with her. However, give the girl more options. Offer an alternative date. I also agree with the other feedback when they said you need to be more confident and sure of yourself. Act even a tiny bit nonchalant about meeting her. But give her options and make a plan...don't say "Maybe we could..". Just say, "I'd like to take you out for a coffee/drink at this place...let me know when you might be free!" I'm still learning the dating game, but most important thing I've realized...slow down and smell the roses. Enjoy each day as it comes and stop worrying about "making it work" with just any girl. Be picky, but have fun a long the way.
Author Matthew111 Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 I messaged to confirm and she told me she can't and didn't offer Sunday or any other day....so much for persistence. I have no intention of seeming like a stalker or anything else.
newt Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 we will see = get lost Is "we will see" the same as "I will let you know"
mortensorchid Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 "We'll see". It wouldn't hurt to remind sometime during the day that you want to see her "Are we going to meet and (do this)?" If she says no, that's the no. If she says yes, that's a yes.
alphamale Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Is "we will see" the same as "I will let you know" basically yes
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