Aznx17 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Hi guys, Long time lurker, first time posting, I'll try to make it as short as possible. I met my gf ( now ex ) at work a bit more than 3 years ago, at first, it wasn't anything serious then I caved in and we made it official many months after dating. Barely a few months into our relationship, she became pregnant, she wanted to keep it but we weren't ready at all so she decided to go for the abortion. The next year, we broke up and got back together after 1 month, we were still working together. During our relationship I would say we broke up around 4-5 times. She unfortunately had 3 abortions and 1 miscarriage ( that probably didn't play on our side ). Our last break up was in March, I was the one that broke up due to her talking to some guys behind my back. One month later, we got back together I missed her so much we had a talk and all and tried to make things work. Everything was going fine until a many weeks ago. We had a huge argument after me leaving an event with her family. We got back 2 weeks after but I could see that she wasn't ready. Around two weeks ago, she called me and we met up for coffee that night she told me that it wouldn't work and I said ok fine, I'm gonna need my stuff back, she ended crying and we finally gave it a last try. Unfortunately, we shouldn't have gotten back, she wasn't the same person anymore, I wasn't feeling the same thing. We finally broke up last monday. I went to her house to pick up everything, removed her from social media and cancelled her phone line ( I was paying for her cell phone ). I thought, I would be healing with no contact Two days later, she contacted me via her new cell phone and like an Idiot I caved in. Almost everyday she was texting me asking how I was doing until last sunday that I proposed that we meet up, that night she said she wasn't ready for a relationship but wouldn't mind to see each other as no string attach, I thought that could work. I was totally wrong. Tonight, I sent her a text saying we should cut contact for a while as this isn't healthy. I love that girl and I know she does as well. I'll try to stay strong and maintain no contact this time. Thank for reading guys
xpaperxcutx Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 How old are you both? I can't imagine having 3 abortions being good for her body. Why weren't either of you using protection? I feel so sad for the both of you. You guys keep going back to each other for the sex. How can you expect there to be any emotional connection when everything eventually boiled down to the physical? Does your ex have no boundaries at all, in cutting off contact as opposed to wanting to be FWB with you? There is absolutely no trust left in this relationship. I can't imagine either of you working out unless you guys give each other enough time and space to heal from all the damage you both caused to each other. Go NC now. Do not respond to her and definitely do not assume that you can fix this relationship.
Author Aznx17 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 I'm 29 she's 26, we did mistakes in the past, I'm aware. First one, she forgot to take her pill or if was too late. The 2nd time it when she used an another contraception and I forgot what it slipped though. Yeah these event didn't help
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