guild11 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Hey guys, When I first started dating my GF she asked me if I will change my religion for her, I said if we gonna have serious relationship and consider a marriage at some point, I will consider changing my religion she was really happy with my answer. I was never a religious person nor anyone in my family, I'm not a atheist but also I never think of a divine power or follow any religion rules. Unlike me my GF's family are more strict, her mom says she loves me and happy that we are together but hinted on converting since her extended family wont accept that. What your opinion on that ? Would you convert ?
purplesorrow Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I would not. If you do, will you be actively practicing said religion?
casey.lives Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Don't do it.. your going to end up complaining and dragging her in a smear campaign # life experience : (
SerenityNoww Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I do not identify as an agnostic or atheist, but I guess I would be somewhere in between. But even if I did have a religious belief, I still think its totally selfish for anyone to ask or insist that their SO needs to convert. There are plenty of couples that maintain their separate beliefs and practices, and they get along just fine. Its called being respectful and open-minded. I personally have come across countless women on dating sites that claim its a deal breaker if the guys doesnt believe exactly what she does as far as religion goes. I dont think people realize how many SO's fake their religious beliefs just to avoid conflict. 3
preraph Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Personally, I wouldn't want to marry into intolerance, someone and their family who would only accept someone of their own specific religion. Plus, in this case it's shallow because you are not really even interested in religion, and she knows it, so it's all for show. I would want to marry someone who wasn't taking orders from her family on this type stuff and wasn't shallow and just wanting to put a good face on it. 4
sambolini Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Never, never, never, never, never, never compromise who you are for another person. They will accept you as you are if they truly love you. If they can't do that, then they don't truly love you and you are better off finding someone else. Never. 3
SerenityNoww Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I've always brought up this very argument when explaining this to women that made religion a deal breaker..... Imagine you met a man out at a social event. He was absolutely amazing. You had the best time of your life, exchanged numbers, have talked on the phone a few times and cant wait to see him again Friday night. Friday night comes, and you decide to ask him about religion. If he answers you and the answer doesnt sit well with your religion or beliefs, how does that change anything? He is still the same great guy you had fun with and enjoyed spending time with. His religious beliefs should have no bearing on that.
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 If it doesn't mean that much to you AND it's a serious relationship, what harm is there to have peace? If you feel put upon or pressured, maybe it's not the best idea for you. 1
pepsimax Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 But will never ever convert esp if it comes from pressure.
TunaCat Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 If you choose to convert, it should be for yourself. Not anyone else. I am an atheist would never EVER convert for anyone else. If I decided one day to convert, that would be fine as long as I was doing it for myself and not for anyone else.
No Limit Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 No, I wouldn't. My family too doesn't care about religion. And I'd sooner begin dancing through the streets and throwing money at random strangers before I'd pay a single cent to a church.
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