cottom Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Been with partner for half a year now, I used to use POF as a joke to chat to a few girls when single. I didn't bother disabling my account so I still get emails when people message me, my gf is aware I have a POF account still, we went through it laughing at people on it and some of the people on it and my profile. When I get emails off this site "you received a new message, click here to view message" so I click on it and text my gf lol look I got a new message off some girl and showed her. Now she's saying if I want to look at other girls and use dating sites , even though I repeatedly make it clear that I'm not using it to search anyone, not looking at other girls, not meeting anyone, not messaging anyone, not flirting with anyone ... I clicked on an email link to see a message someone sent and showed my gf straight away. Who is in the wrong, me or her for saying she's gonna end us? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) Who is in the wrong, me or her for saying she's gonna end us? You. (10 characters) How would YOU like it if your girlfriend kept an OLD account active? This question was easy. Time to shut your POF account down. Edited December 16, 2015 by Imajerk17 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cottom Posted December 16, 2015 Author Share Posted December 16, 2015 For the record, this isn't a one off I showed her one out of all the messages, I'm open about the whole thing and show her whenever a girl tries to come on to me, such as being in a club it's much better to know someone came onto them and they rejected it rather than hearing that people came on to them and wondering why they didn't tell you and how long they flirted for Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Normally you don't get messages unless you are active on there, so you must be logging in. I would be upset because people will assume you are either single or cheating, which sucks for her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheArtist Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Nope. Get her around to your house, login to POF and let her watch you delete your profile. You either want to be with this girl or you don't. I certainly wouldn't accept that kind of behaviour from a girlfriend of mine. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cottom Posted December 16, 2015 Author Share Posted December 16, 2015 Me and her went through it all a while back and couldn't for the life of us find a disable profile button, I've just kept it as something I have a profile on but not used. I got a message off some girl and instantly showed my gf "lol I got a message off pof look" I told her I wouldn't when she flipped out, even though we had gone through it before laughing at people's messages Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Me and her went through it all a while back and couldn't for the life of us find a disable profile button, I've just kept it as something I have a profile on but not used. I got a message off some girl and instantly showed my gf "lol I got a message off pof look" I told her I wouldn't when she flipped out, even though we had gone through it before laughing at people's messages I know nothing about POF. But if you can't disable your profile, then remove all identifying information and contact information in your profile. I bet you can do that. She's right. You're wrong. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xcupid Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Just close your online dating account. Sheesh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GR4 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 You can delete POF as I've done it. I have no idea why you think it's acceptable to continue being active on a dating site. I don't buy your excuse of wanting to use it as a laugh and I'm sure your girlfriend doesn't either. If you are using it to laugh at the messages that single women are sending a guy they presume to also be single then that says a lot about you as a person. Here's an idea. Instead of laughing at people who are just trying to find happiness in life why don't you go out with your girlfriend and have some fun. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Robratory Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Me and her went through it all a while back and couldn't for the life of us find a disable profile button, I've just kept it as something I have a profile on but not used. I got a message off some girl and instantly showed my gf "lol I got a message off pof look" I told her I wouldn't when she flipped out, even though we had gone through it before laughing at people's messages Showing her doesn't make things better. What if she showed you texts she was getting from guys? You wouldn't like it. I think what happened is that, at first, she didn't think she could insist on total exclusivity, but a year and a half later? Yeah, dude, delete your POF account. Here's how: POF Help Center - Delete Your Profile 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Natalie8 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Using pof to laugh at women who message you. What a charmer you are. I use pof. Assuming that guys on it are single and genuine. It sucks to know that there are guys like you on it. To answer the question of who is wrong in your situation..YOU. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
soph-walker Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Using pof to laugh at women who message you. What a charmer you are. I use pof. Assuming that guys on it are single and genuine. It sucks to know that there are guys like you on it. To answer the question of who is wrong in your situation..YOU. I agree. It's not something you should be spending time on if you are in a relationship. Your girlfriend has probably acted like she's not particularly bothered and is able to laugh about it because she doesn't want to seem controlling - something which men accuse women of far too much if they raise an opinion. You wouldn't let women chat you up in a bar in real life, it's no different than being on a dating website and allowing women to message you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveflower Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 I clicked on an email link to see a message someone sent and showed my gf straight away. Who is in the wrong, me or her for saying she's gonna end us? you are a heartless person! not to your gf, but to the people who message you. they are people too. why are you playing and wasting other people's time ? how juvenile! you desperate that much for attention? when you no longer use it, delete it! that's very unethical. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveflower Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Using pof to laugh at women who message you. What a charmer you are. I use pof. Assuming that guys on it are single and genuine. It sucks to know that there are guys like you on it. To answer the question of who is wrong in your situation..YOU. oh, just saw your post...after I gave op some harsh words of similar nature. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 When in your profile click HELP on upper right Then on left side click "remove account" Then in center page pick "delete account" Answer questions - delete account Now you have no more excuses 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JGirl83 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 so I click on it and text my gf lol look I got a new message off some girl Whats lol about getting a message? Are you a teenager? So you have a gf and you get a kick out of going back to the dating site to make fun of people who havent been fortunate enough to find a partner? That is so smug,mean and sad. It is very easy to disable your account. But failing that you could update your profile telling people not to waste their time messaging you as you are in a rs. Or you could edit your settings to not to get email notifications. But then of course you wouldnt have the chance to feel all superior when a girl messages you lol. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Yookie Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 I think you should keep the profile. I predict you will need it in the not too distant future. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 I think you should keep the profile. I predict you will need it in the not too distant future. YOU WIN BEST COMMENT OF THE DAY!!!! LMFAO!!! I salute you:) Link to post Share on other sites
Zippy2000 Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 Lacking in any respect for your girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 Whats lol about getting a message? Are you a teenager? So you have a gf and you get a kick out of going back to the dating site to make fun of people who havent been fortunate enough to find a partner? That is so smug,mean and sad. It is very easy to disable your account. But failing that you could update your profile telling people not to waste their time messaging you as you are in a rs. Or you could edit your settings to not to get email notifications. But then of course you wouldnt have the chance to feel all superior when a girl messages you lol. This, a thousand times. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 Been with partner for half a year now, I used to use POF as a joke to chat to a few girls when single. I didn't bother disabling my account so I still get emails when people message me, my gf is aware I have a POF account still, we went through it laughing at people on it and some of the people on it and my profile. When I get emails off this site "you received a new message, click here to view message" so I click on it and text my gf lol look I got a new message off some girl and showed her. Now she's saying if I want to look at other girls and use dating sites , even though I repeatedly make it clear that I'm not using it to search anyone, not looking at other girls, not meeting anyone, not messaging anyone, not flirting with anyone ... I clicked on an email link to see a message someone sent and showed my gf straight away. Who is in the wrong, me or her for saying she's gonna end us? Maybe it's time to just delete the app now? I would also show my bf at the time the insane messages I got, this was maybe a month or so in dating. But after we'd been together for several months I simply deleted is as I wasn't looking for anyone and there are other forms of entertainment besides checking POF messages from people in whom you're not interested. Maybe initially she thought it was fine because you were just dating but maybe now she's confused about why you still have it and is starting to wonder if maybe you secretly search for people on there, even though sometimes you show her, she could be thinking, maybe he only shows me some but not all of what he's doing. Just delete it I say to avoid the drama. Link to post Share on other sites
mssweet Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 Been with partner for half a year now, I used to use POF as a joke to chat to a few girls when single. I didn't bother disabling my account so I still get emails when people message me, my gf is aware I have a POF account still, we went through it laughing at people on it and some of the people on it and my profile. When I get emails off this site "you received a new message, click here to view message" so I click on it and text my gf lol look I got a new message off some girl and showed her. Now she's saying if I want to look at other girls and use dating sites , even though I repeatedly make it clear that I'm not using it to search anyone, not looking at other girls, not meeting anyone, not messaging anyone, not flirting with anyone ... I clicked on an email link to see a message someone sent and showed my gf straight away. Who is in the wrong, me or her for saying she's gonna end us? You are in the wrong. I personally wouldn't even date someone that would troll girls on a dating site. Immature. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lilmissjava Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 I hope they never laughed at me Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 You cannot seriously be wondering who is in the wrong here. In case you haven't gotten it, it's you. No doubt about it. You keep your profile up so you can laugh at people? That makes you one of two things: A) a dishonest boyfriend who is not keeping his account active just to laugh at people and "make friends", but rather for attention from other women or B) a rude individual who takes pleasure in mocking people with honest intentions. Come on, now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted December 17, 2015 Share Posted December 17, 2015 You. (10 characters) How would YOU like it if your girlfriend kept an OLD account active? This question was easy. Time to shut your POF account down. Very much you in the wrong here. Jerk is absolutely right. Its also a real arsehole thing to do to go and laugh and joke at others who haven't found love yet. More so when that was you not so long ago. That said the joke will be on you shortly when you find you do need it again... Get over yourself and start treating others, your girlfriend and those random girls who have had the balls to start conversation with you, with a bit of respect. Link to post Share on other sites
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