Jay1821 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 My ex sent me this after a 7 yr break up and a month of NC what to make of this I've been holding off because I want to have my head straight before talking to you but we need to talk Jay. I have things I need to say to you.
carhill Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 So, you were together seven years, broke up recently and have been NC for a month? How do you feel right now? Do you feel contact would be healthy for you? Go with that. 1
Skullheart Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 It all depends, what did they say to you? Did they say that they wanted wanted you back or where they just beating around the bush?
Author Jay1821 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 Well I agreed to meet and talk against my better judgment So I'll give an update after the talk
carhill Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Good luck and remember everything is voluntary and today is a new day. The past is the past. I hope, in the milieu, you go with your better judgment. That's what will keep you healthy long term. Trust, love and believe in yourself.
dyna85 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Can I say how jealous I am? I've been almost 1 YEAR of no contact with no contact forthcoming, ever. I'd give anything to get but a crumb. Anything. I'm so jealous. 2
kxpxsc3 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Can I say how jealous I am? I've been almost 1 YEAR of no contact with no contact forthcoming, ever. I'd give anything to get but a crumb. Anything. I'm so jealous. Trust me, no point to be jealous. I got a breadcrumb in July that I replied to, and really it was him just seeing if I'm still 'on the hook.' He did not want to get back together. In fact, I didn't hear from him for FIVE months afterwards because he got the satisfaction he wanted. Last week he sent a breadcrumb and I deleted right away. But I was pissed about it for a good day. I think you'd find that breadcrumbs only keep you stuck when you need to keep it moving. Even if you got one, chances are high that it wouldn't lead to a reconciliation.
Author Jay1821 Posted December 17, 2015 Author Posted December 17, 2015 Well we met I told my ex I have nothing left to say and usually I'm the one to express my feelings and my ex keeps her emotions bottled up but this time she did all the talking an told me it was her fault and realized that she did give up towards the end but she said she really did deep thinking and said she did not want to give up on us she said she dint want to throw away 7 yrs and so on but moral of the story it went well and we are going to work it out 4
sandylee1 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Well we met I told my ex I have nothing left to say and usually I'm the one to express my feelings and my ex keeps her emotions bottled up but this time she did all the talking an told me it was her fault and realized that she did give up towards the end but she said she really did deep thinking and said she did not want to give up on us she said she dint want to throw away 7 yrs and so on but moral of the story it went well and we are going to work it out I hope it works out for you. 7 years is a long time..but I don't know how old you both are Is this going to be an eternal courtship...or cohabitation or have you guys ever discussed marriage?
Author Jay1821 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I'm 27 and my gf is 25 and we both have discussed marriage I think space in a relationship is the best thing to happen to a couple it will make or break the relationship
marky00 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Hmmm. A female dumper coming back.... well...... this is very very rare. Something is up here... it as to be. Is it that she is just lonely and would prefer the old relationship than having nothing? Maybe there was another guy on the horizon but he didn't work out? Something was up.... I'm sure of it. 1
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