Versacehottie Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 (edited) Nobody in this thread suspected it. Girls were like "yeah she might be insecure. Or girls like to take sexy pics of themselves". She hid it by lying and he was believing her. I definitely follow tons of girls who take pictures that would be considered provocative and yet are not escorts. However, not surprised at all by this or didn't not suspect it. A couple of us kept saying to answer OP's question, yes it was possible that she would take provocative pics as a stand alone thing. That he would need to do further introspection and inspection to find out how he wanted to proceed. World is not only black or white. I could send you 20 screen shots off my instagram feed this am that were provocative but not escorts. Bottom line, many of us pointed out that she didn't seem trustworthy and had murky intentions. If she is an escort, there were likely other clues as well not just the photos. Sorry OP is going through this. Edited December 31, 2015 by Versacehottie
No_Go Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 That's truly horrible OP. Can you just break up with other explanation, not disclosing your "findings"? Are you on a joined lease? I went through hell trying to break one of these with a conartist ex... She may employ strategies if you tell her the real reason. Just build a separate exit strategy, don't tell her you know who she is, IMO that's how you'd get free with the least damage. To be honest, I'm kinda scared and not sure how to approach the situation. I haven't said anything to her yet. I started snooping through her things and found condoms in her purse and in her closet and their numbers started reducing. I was able to look at her recent txt msgs and they were talking about her being "available" and that she has an "incall at 2pm." I looked up the number and it's for an escort agency. Then I snooped more and found pictures of her on an escorting site. I'm afraid because she's obviously a pathological liar or a sociopath and when I bring it up she may have a very negative reaction. She lives with me. This is not going to be easy. 1
Versacehottie Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 That's truly horrible OP. Can you just break up with other explanation, not disclosing your "findings"? Are you on a joined lease? I went through hell trying to break one of these with a conartist ex... She may employ strategies if you tell her the real reason. Just build a separate exit strategy, don't tell her you know who she is, IMO that's how you'd get free with the least damage. That's a good idea to consider to minimize drama.
No_Go Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I think you underestimate what a pathological liar/ sociopath can do... He needs to take his precautions in that situation, better safe than sorry You worry for nothing. She lied and manipulated you because you let her. She's an escort not a serial killer. Put her things outside the door and have your lock changed today. Call her and tell her it's over and she'll find her things outside the door. I am sure she has friends or clients that will take her in.
No_Go Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 ^^ Exactly the reason why I recommend OP to bring his finding for himself. My ex did the impossible to turn everything on me when I realized who he is and had the stupidity to tell him (he was a full blown conartist and costs me thousands of dollars to get rid of him) I think everyone suspected it. Girus, I'd be very careful how you handle this. Escorts have typically been around the block as far as human interaction goes so they know how to exploit ppl and situations. And they tend to be kinda reactionary. (Occupational hazard I assume.) If I were you I'd make this a clean, fast, complete break, document everything, and always have witnesses around. Srsly, some phony accusations and intimidation tactics could easily be in your future. e.g. "I'm not leaving and you're gonna keep supporting me ....or do you want the cops to know about that time you raped me?" Etc. I hope she doesn't have any kids ....
Gaeta Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 I think you underestimate what a pathological liar/ sociopath can do... He needs to take his precautions in that situation, better safe than sorry Isn't it putting her stuff outside and changing the locks a safe procedure. He can also ask her to be accompanied with authorities if she wants to come in and get the rest of her things.
jen1447 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Isn't it putting her stuff outside and changing the locks a safe procedure. He can also ask her to be accompanied with authorities if she wants to come in and get the rest of her things. She may have some legitimate claim to residency. A lot of times (in the US) all it takes is x number of days dwelling under a particular roof, not even property ownership or a rental/lease agreement, etc. 2
Gaeta Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 She may have some legitimate claim to residency. A lot of times (in the US) all it takes is x number of days dwelling under a particular roof, not even property ownership or a rental/lease agreement, etc. Maybe OP should have a visit to his local police office and get informed. I can't believe there are no exceptions. Surely a woman can kick out a man she is afraid of or has hit her.
No_Go Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Sure, but it can provoke a lot of drama. She's ok lying, so she may start with false claims about rape, assault, pregnancy, and what not. Not that he'll suffer from any consequences, but it is unnecessary stress IMO. Isn't it putting her stuff outside and changing the locks a safe procedure. He can also ask her to be accompanied with authorities if she wants to come in and get the rest of her things.
jen1447 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Maybe OP should have a visit to his local police office and get informed. I can't believe there are no exceptions. Surely a woman can kick out a man she is afraid of or has hit her. Not necessarily. A guy could go to jail for actually hitting her and/or be separated from her, but just having a fear doesn't satisfy the legal requirement to eject somebody from their residence, and certainly not in cases where they happen to be the property owners. You'd be surprised how bad that can go for ppl who presume to do it unlawfully - forex you kick someone out, they call the cops, and you end up being the one who gets in trouble for 'unlawful displacement' or sth like that.
NopeNah Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Not necessarily. A guy could go to jail for actually hitting her and/or be separated from her, but just having a fear doesn't satisfy the legal requirement to eject somebody from their residence, and certainly not in cases where they happen to be the property owners. You'd be surprised how bad that can go for ppl who presume to do it unlawfully - forex you kick someone out, they call the cops, and you end up being the one who gets in trouble for 'unlawful displacement' or sth like that. This is true. When I left my ex I was living with her and could have easily stayed for 30+ more days,legally. Of course I wanted out asap,so I left in one night and came with friends to collect my larger items two days later.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Sadly there are married women that do this under the guise of being cosplay models. Oddly enough, they don't have their wedding rings on their fingers, but...tend to keep their husband to the way side or out of view. Usually the point of flaunting to the point where its sexual is almost the sign of the demise of the marriage as well because obviously the husband just doesn't "do it" for her anymore.
RightThere Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 It's my place and she has so much **** here. Like an entire truck full. I'm gonna at least record everything. I want her to take a pregnancy test first before I bring it up. Otherwise if she's pregnant she could use it against me. Then rent a truck and pack up her stuff while she's at "work". You need to get out of that situation ASAP because you know she's going to go full-psycho when you break up with her. Even contact the police so they can be present when you get her out of there.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 My question is, IS this behavior OK? Am I being too controlling if I tell her not to post these kind of pics? And where do I draw the line? It's up to YOU if it's okay with YOU or not. But you can't tell her what to do or not do. You can tell her how you feel about it and if it's not acceptable to you. Then you can see what she chooses to do and make your decision based on that.
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