katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I am asking again. OP how old are you? Personally I don't care about her porny pictures and what she may and may not do in private. I am bothered by what she does in public. A FB profile picture in panties? Exactly what your mother wants to see and your 14 yo nephew. Trashy, just trashy. That woman will be sitting at xmas dinner table. Worthy of a Chevy Chase movie. She'll probably update her profile picture during dinner too. Agree .... and again I am asking .... can anyone explain how she would receive di*k pics if she isn't sending out pics first? Anyone? I'm open!
Gaeta Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Agree .... and again I am asking .... can anyone explain how she would receive di*k pics if she isn't sending out pics first? Anyone? I'm open! I got di*k pictures a couple of times and they were unwanted and without me provoking anything. That happens often during online dating. My take on it is: she would not be getting di*k pictures from long time friends. Those pictures she is receiving are from new contacts. Men she gave her number recently or men she kept in touch with from before dating OP. 3
clia Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Agree .... and again I am asking .... can anyone explain how she would receive di*k pics if she isn't sending out pics first? Anyone? I'm open! If she's posting pics like that on Facebook or other social media and has a public profile, I could imagine a scenario where a strange guy might see that and send her a d*** pic, thinking she is open to it and it might get him somewhere. 2
introverted1 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 If the jury is still *out* ....they shouldn't be. I hate to keep harping on this ...but Versacehottie, would you or someone please explain how a woman receives pics of random guys' di*ks in her email or phone ...if she is not sending photos of herself to them first? If someone can offer a plausible explanation for this .....I would be willing to open my mind and give her benefit of doubt...I promise! As of right now though ...common sense dictates there *is* no doubt......she is sending men these pics, and they, in return, are sending her pics of their di*ks. There is no other reason explaining why she would be receiving them. She could be getting them through FB messages. Also, there is a place on FB where you can enter contact information -- phone, email, etc. Most of us don't do so but maybe this woman does. And since she has her profile open to the public, then anyone (including prospective employers and the like) can see her pics and access her contact information.
pteromom Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Perhaps he feels uncomfortable because she was so evasive and dismissive when he attempted to discuss it. Becoming defensive and then changing the subject. Her reaction speaks volumes here, and it would be a huge mistake to ignore that.... If she had nothing to hide and it was all innocent....she would have happily explained that she took them for herself and to feel beautiful... she certainly would NOT have gotten defensive saying "do I need a reason"? Then changing the subject. Come on now.... It's embarrassing! She took these photos for herself (assuming she is telling the truth, which I will assume unless OP shares more evidence to the contrary) and didn't expect him to come across them. So she felt vulnerable and open to criticism and accusations. I bet that if he goes back a 2nd time to discuss it, with a very accepting non-judgmental approach, that he will get more info.
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I got a question OP. Aren't you embarassed that you 33YO girlfriend acts like a 14 yo in heat? Surely she is your friend on FB which means your family, friends and colleagues see this. How old are you? What is your dating goal ? No actually, I'm not embarassed that she acts like a 14 yo in heat. As a matter of fact, women are in their sexual prime in their 30's while men are in their early 20's. I have a high sex drive, and she's keeping me pretty satisfied. But yeah the facebook thing kinda bothers me. We actually spoke yesterday about that. She's going to be going to school next month taking Law, and I said, if you're applying for a job, they look at your facebook.. and just because you're OK with who you are, it doesn't mean that your employers will be. Her response was that she wants to get rid of facebook anyway. I responded by rolling my eyes. I'm 33 as well. My dating goal is to be happy. That's about it. And besides a bit of distrust and scepticism, it's pretty much perfect.
VeveCakes Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Trust is probably the most important thing in a relationship. I wouldn't say that's even close to perfect.
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 Let's clear up the FB thing .... OP said, specifically, that she frequently posts selfies on FB and updates her profile picture a lot. When asked, he said she's posted "some" more risque shots on FB, and that the one he showed us of her in panties (which is gone now I think) was the first butt pic she'd put on there and the most graphic that she has on her profile. And it was recently posted. FB has policies about posting nudes and whatnot, so clearly she isn't posting anything terribly graphic on her FB, such as the pussy pics OP mentioned and seems more concerned about. So between what OP told us and what we know about FB's policies, this is a sound conclusion -> nothing terribly egregious on FB, little to no known history of it, and what is there isn't what he's worried about anyway. What OP's wondering about is more graphic photos she could be sending secretly to other ppl or possibly posting to a blog that doesn't have any nudity preventions. That's what we don't know and don't have any evidence to base conclusions on, aside from the testimony here from a few ppl that they do indeed take photos and not share them w/anyone, despite others' insistence that never happens. Ironically that supports the notion that he shouldn't worry, tho it's far from a guarantee she's not doing anything shady behind his back. But again, he asked if it's possible she's legit, and the answer is yes. Sorry I've been away for a couple days and trying to catch up lol. Thank you for this response. You write and explain things really well! But yes, it's hardly a reason to end a relationship based purely on speculation. How would I even go about explaining that? I also find it hard to believe that people still don't understand how someone could send you an unwarranted dick pic and how without giving out your number? Facebook... Facebook.. and Facebook! That's how. She didn't say that she's OK with it, but that she does get them. Hopefully she blocks and deletes every single one of them. You COULD say, no WONDER she's getting all these dick pics and men drooling over her when she's posting these kinds of pictures.. but at the same time isn't that how people blame women that get raped? "Well it's your fault for getting raped, you're the one that decided to wear the short skirt" I still don't know in my own mind what is acceptable or isn't. I'm still conflicted with myself.
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 Trust is probably the most important thing in a relationship. I wouldn't say that's even close to perfect. Well yeah.. so besides this BIG problem I have with trust, it's perfect. lol 1
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 But hey guys I have an interesting development that might be relevant. I found this out today and haven't spoken to her yet but will definitely need to call her out on it... So basically, I mentioned how she does have a blog. Well sometimes she posts these drawings that she claims are "fan art" and people send her pics they draw of her. Well I decided to put one of these pics through the google images engine, and found out that they actually belong to someone else and it seems that she's been taking other ppls pics and claiming "fans" are sending them to her, when in fact, she's just making that up. That's some pretty serious **** in my opinion. I fully expect her to make up some bull**** story or maybe even flip out after I call her out....
Gaeta Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 No actually, I'm not embarassed that she acts like a 14 yo in heat. As a matter of fact, women are in their sexual prime in their 30's while men are in their early 20's. I have a high sex drive, and she's keeping me pretty satisfied. But yeah the facebook thing kinda bothers me. We actually spoke yesterday about that. She's going to be going to school next month taking Law, and I said, if you're applying for a job, they look at your facebook.. and just because you're OK with who you are, it doesn't mean that your employers will be. Her response was that she wants to get rid of facebook anyway. I responded by rolling my eyes. I'm 33 as well. My dating goal is to be happy. That's about it. And besides a bit of distrust and scepticism, it's pretty much perfect. My question meant aren't you embarrassed she is acting like a 14 yo in heat IN PUBLIC social media !! I don't care how hot she is in the intimacy of her home (or yours). I am talking about what image she sends out there to all of your family, friends and colleagues when she shows herself in panties on FB. AT 33. For your information women reach their sexual peak at 45. Sure you want a slvty woman - what men doesn't, but there is something we call 'respect for yourself and for your mate' and she doesn't have that respect for herself or for you when she exhibit herself IN PUBLIC like she does. 1
introverted1 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 You COULD say, no WONDER she's getting all these dick pics and men drooling over her when she's posting these kinds of pictures.. but at the same time isn't that how people blame women that get raped? "Well it's your fault for getting raped, you're the one that decided to wear the short skirt" This is a really terrible analogy. First off, I don't know many people who leave their FB profiles set to "public." As has been mentioned in this thread, most employers will google you and check your social network presence. Unless she is planning to work in the adult entertainment business (didn't you mention a law course?), her pics are going to keep her from respectable employment. Second, what your gf is doing is designed to attract and entice attention, otherwise she wouldn't be doing it. If the pics were just for herself, they wouldn't be on FB. They are there because she wants an audience. And if she was bothered by random d!ck pics, then she would remove her contact information from her FB profile (and change her settings to private). I still don't know in my own mind what is acceptable or isn't. I'm still conflicted with myself. Really? You dont know what's acceptable? Or is it that you realise what she is but you are enjoying the sex so you'd rather look the other way?
katiegrl Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 (edited) But hey guys I have an interesting development that might be relevant. I found this out today and haven't spoken to her yet but will definitely need to call her out on it... So basically, I mentioned how she does have a blog. Well sometimes she posts these drawings that she claims are "fan art" and people send her pics they draw of her. Well I decided to put one of these pics through the google images engine, and found out that they actually belong to someone else and it seems that she's been taking other ppls pics and claiming "fans" are sending them to her, when in fact, she's just making that up. That's some pretty serious **** in my opinion. I fully expect her to make up some bull**** story or maybe even flip out after I call her out.... That might be relevant? ---------------------- >> I fully expect her to make up some bull**** story or maybe even flip out after I call her out. Finally, something we can agree on! Edited December 18, 2015 by katiegrl 1
jen1447 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 So basically, I mentioned how she does have a blog. Well sometimes she posts these drawings that she claims are "fan art" and people send her pics they draw of her. Well I decided to put one of these pics through the google images engine, and found out that they actually belong to someone else and it seems that she's been taking other ppls pics and claiming "fans" are sending them to her, when in fact, she's just making that up. I don't understand ....she's stealing fan art drawings of her from other ppl?
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I don't understand ....she's stealing fan art drawings of her from other ppl? No it's no it's not actually her at all. Some are paintings, some are drawings.. she's saying that people are drawing these pictures for her and sending them to her but nobody is and it's not her. I'll post some examples...
Author GirusX Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 (edited) This is all "fan art" she said people made for her. I know it's not true, because she posts other pictures on facebook which she doesn't claim as "fan art", but is by one of the same artists. And come on, what are the chances that a bunch of different people are all sending her plagiarized fan art? Edited December 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed personal idendifying URLs
VeveCakes Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 No it's no it's not actually her at all. Some are paintings, some are drawings.. she's saying that people are drawing these pictures for her and sending them to her but nobody is and it's not her. I'll post some examples... Girus, You seem like a good guy. I feel like you might be one of those people who stay with a chick because she is attractive. You need to want more for yourself hun. This is actually a deeper issue if she is doing this. Constant need of validation.
jen1447 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 No it's no it's not actually her at all. Some are paintings, some are drawings.. she's saying that people are drawing these pictures for her and sending them to her but nobody is and it's not her. I'll post some examples... This is all "fan art" she said people made for her. I know it's not true, because she posts other pictures on facebook which she doesn't claim as "fan art", but is by one of the same artists. And come on, what are the chances that a bunch of different people are all sending her plagiarized fan art? If that's so (I'll leave that determination up to you), it's getting into delusion territory, which is a very diff situation from worrying about her running some side game. I'd be careful w/how you approach it bc ppl who have complex imaginary structures built up around them can react very badly to seeing them attacked. Does her blog have many followers?
Gaeta Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 (edited) This is all "fan art" she said people made for her. I know it's not true, because she posts other pictures on facebook which she doesn't claim as "fan art", but is by one of the same artists. And come on, what are the chances that a bunch of different people are all sending her plagiarized fan art? I am speechless. You have a girlfriend who's getting fan art. And that fan art are drawings of her half naked. And you were OK with that because it is ART? Then you learn those are not fan art but stolen drawings from online. WHY are you shocked she stole them when you should be shocked in the first place for her to expose her body is such a way she is getting fan art?? I think you are BOTH 14 yo. Edited December 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Versacehottie Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 No it's no it's not actually her at all. Some are paintings, some are drawings.. she's saying that people are drawing these pictures for her and sending them to her but nobody is and it's not her. I'll post some examples... Pure and desperate attention seeking. She is seeking to make herself relevant publicly, which is why she will steal other people's fan art. The fact that she has no idea of what her next career move is yet is further evidence of how desperate she is. Idk, living where I live, you see this type of behavior from people all the time. Just so I'm clear I'm not endorsing it. This thread started out about "do people take photos for themselves?" and possible motives. Yes. OP didn't really ask about the morality of it. OP needs to decide if he finds her truthful and how he feels about her reasons/actions. Personally, OP you don't know her very well, stealing the people's fan art and claiming it was done as her would tell me all I need to know, she can't be trusted.
mortensorchid Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I am just one of those safer gals, as it seems, but there is a defining connection about a person who takes a lot of selfies of themselves (provocative or not) and being full of themselves. I keep it at a minimum myself, both because of above reason and also knowing that it could be shared with someone else by accident or intention. Someone who does that is meaning for it to be shared, either with one other person or the world. Don't be nieve, guy, she intends for someone to see them whether they are for her eyes or someone else's. And if that someone else doesn't seem to be you ... Wake up.
Author GirusX Posted December 31, 2015 Author Posted December 31, 2015 Hey everyone, So I have an update. I found out she's an escort... She's been cheating on me the whole time.
bathtub-row Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Hey everyone, So I have an update. I found out she's an escort... She's been cheating on me the whole time. OMG!!! Are you kidding?? I'm SO sorry. How did you find out?
oregon0011 Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Hey everyone, So I have an update. I found out she's an escort... She's been cheating on me the whole time. I started a thread on this. Amazing how common this is and how well girls hide it.
Gaeta Posted December 31, 2015 Posted December 31, 2015 Hey everyone, So I have an update. I found out she's an escort... She's been cheating on me the whole time. What's the lesson learn here? When it crawls like a snake - whistles like a snake - looks like a snake - chances are IT IS a snake !!! Sorry for not being all mushy with you but her behavior was like this huge elephant sitting on your lap that you refused to acknowledge. 4
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