Space Ritual Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Sorry but she's out of her mind. At 33???? And I call my BF immature but that is ... Out of this world. Is she employed?? I can imagine the reaction an employer / future employer checking her social network pages ... And if her affinity is towards modeling, photography or adult industry - based on the pic she needs a loooot of effort to meet standards. Sorry for being judgemental, just doesn't click in my mind how someone at 33 can think of spending time collecting "likes" on FB, even if I close my eyes for the nudity... You'd be surprised at the age of the fools posting this stuff on FB and Instagram. Some people will do anything for attention even if they look like they shop for Clothes at a Zeppelin Hangar.... I mean I'm in my fifties and in fairly good shape for my age, but I sure as hell am not floating pics of bullet holes in my side.That's impressing no one unless someone is turned on by a couple of slugs and a huge Kidney removal scar that was the result of me getting shot when I was a younger man. lol. Some people just need the attention to feel validated. I think if there is a good way of putting it about how people are constantly seeking attention on Social Media I'd have to say the comedian Anthony Jeselnik is pretty spot in with the routine he does called "Thoughts and Prayers". It's worth a look on Youtube for a good laugh.
katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 You'd be surprised at the age of the fools posting this stuff on FB and Instagram. Some people will do anything for attention even if they look like they shop for Clothes at a Zeppelin Hangar.... I mean I'm in my fifties and in fairly good shape for my age, but I sure as hell am not floating pics of bullet holes in my side.That's impressing no one unless someone is turned on by a couple of slugs and a huge Kidney removal scar that was the result of me getting shot when I was a younger man. lol. Some people just need the attention to feel validated. I think if there is a good way of putting it about how people are constantly seeking attention on Social Media I'd have to say the comedian Anthony Jeselnik is pretty spot in with the routine he does called "Thoughts and Prayers". It's worth a look on Youtube for a good laugh. Yeah I used to work with a lady (age 54!) who used to be overweight but then lost 50 pounds....after which she became a full blown exhibitionist. Had a dating profile up on Match.com and even those photos were provocative. But then she started sending selfies of her va-jay-jay and ass (full ass, crack and all, sorry if that is TMI) to these random guys.... and they would, in turn send her pics of their erect penis. She would share with me....frankly I just found it all to be quite gross..... certainly not my style anyway. But to each his own... But OP, I think you would be foolish to ignore this a possibility, especially given her reaction when you simply asked her about it.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 She's an attention whore. Plain and simple. Make up all the excuses you want. NO ONE posts a picture like that on Facebook without looking for validation, and believe me she WILL and DOES get it. That pic says, "Please F**K me hard". That's it and that's all. And if that's what she needs to feel good about herself at her age, it's kinda sad. But you're delusional if you think you OR her are the only ones seeing these pics. 7
No_Go Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Oh at least a couple of scares are something unique. Having a butt and some colorful underwear... Not really. So in that context, OP's GF does not seem to be cheating on him... She's just obsessed with herself to the point of losing ground (and eventually her BF, career etc) You'd be surprised at the age of the fools posting this stuff on FB and Instagram. Some people will do anything for attention even if they look like they shop for Clothes at a Zeppelin Hangar.... I mean I'm in my fifties and in fairly good shape for my age, but I sure as hell am not floating pics of bullet holes in my side.That's impressing no one unless someone is turned on by a couple of slugs and a huge Kidney removal scar that was the result of me getting shot when I was a younger man. lol. Some people just need the attention to feel validated. I think if there is a good way of putting it about how people are constantly seeking attention on Social Media I'd have to say the comedian Anthony Jeselnik is pretty spot in with the routine he does called "Thoughts and Prayers". It's worth a look on Youtube for a good laugh.
No_Go Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Wow.. At 54, she breaks records, and not in a good way... But in her defense, at least sending her pics to people she's dating / profile on dating site is more anonymous than FB or Instagram (I'd think but who knows...). Yeah I used to work with a lady (age 54!) who used to be overweight but then lost 50 pounds....after which she became a full blown exhibitionist. Had a dating profile up on Match.com and even those photos were provocative. But then she started sending selfies of her va-jay-jay and ass (full ass, crack and all, sorry if that is TMI) to these random guys.... and they would, in turn send her pics of their erect penis. She would share with me....frankly I just found it all to be quite gross..... certainly not my style anyway. But to each his own... But OP, I think you would be foolish to ignore this a possibility, especially given her reaction when you simply asked her about it.
katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Oh at least a couple of scares are something unique. Having a butt and some colorful underwear... Not really. So in that context, OP's GF does not seem to be cheating on him... She's just obsessed with herself to the point of losing ground (and eventually her BF, career etc) If she is not sending them to anyone (men)..how is it she is receiving photos of various men's di*ks? I don't receive pics of random men's di*ks, do you? That combined with her reaction when he asked...good god it is so obvious what she's doing! 1
MovingOnIsHard Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 If she is not sending them to anyone (men)..how is it she is receiving photos of various men's di*ks? I don't receive pics of random men's di*ks, do you? That combined with her reaction when he asked...good god it is so obvious what she's doing! Exactly! The kind of pics she posts invites D pics, that is, if she is not already soliciting for D pics.
lino Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Keep screwing this girl if you like but end the 'girlfriend' part of it, unless you enjoy learning things the hard way. 2
Mauve Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 (edited) Please dump her. Edited December 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Mauve Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Look, it's honestly not right what she's doing. Even if she was single I would have something to say about this. The point is, you are in a relationship with her, those kinda pictures should be for your eyes only, I really don't understand why she's posting them on facebook. As for getting dick pictures, I can see why if shes posting pictures like that but it doesn't necessarily mean she's sending them back but she might aswell be if she's posting them on facebook. Does she have family on facebook?!?! In my opinion, you need to have a proper talk to her about the fact you don't approve of this, and frankly not many people do. If you want even show her this thread of people agreeing that it's abnormal and unfaithful in it's own way but I can understand people not agreeing with me at all that showing her this would help. But to be honest, what have you got to lose?
bathtub-row Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 No girl just takes provocative pics of herself for "nobody." They're being sent to another guy or guys. Trust me. Don't be so naive. Oh and run. Not true. I used to take photos like that of myself because I knew that I wouldn't be young forever and I wanted keepsakes of what I looked like. They were strictly for me. No one else has ever seen those pics. OP, moving in together after two months? That's generally a very bad idea. In the future, I wouldn't rush a relationship in such a way. 1
bathtub-row Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Does the level of provocativeness even matter tho? We were out having dinner a couple weeks ago and she was saying how creeps keep sending her dick pics, so I said nobody ever sends me pussy pics. So she's like "really? I'll send u one!". Only one she's ever sent me. It was just a picture of her pussy being held open by her fingers and it was edited and covered in hearts. Now the thing that threw me off about that was the fake nails she had on were the ones she got like a month after we started dating. So first thing that came to mind was, who did she take this picture for kuz I only saw it like 3 months later and she prolly wouldn't have even sent it if I didn't say anything. Is it possible that she's just really sexual and loves taking naked and sexy pictures of herself for her own pleasure. Do ppl ever take pics like that without any intention to send it to ppl? Ok. No, I never took photos of myself like that. I have to agree with the others that this girl is sending those pics to one or more people.
Art_Critic Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 They were strictly for me. No one else has ever seen those pics. exactly...she hasn't kept them for herself though... I think the chances are higher than not that she is sending them to other guys, if not.. she certainly is taking them to send to other guys, maybe when she is single..creating a stash of pics to send to guys for the future.
introverted1 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Back in my uber gym rat days, I would take progress pics and some were provocative, but none ever left my laptop. The things that stand out to me about your gf are: She's posting these pics to social media that has no privacy settings, basically inviting the world to lookShe just happened to have an edited shot of her vagina on hand She seemingly doesn't mind receiving random d!ck pics from guys She's 33 -- long past the time where the phrase "youthful indiscretion" can reasonably applyShe's evasive when asked about this stuff Is this the sort of quality woman you want to live with? Have a future with? 3
No_Go Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Hah, missed the d*ck pics part... hopefully she referred to pics that she received unsolicited (eg from OLD or sth) before they started dating... Else it is super awkward... I can't imagine a stranger sharing his privates with me just because. However, why would she even mention this info if she was planning to cheat with the d!ck pic guys? If she is not sending them to anyone (men)..how is it she is receiving photos of various men's di*ks? I don't receive pics of random men's di*ks, do you? That combined with her reaction when he asked...good god it is so obvious what she's doing!
jen1447 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 The fact is, any 'conclusions' we draw that OP's GF is doing x-y-z are speculation and not evidence-based, so not really legit conclusions at all. We can argue all day what the likelihood is that she's doing bad things, but what OP asked originally is "is it possible she's taking pics for herself," and the answer to that is clearly yes, as has been attested to be the ppl who've actually done it. Because deductive reasoning. 3
VeveCakes Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 but not really because she is posting them on FB - so they arent for herself. 2
Versacehottie Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 but not really because she is posting them on FB - so they arent for herself. while I don't agree with her doing it necessarily and jury is still out on whether she is sending them to guys directly or crossing the lines with responses she's gets back on FB, I do think that even posting them on FB, as twisted as it sounds, IS for herself. It's for validation, which is technically for "herself" even if she reaches out to the public to get it. It's easy to find tons of that on instagram for example--and yes plenty of people in her age range doing it. While I'm not saying she should be doing it, the real models and insta-celebs who are posting stuff like that make it seems like it's ok. Then you will see people like this one trying to jump into the fray with their amateur-ness. She may be delusional about her beauty or modeling skills and judgement is off by how provocative is ok but I could screen shot at least 100 similar in a very short amount of time to prove my point. I'm not saying it's ok and that it's not the only thing going on with OP's gf but maybe she is just overly optimistic about herself and does things in poor taste for personal attention and validation for herself. She wouldn't be the first or the last. I think OP just needs to decide if it's ok with him if that's "all" it is. BTW, i kinda think it isn't "all" it is but that's besides the point. Tons of people calling themselves "models" on instagram. It's laughable really. But hey it HAS worked out for some people purely through social media getting a following that has turned into something. It's definitely in line with the narcissist label. And oldest trick in media publishing, remove some clothes--just this am Selena Gomez came across my feed similarly. If she wasn't famous we could be saying the same thing about her really. That's what these women like OP's gf do, they roll the dice. And they are encouraged by the the people who would comment to photos like that (typically guys inappropriately), which furthers the behavior.
VeveCakes Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 For yourself is for yourself - your eyes only. For validation? Sure, but for other eyes is what I meant. Instagram models - I don't care who they are celebrity or not it's ridiculous, and these women and men are going to have a very hard time getting validation when they are old and no longer attractive to that type of crowd. Back to the thread, I don't know how anyone could be comfortable with a partner who exposes themselves to the public like that purely for attention.
katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 (edited) If the jury is still *out* ....they shouldn't be. I hate to keep harping on this ...but Versacehottie, would you or someone please explain how a woman receives pics of random guys' di*ks in her email or phone ...if she is not sending photos of herself to them first? If someone can offer a plausible explanation for this .....I would be willing to open my mind and give her benefit of doubt...I promise! As of right now though ...common sense dictates there *is* no doubt......she is sending men these pics, and they, in return, are sending her pics of their di*ks. There is no other reason explaining why she would be receiving them. Edited December 17, 2015 by katiegrl
jen1447 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 but not really because she is posting them on FB - so they arent for herself. Let's clear up the FB thing .... OP said, specifically, that she frequently posts selfies on FB and updates her profile picture a lot. When asked, he said she's posted "some" more risque shots on FB, and that the one he showed us of her in panties (which is gone now I think) was the first butt pic she'd put on there and the most graphic that she has on her profile. And it was recently posted. FB has policies about posting nudes and whatnot, so clearly she isn't posting anything terribly graphic on her FB, such as the pussy pics OP mentioned and seems more concerned about. So between what OP told us and what we know about FB's policies, this is a sound conclusion -> nothing terribly egregious on FB, little to no known history of it, and what is there isn't what he's worried about anyway. What OP's wondering about is more graphic photos she could be sending secretly to other ppl or possibly posting to a blog that doesn't have any nudity preventions. That's what we don't know and don't have any evidence to base conclusions on, aside from the testimony here from a few ppl that they do indeed take photos and not share them w/anyone, despite others' insistence that never happens. Ironically that supports the notion that he shouldn't worry, tho it's far from a guarantee she's not doing anything shady behind his back. But again, he asked if it's possible she's legit, and the answer is yes. 1
katiegrl Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Back in my uber gym rat days, I would take progress pics and some were provocative, but none ever left my laptop. The things that stand out to me about your gf are: She's posting these pics to social media that has no privacy settings, basically inviting the world to lookShe just happened to have an edited shot of her vagina on hand She seemingly doesn't mind receiving random d!ck pics from guys She's 33 -- long past the time where the phrase "youthful indiscretion" can reasonably applyShe's evasive when asked about this stuff Is this the sort of quality woman you want to live with? Have a future with? Hate to say it .....but if a woman is hot enough, and/or the sex is hot enough and/or if he is *pus*y-whipped* enough....I don't think some guys give a crap if she is a *quality* woman or not. 2
Diezel Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Let's clear up the FB thing .... OP said, specifically, that she frequently posts selfies on FB and updates her profile picture a lot. When asked, he said she's posted "some" more risque shots on FB, and that the one he showed us of her in panties (which is gone now I think) was the first butt pic she'd put on there and the most graphic that she has on her profile. And it was recently posted. FB has policies about posting nudes and whatnot, so clearly she isn't posting anything terribly graphic on her FB, such as the pussy pics OP mentioned and seems more concerned about. So between what OP told us and what we know about FB's policies, this is a sound conclusion -> nothing terribly egregious on FB, little to no known history of it, and what is there isn't what he's worried about anyway. What OP's wondering about is more graphic photos she could be sending secretly to other ppl or possibly posting to a blog that doesn't have any nudity preventions. That's what we don't know and don't have any evidence to base conclusions on, aside from the testimony here from a few ppl that they do indeed take photos and not share them w/anyone, despite others' insistence that never happens. Ironically that supports the notion that he shouldn't worry, tho it's far from a guarantee she's not doing anything shady behind his back. But again, he asked if it's possible she's legit, and the answer is yes. A whole essay justifying something I'd never tolerate and over something that's easily dealt with. Are you the kind of guy who wants a girl posting on FB a picture like that? If no, breakup. If yes, deal with it. Donezo. 3
jen1447 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 A whole essay justifying something I'd never tolerate and over something that's easily dealt with. Are you the kind of guy who wants a girl posting on FB a picture like that? If no, breakup. If yes, deal with it. Donezo. You seem to be reading into things emotionally if you assert I'm "justifying" anything. I'm simply explaining facts and taking no sides, which is what any disinterested third party should do for something like this. If you wouldn't tolerate OP's GF's behavior that's fine. OP didn't ask if he should tolerate it (or if you would), he asked if it was potentially legit. 2
Gaeta Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 I am asking again. OP how old are you? Personally I don't care about her porny pictures and what she may and may not do in private. I am bothered by what she does in public. A FB profile picture in panties? Exactly what your mother wants to see and your 14 yo nephew. Trashy, just trashy. That woman will be sitting at xmas dinner table. Worthy of a Chevy Chase movie. She'll probably update her profile picture during dinner too. 4
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