smackie9 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Most women don't just randomly receive d*ck pics from random men. She is sexting these guys. This^^^^ 100% Dude take off the blinders.....how the hell could you even know enough about someone only after two months of dating. I agree.... run! Her behavior is so wrong on so many levels. I need to say this.....stop letting the little head do all the decision making for the big head. 4
Versacehottie Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Here's my take, I know several girls who take constant photos of themselves, yes even provocative. That mainly has to do with the narcissism and wanting to see what they look like in a photo. It's all over instagram and those are the accounts a lot of people follow (bloggers, models, fitness girls, party girls) so sure she is influenced or prepping for that. I was GOING to say you were fine however when you said the thing about a month old pic with new manicure and the fact that she gets "unsolicited" d*ck pics, I call bullsh*t. Something's not adding up. Couple that with the fact that she moved in after 2 months and something's definitely off. Hopefully you sort this out. Good luck 1
Versacehottie Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Provocative shots is one thing. This girl is taking full blown pu$$$$y and a$$$$ shots. Even if it was provocative shots, it's still bad. yeah precisely what i said.
katiegrl Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Provocative shots is one thing. This girl is taking full blown pu$$$$y and a$$$$ shots. Even if it was provocative shots, it's still bad. Perhaps she has dreams of becoming a porn star ....and is putting together a portfolio to present to porn producers. Gotta start somewhere. 1
SwordofFlame Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 OP you need to ask yourself, is the sex so good that you'll accept this kind of behavior?
VeveCakes Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 33!??? She is sending these to people, probably loads of guys. No one randomly gets dick pics without giving out their number. She needs therapy, that isn't healthy to spend that much time taking pics of herself.
lolablue17 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) Taking a selfie (provocative or not) is the first half of the action. The second part is to share them. Photos are made only to share. Yes, sometimes you keep it to yourself - the ugly ones. Have you thought of asking her, to whom does she send them? Edited December 16, 2015 by lolablue17 1
Mauve Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 No girl just takes provocative pics of herself for "nobody." They're being sent to another guy or guys. Trust me. Don't be so naive. Oh and run. I am a girl. I have taken provocative pics of myself for nobody. OP, don't jump to the worst conclusions. Although yes she looks guilty, she might just be very into how her body looks and wants to take photographs of it. I know when my body was looking it's best I took a lot of provocative pics as almost like an 'inspiration' for if I were ever to gain weight. It can genuinely be for nobody. Although when my boyfriend asked me who they were for, I just explained that they were for myself and that I liked to look back on them if I ever felt bad about myself, not knowing my boyfriend would actually want them - so now I send them to him. I think the fact she changed the subject is fishy, but taking photos for nobody? It's heard of.
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 I take that she's posting them Facebook and such? Some of them. A couple days ago she posted the first ass + face pic on facebook.
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 I didn't think Facebook allowed pics like that? So these guys who are sending her pictures of their bits are clearly in private messaging with her. I'm no expert but I don't think too many guys would just randomly send a woman d*** pics without some kind of provocation or request. And whoever these guys are she's given them the OK to be on her contact list for whichever social media site she's using so they aren't just random dudes. My guess is, she's replying to some of these pics with her own little snaps that she's been taking, because we've already established they aren't for you. If she's "very sexual" maybe a part of that is sharing and viewing intimate pictures with others. And it's kind of cold of her to send you a picture of her vagina that she took before you were even together (clearly it was for somebody else) she takes pics all day long of her body in various poses and she couldn't have even made the effort to make one exclusively for you? Moving in after 2 months.. Together for 5.. Really is no amount of time to truly know somebody. She's one to keep your eye on for sure. Well her Facebook profile is public, so anyone can see it and she pretty much accepts any friend request I think. I mean I've taken pictures of myself before and saved them and reused them for other girls. But like I said, this pic was obviously taken while we were dating.. but she did not send it to me till months later when she felt bad for me?
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 OP you need to ask yourself, is the sex so good that you'll accept this kind of behavior? My question is, IS this behavior OK? Am I being too controlling if I tell her not to post these kind of pics? And where do I draw the line?
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 Yes it is well documented. Low self-esteem, among other things. Which is also precisely why she sends the pics to random guys ...to seek validation from "them". OP, she already knows YOU would validate her ...you are her boyfriend. But when she sends to random guys, and they validate how hot and sexy she is...it is a huge ego boost for her and she gets the validation. I would try to nip this, as often times, it may escalate to actually meeting these guys in person as well....if she becomes intrigued enough. Very very sad indeed. Yeah that's kind of what I'm afraid of. I mean besides this we have an amazing relationship, and theoretically she would have no reason to cheat on me unless her feelings for validation are so strong that she can cheat on me and still feel OK with it because she's fulfilling her needs.
TheCatInTheHat Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 My question is, IS this behavior OK? Am I being too controlling if I tell her not to post these kind of pics? And where do I draw the line? No of course it isn't ok. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life? I would not be in a relationship with a person that did this unless it was a mental illness and they would be getting help for it. Asking her to stop doesn't change who she is. Sorry dude.
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 So I'm getting a equal consensus here.. the only thing I'm worried about is seeming controlling.. Where do I draw the line exactly and how do I confront her on the subject? What should I say?
Diezel Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 So my gf is a little bit narcissistic. Everything in this thread seems to point that she IS narcissistic. I'd run. If this is your relationship this early in... this is NOT going to end well. You can't control a narcissist. You can't even pretend to trick them into being manipulated or controlled. She's going to continue to post pics whether you like it or not, and even worse, she'll defy you on purpose. Buddy, you are going to have to deal with this for as long as you two are together. I've never understood the confidence of someone dating a narcissist saying, "They would never cheat on me." They are narcissistic for a reason, they do what they want regardless of what you think they would or wouldn't do. Why not avoid all this and just find someone else who you don't have to post threads about how not to seem controlling.
VeveCakes Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) She put that on Facebook? Wow..OP, you need a new GF stat. Edited December 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
TheTraveler Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) And that is one of her tame photos, correct? My problem, when you requested one she sends an old one. Not a brand new one. When you talked about it she blows you off. As someone mentioned, she's taking x rated shots. What for? You said she receives dick picks. Guess what, these guys are sending more than just that. And guess what pics/vids they get in return? Full blown x rated pics back. Edited December 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 And that is one of her tame photos, correct? My problem, when you requested one she sends an old one. Not a brand new one. When you talked about it she blows you off. As someone mentioned, she's taking x rated shots. What for? You said she receives dick picks. Guess what, these guys are sending more than just that. And guess what pics/vids they get in return? Full blown x rated pics back. Actually that is the most provocative one she's posted. Maybe she's just taking them for later use? So she could send them to me later? Or if we break up she can send em to whoever? Every girl tells me they get random dick pics from strangers all the time. And my gf is especially fetching and sexual so wouldn't doubt she gets more than the average bear.
Diezel Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Actually that is the most provocative one she's posted. Maybe she's just taking them for later use? So she could send them to me later? Or if we break up she can send em to whoever? Every girl tells me they get random dick pics from strangers all the time. And my gf is especially fetching and sexual so wouldn't doubt she gets more than the average bear. Oh dear god, you are in denial. A narcissist doesn't take these pictures for themselves. 1
insert_name Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 OP: Picture in your mind the woman of your dreams. Is she taking photos of herself in her underwear and posting them online for everyone to see? Thought not. Neither is mine. 4
TheTraveler Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 OP: Picture in your mind the woman of your dreams. Is she taking photos of herself in her underwear and posting them online for everyone to see? Thought not. Neither is mine. I wouldn't like it. I will say, the photo you posted. I feel like a peeping tom looking through a hole in the wall.
VeveCakes Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Are you serious...taking them for if you breakup?? Who does that. Taking for you later? 3 months later??? Head out of sand now please! Guess what, I'm a very sexual woman and also very attractive and the only doc pics I have received are from guys I GAVE MY NUMBER TO. I hate dick pics. No faithful or self respecting woman posts pics like this on Facebook. 1
pteromom Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 No girl just takes provocative pics of herself for "nobody." They're being sent to another guy or guys. Trust me. Don't be so naive. Oh and run. Nope not true. Every woman likes to feel beautiful and sexy. Taking a photo where you look beautiful and sexy makes you feel....beautiful and sexy! Look how many women post their duck lip and cleavage selfies. They feel hot - and they want to feel that way! It is entirely possible that she is taking the pics for herself. Instead of accusing her of sharing them, say "Wow, these are hot pics. Would you like for me to do a photo session for you? Maybe WITH you? "
pteromom Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I have never taken sexual pictures of myself to keep for myself. I can't imagine why I'd ever do that. I have many friends who have had boudoir sessions done for themselves.
pteromom Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 No one randomly gets dick pics without giving out their number. I wish this were true.
Recommended Posts