GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 So my gf is a little bit narcissistic. I find she keeps taking pictures of herself when I'm not around of herself in her underwear or laying down looking sexual, or shots of her cleavage or ass. Just like all around seductive pictures. We've been dating for like 5 months. She moved in 2 months after we began dating. We get along really well, we're intimate and have sex at least once a day. Now the other day when I looked over at her phone, I saw a pic she clearly took earlier that day kuz she was wearing the same shirt and her hair was the same, but she was on her knees in her underwear. I asked her who she took that picture for and she said "nobody". So then I said, "what is it for then?" And she said "Do I need a reason?" and I said "well yeah. Everything is done for a reason" Anyway, then she changed the subject and we haven't spoken about it since. But I have seen other pictures she's taken too. She never sent any of them to me. Now what I want to know is, is there a chance she really is only taking them for herself? I know most ppl would jump the gun and say there is obviously someone else she's sending them to. What are your opinions? Girls?
TheTraveler Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 So my gf is a little bit narcissistic. I find she keeps taking pictures of herself when I'm not around of herself in her underwear or laying down looking sexual, or shots of her cleavage or ass. Just like all around seductive pictures. We've been dating for like 5 months. She moved in 2 months after we began dating. We get along really well, we're intimate and have sex at least once a day. Now the other day when I looked over at her phone, I saw a pic she clearly took earlier that day kuz she was wearing the same shirt and her hair was the same, but she was on her knees in her underwear. I asked her who she took that picture for and she said "nobody". So then I said, "what is it for then?" And she said "Do I need a reason?" and I said "well yeah. Everything is done for a reason" Anyway, then she changed the subject and we haven't spoken about it since. But I have seen other pictures she's taken too. She never sent any of them to me. Now what I want to know is, is there a chance she really is only taking them for herself? I know most ppl would jump the gun and say there is obviously someone else she's sending them to. What are your opinions? Girls? I will need to see pictures to determine the level of provocativeness. If she is taking a lot of pictures, and not once sent them to you. And she quickly change the subject. I would be wondering who are they for. 4
SoThatHappened Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 No girl just takes provocative pics of herself for "nobody." They're being sent to another guy or guys. Trust me. Don't be so naive. Oh and run. 2
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 I will need to see pictures to determine the level of provocativeness. If she is taking a lot of pictures, and not once sent them to you. And she quickly change the subject. I would be wondering who are they for. Does the level of provocativeness even matter tho? We were out having dinner a couple weeks ago and she was saying how creeps keep sending her dick pics, so I said nobody ever sends me pussy pics. So she's like "really? I'll send u one!". Only one she's ever sent me. It was just a picture of her pussy being held open by her fingers and it was edited and covered in hearts. Now the thing that threw me off about that was the fake nails she had on were the ones she got like a month after we started dating. So first thing that came to mind was, who did she take this picture for kuz I only saw it like 3 months later and she prolly wouldn't have even sent it if I didn't say anything. Is it possible that she's just really sexual and loves taking naked and sexy pictures of herself for her own pleasure. Do ppl ever take pics like that without any intention to send it to ppl?
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 No girl just takes provocative pics of herself for "nobody." They're being sent to another guy or guys. Trust me. Don't be so naive. Oh and run. Well yeah that's the most obvious answer. I wanna hear some girls opinions tho. Who knows what goes through their head.
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She is insecure & needs constant reassurance. You both make bad decisions. Moving in after only 60 days doesn't help matters. 4
TheTraveler Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Does the level of provocativeness even matter tho? We were out having dinner a couple weeks ago and she was saying how creeps keep sending her dick pics, so I said nobody ever sends me pussy pics. So she's like "really? I'll send u one!". Only one she's ever sent me. It was just a picture of her pussy being held open by her fingers and it was edited and covered in hearts. Now the thing that threw me off about that was the fake nails she had on were the ones she got like a month after we started dating. So first thing that came to mind was, who did she take this picture for kuz I only saw it like 3 months later and she prolly wouldn't have even sent it if I didn't say anything. Is it possible that she's just really sexual and loves taking naked and sexy pictures of herself for her own pleasure. Do ppl ever take pics like that without any intention to send it to ppl? I was kidding about the pictures. Do the math. Guys are sending her dick pics and probably all sorts of other pictures, and she's taking provocative pictures of herself. You know what to do OP.
Gaeta Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 How old is she? It's a new phenomena and it's very present in young girls and young adult women. It's a type of self validation. Young girls that take a lot of selfies have low self esteem. Your girlfriend values herself entirely on how she looks and how seductive she appears on those selfies. She needs to look at herself to keep believing she is attractive and to keep believing she fits in that beauty mold imposed by the media. If you search the net there is plenty of reading on this matter. It's sad, very sad. 4
hippychick3 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I have never taken sexual pictures of myself to keep for myself. I can't imagine why I'd ever do that. Even selfies...unless I'm posting them to social media or sending to someone, I don't take them. Sorry, OP. I would assume she is sending them to other guys or posting them somewhere.... 3
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 How old is she? It's a new phenomena and it's very present in young girls and young adult women. It's a type of self validation. Young girls that take a lot of selfies have low self esteem. Your girlfriend values herself entirely on how she looks and how seductive she appears on those selfies. She needs to look at herself to keep believing she is attractive and to keep believing she fits in that beauty mold imposed by the media. If you search the net there is plenty of reading on this matter. It's sad, very sad. She does post like daily selfies on Facebook. She changes her profile pic like several times a day. But I mean now that she has me, wouldn't that be enough? Why wouldn't she send these pics to me if she wants more validation?
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 I have never taken sexual pictures of myself to keep for myself. I can't imagine why I'd ever do that. Even selfies...unless I'm posting them to social media or sending to someone, I don't take them. Sorry, OP. I would assume she is sending them to other guys or posting them somewhere.... I mean I do know when I was younger and I had my first cam I was taking all sorts of naked pictures of myself without the intention of sending them to anyone. Just kuz it made me feel sexual. But I was also like a teenager and experimenting with my camera and my own body. She's 33. You'd think that phase was over.. Even if she's not sending them to a specific person, maybe she's posting them to a blog or something. 1
Gaeta Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She does post like daily selfies on Facebook. She changes her profile pic like several times a day. But I mean now that she has me, wouldn't that be enough? Why wouldn't she send these pics to me if she wants more validation? Because it's not about you. It's about her relationship with HERSELF. She has a low self esteem. She cannot value herself on her own. She needs the attention of other people to feel valued. It goes beyond getting your attention. She needs her peers attention, other men and other women attention. Like I said it's well documented. Look it up. 1
Gaeta Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She's 33. You'd think that phase was over.. Even if she's not sending them to a specific person, maybe she's posting them to a blog or something. Holy cow!! are you serious! At 33 then I would question her emotional maturity. I am pretty sure if you look at her overall life she lacks maturity and emotional growth. 5
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 Because it's not about you. It's about her relationship with HERSELF. She has a low self esteem. She cannot value herself on her own. She needs the attention of other people to feel valued. It goes beyond getting your attention. She needs her peers attention, other men and other women attention. Like I said it's well documented. Look it up. What do I look up exactly? And do you have any suggestions?
Author GirusX Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 But also remember she is very sexual. I said we have sex at least once a day. So that's a minimum. I try to keep her as satisfied as possible so she doesn't feel the need to find it somewhere else. I'm wondering if she needs so much attention, even I'm not enough for her.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 So my gf is a little bit narcissistic. I find she keeps taking pictures of herself when I'm not around of herself in her underwear or laying down looking sexual, or shots of her cleavage or ass. Just like all around seductive pictures. We've been dating for like 5 months. She moved in 2 months after we began dating. We get along really well, we're intimate and have sex at least once a day. Now the other day when I looked over at her phone, I saw a pic she clearly took earlier that day kuz she was wearing the same shirt and her hair was the same, but she was on her knees in her underwear. I asked her who she took that picture for and she said "nobody". So then I said, "what is it for then?" And she said "Do I need a reason?" and I said "well yeah. Everything is done for a reason" Anyway, then she changed the subject and we haven't spoken about it since. But I have seen other pictures she's taken too. She never sent any of them to me. Now what I want to know is, is there a chance she really is only taking them for herself? I know most ppl would jump the gun and say there is obviously someone else she's sending them to. What are your opinions? Girls? I take that she's posting them Facebook and such?
Popsicle Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I used to take pictures of myself and send them to a guy I was seeing. He STILL thought I was taking them for someone else. I was doing it for him. *sigh* a girl can't win. 1
Popsicle Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She does post like daily selfies on Facebook. She changes her profile pic like several times a day. But I mean now that she has me, wouldn't that be enough? Why wouldn't she send these pics to me if she wants more validation? Well, there you have it. She just likes to show a bunch of people. I don't do this. I have a cousin who does this daily on FB. She's gorgeous and flaunts it.
Samhain Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I didn't think Facebook allowed pics like that? So these guys who are sending her pictures of their bits are clearly in private messaging with her. I'm no expert but I don't think too many guys would just randomly send a woman d*** pics without some kind of provocation or request. And whoever these guys are she's given them the OK to be on her contact list for whichever social media site she's using so they aren't just random dudes. My guess is, she's replying to some of these pics with her own little snaps that she's been taking, because we've already established they aren't for you. If she's "very sexual" maybe a part of that is sharing and viewing intimate pictures with others. And it's kind of cold of her to send you a picture of her vagina that she took before you were even together (clearly it was for somebody else) she takes pics all day long of her body in various poses and she couldn't have even made the effort to make one exclusively for you? Moving in after 2 months.. Together for 5.. Really is no amount of time to truly know somebody. She's one to keep your eye on for sure.
Wewon Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Does the level of provocativeness even matter tho? We were out having dinner a couple weeks ago and she was saying how creeps keep sending her dick pics, so I said nobody ever sends me pussy pics. So she's like "really? I'll send u one!". Only one she's ever sent me. It was just a picture of her pussy being held open by her fingers and it was edited and covered in hearts. Now the thing that threw me off about that was the fake nails she had on were the ones she got like a month after we started dating. So first thing that came to mind was, who did she take this picture for kuz I only saw it like 3 months later and she prolly wouldn't have even sent it if I didn't say anything. Is it possible that she's just really sexual and loves taking naked and sexy pictures of herself for her own pleasure. Do ppl ever take pics like that without any intention to send it to ppl? Anything is possible, but it does seem odd that a woman would have a picture like that on-hand like a job seeking having a resume ready to send. At the very least the two of you have a very different sense of propriety that may end up being a problem in the long run. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Well, there you have it. She just likes to show a bunch of people. I don't do this. I have a cousin who does this daily on FB. She's gorgeous and flaunts it. I know of married women that do this crap. I guess their husbands don't have the *alls to put their foot down. There was this one woman, married, that was posting lingerie photos of herself she's over 40...not too bad looking, but...she's married. Claims she's doing it for her business and I'm thinking, "Aren't there stock photos for that instead of modeling them yourself?" She posted a few and asked for others opinion, "Is this too provocative?" one responded, "I'm not sure, is your husband and your step-daughter okay with it?" Needless to say, it wasn't pretty and she got all up her grill about how her husband "supports" her in this. Of course, she's just using as a reason to be an attention seeking narcissist. I mean, I can justify doing this when you're single...but married? Things just need to END when you're married. 2
katiegrl Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) Because it's not about you. It's about her relationship with HERSELF. She has a low self esteem. She cannot value herself on her own. ***She needs the attention of other people to feel valued. It goes beyond getting your attention. She needs her peers attention, other men and other women attention. *** Like I said it's well documented. Look it up. Yes it is well documented. Low self-esteem, among other things. Which is also precisely why she sends the pics to random guys ...to seek validation from "them". OP, she already knows YOU would validate her ...you are her boyfriend. But when she sends to random guys, and they validate how hot and sexy she is...it is a huge ego boost for her and she gets the validation. I would try to nip this, as often times, it may escalate to actually meeting these guys in person as well....if she becomes intrigued enough. Very very sad indeed. Edited December 16, 2015 by katiegrl
insert_name Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I mean I do know when I was younger and I had my first cam I was taking all sorts of naked pictures of myself without the intention of sending them to anyone. Just kuz it made me feel sexual. But I was also like a teenager and experimenting with my camera and my own body. She's 33. You'd think that phase was over.. Even if she's not sending them to a specific person, maybe she's posting them to a blog or something. <faints> . 5
Samhain Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I'm just slightly curious too, you said that she "moved in" after 2 months, so I'm assuming that means she moved in to your home with you. Does she share utility bills, rent etc? Do her share around the house? I'm not suggesting she's using you (she might be though) but 2 months seems really drastic to me for such a big decision, and you are learning things about her that you clearly do not like. Some people will take an easy life and do whatever they want to do on the side at the same time. And if she is highly sexed then sleeping with you every day isn't really a demonstration of any kind of love or attachment.
jen1447 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 None of us can know specifically what's going on in your case , but to answer your original question, yes, some women do just like to take photos of themselves. 4
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