SethDamien Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 My ex of 2 years just messaged me. She said: "how are you? I dreamed about you. I hope you're doing fine." I didnt reply.. A few hours later, she said: "I dreamed bad things about you. That's why i wanted to check up on you. Anyway, sorry for the intrusion. I'll always pray for your safety" TBH, i still have feelings for her, but should i just ignore her? Or should i say something?
Jersey born raised Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She wants you to ask her how she is doing. Best guess not well. If you do engage be prepared to have to play 21 questions to get the answer (it shows you get her). Learn to understand when a question is aimed at you, and not a request for you to ask them that questions. For example text her back Thank you for your concern, life happens but you learn to roll with it So I am fine. Hope things are working out in your life and your family is well, Please say hello to them for me. Take care See how she responds to this
worldexploded Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I don't see the harm in messaging back if that's truly why she messaged you but keep it brief. Was it a messy break up?
K2z Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I would either (a) not message back, or (b) message back "I'm fine." (a) might be the better option.
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 TBH, i still have feelings for her Here's the reason you delete, forget and move on. Why risk it? No good can come from replying!! 1
Wewon Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Context is important on this one. If you're a perfectly healthy young man receiving a "I had a bad dream" text from your 22 year old ex college girlfriend who still feels guilty for being a drama queen, then ignore it. However, if you've had a history of health/mental problems and this was a relationship of any substance then you might want to send a "I'm fine, thanks for the prayers" text in return. Its up to you to decide if it qualifies as a manipulative breadcrumb or if it is a true gesture of concern. 1
LostOnes05 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Tell her to go back to sleep and tell you if you make it to the end. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 My ex of 2 years just messaged me. She said: "how are you? I dreamed about you. I hope you're doing fine." I didnt reply.. A few hours later, she said: "I dreamed bad things about you. That's why i wanted to check up on you. Anyway, sorry for the intrusion. I'll always pray for your safety" TBH, i still have feelings for her, but should i just ignore her? Or should i say something? "Yeah. Pray I'll get over you quickly. Now quit bothering me with pointless texts."
Author SethDamien Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 Most of the 2 years after our break up, i was still trying to make things right with her. We still see each other as she said there might still be a chance for us again... but one year into the break up, she started seeing someone else. all the while giving me signals that there might still be a chance.. so it went on for another year, we kept seeing each other, going to her place, having dinner together... i know im gonna get bashed for saying this, but i was too in love to see i was being manipulated, or treated as an option. now, we stopped contacting entirely for a month, and then she texted me this message just recently... i just want to know how she will react if i message her back or not.
marky00 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 From my experience Once they get a new one.... you never hear from them.... until maybe they breakup etc. Pretty weird she is msg u at all. If they really love the new one.... you just never hear from them again.
Wewon Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Most of the 2 years after our break up, i was still trying to make things right with her. We still see each other as she said there might still be a chance for us again... but one year into the break up, she started seeing someone else. all the while giving me signals that there might still be a chance.. so it went on for another year, we kept seeing each other, going to her place, having dinner together... i know im gonna get bashed for saying this, but i was too in love to see i was being manipulated, or treated as an option. now, we stopped contacting entirely for a month, and then she texted me this message just recently... i just want to know how she will react if i message her back or not. Based on this information, don't message her back. My original post was on the off chance that she had a genuine reason for concern versus simply someone looking to keep her options open.
mightycpa Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 You could text back: That's funny, because I just had a nightmare about you! You texted me. No, that's like throwing bait out there. Do one thing only. Block her texts.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Most of the 2 years after our break up, i was still trying to make things right with her. We still see each other as she said there might still be a chance for us again... but one year into the break up, she started seeing someone else. all the while giving me signals that there might still be a chance.. so it went on for another year, we kept seeing each other, going to her place, having dinner together... i know im gonna get bashed for saying this, but i was too in love to see i was being manipulated, or treated as an option. now, we stopped contacting entirely for a month, and then she texted me this message just recently... i just want to know how she will react if i message her back or not. Yeah, no messaging. Sounds like you were putting off the breakup for almost all of the two years since the break. Now that you are actually starting to process things, you shouldn't be responding to this crap. Delete it.
erklat Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Dude your breakup could have happened a month ago as long as healing is concerned. You never did nc to heal.
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