Hesjustnotthatin2u Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Things are great, and I've honestly never been happier with anyone else. We're both 26 and things are running on track for the most part. Everything in our relationship we have taken slow. One, because we live an hour away so we don't get to see eachother as much as most couples, two because that's just our style. Lately we have talked about (individually) saving up to move out and he said by next year he hopes to have his own house. I said I hoped for the same for myself and he more or less said, 'maybe it would be helpful if you had someone in the house with you..' *hint hint*. We've kind of hinted at a future together and we know that this is going somewhere. But the point I'm getting at is.. it's been a little over a year, and he still hasn't said I love you yet. I'm beginning to feel a little concerned. I know I felt it a long time ago.. heck I could of said it by month two, but I didn't want to say it too soon. So I waited. And now here we are a year later.. and it's almost awkward to randomly bring up now. Is he going to say it? Is he waiting for me to say it? Should I? How? Should I wait for him? I could be waiting forever.
abby_tx Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Things are great, and I've honestly never been happier with anyone else. We're both 26 and things are running on track for the most part. Everything in our relationship we have taken slow. One, because we live an hour away so we don't get to see eachother as much as most couples, two because that's just our style. Lately we have talked about (individually) saving up to move out and he said by next year he hopes to have his own house. I said I hoped for the same for myself and he more or less said, 'maybe it would be helpful if you had someone in the house with you..' *hint hint*. We've kind of hinted at a future together and we know that this is going somewhere. But the point I'm getting at is.. it's been a little over a year, and he still hasn't said I love you yet. I'm beginning to feel a little concerned. I know I felt it a long time ago.. heck I could of said it by month two, but I didn't want to say it too soon. So I waited. And now here we are a year later.. and it's almost awkward to randomly bring up now. Is he going to say it? Is he waiting for me to say it? Should I? How? Should I wait for him? I could be waiting forever. Sounds like he thinks it but doesn't feel the need to say it. I wouldn't worry about it. Say it first.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 Say it. He could be thinking the same but waiting for you to say it first. What have you got to lose? Either he tells you he loves you back, or he doesn't and you know and can decide what to do from there. I wouldn't necessarily take his 'maybe you could use someone in the house with you' as a plan for the future though, I mean if he's planning to buy his own home, why would he also be thinking about moving into yours? He could have just meant get a room mate! It's possible I guess he was talking about buying a house together but that's one hell of a huge commitment for a couple who haven't exchanged ILYs at a year in. Maybe you should have a talk about the future and where you both see the relationship going, to save possible heartache and misunderstanding.
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