Soccerxcutie08 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 My husband watches porn, which doesn't bother me. Or at least it didn't use to... But a few months back we had a big issue with him talking to someone he worked with and we fought it out and decided we wanted to fix things and we loved each other. But then him watching porn really started to bother me. It's not so much that he watches it but more to the fact that he will go on Reddit and follow certain girls and even went as far as paying some girl to add him on snap chat to where she sends him half naked pictures all day long on there. I hate feeling so insecure and don't know if I'm just being ridiculous or if I should say something. Please only real advise.
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 It all depends on where you draw the lines in your relationship. Watching porn wouldn't bother me (too much) but the minute it becomes more interactive like SnapChat & Reddit, I'd be more uncomfortable with it. You two need to have a discussion about what you both find acceptable in your marriage. 4
hippychick3 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 For me, watching porn is not cheating. It wouldn't bother me one bit if my SO was watching it as long as we were having regular sex and it wasn't a substitute. However, what you described goes waaaay beyond just watching porn. I would not be okay with any level of personal interaction like that. No way. 1
Qboro90 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 The girl on snapchat isn't just sending your husband pictures specifically. She most likely has no idea he even exists and her snaps are sent to those following her. Think of it like an Instagram model or someone with thousands of followers. Everyone sees their posts and they're followed because of what they post (usually revealing or scant clad pics). So it's not like your husband talks to this girl. Unless you see/find out that they do communicate personally. That's different. But I would highly doubt that's the case. I follow a snap chat account that's a sports website and occasionally they'll have a good looking girl take over the account for the day where she just takes sexy selfies and vids of herself for the followers of the site. Not cheating. There's a difference however if your husband is crossing the line and/or addicted to porn. That's a problem. If he's just watching it and masturbating here and there then that's nothing to be alarmed over. You know him better than anyone tho.
Qboro90 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 You can call him a moron for paying someone to send him nude pics on snapchat. There's a million girls he could follow for free who send the exact same thing so pretty absurd that he actually gave his money away. That's like paying for porn on the computer. It's freaking free! Why would u pay!? Lol 1
ltjg45 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 the fact that he will go on Reddit and follow certain girls and even went as far as paying some girl to add him on snap chat to where she sends him half naked pictures all day long on there. This is where the line is getting crossed. You need to find a solution to this and quickly. If there isn't one, just file for a divorce. I wouldn't show too much patience with this if I was you. 1
oldshirt Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 If it is taking his attention and energy and affections away from you, then yes it is really no different than cheating. If he is spanking to porn all the time so that his tank is dry and you are left hanging, then for all practical purposes from your perspective he might as well be screwing other chicks. If he is spending all his time and energies viewing porn sites and neglecting you and leaving you bored and lonely and frustrated, then what is the real difference that if he was spending time and doing things with other chicks. If he is spending his hard earned money on porn and having personalized nakkey pics sent to him, then how is that any different than him giving his resources to other chicks? If the end results are the same as they would be with adultery, then it needs to be delt with as it would if it were adultery. 1
frogs88 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 You two need to have a discussion about what you both find acceptable in your marriage. This is all that matters, what the rest thinks is secondary. Don't ask us - ask yourself (and H).
Wewon Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 I'd say that the interactivity is a problem regardless of what name you give it. I bet he wouldn't be okay if you were collecting money from men and sending them naked selfies in return. 1
TheArtist Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 As long as you're not in it, no. When I'm in a relationship with someone I really care about I don't even think about other women, I'm totally focussed on the girl I love. I'm sweet like that.
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