GingerVixen Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Hey guys... This is what happened after I posted the thread below : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/559833-would-you-delete-him-well So long story short a guy stood me up, I tried to make conversation but he kept playing little games and I deleted him In whatsapp which means he couldn't see my picture so he noticed I had deleted him. Anyway, 6 days later he texts me out of the blue, didnt even mention the fact I had deleted him, and then we start talking. I honestly thought he May have had regretted his actions so I re added him to whatsapp. We texted for a good amount of time and then he had to leave. The next day, I texted him a link about a piece of news, he took one day to reply and then I made a comment about it as well. My comment didnt need an answer, and he didnt say anything either. Anyway... This has happened 8 days ago. Mind you, we live in different countries and he stood me up when I was in his City and Willing to meet me. He said one week later that it was a dumb move not showing up. But anyway.. I Can see he is pulling back, perhaps because we live very far away from each other with no chance to meet again in the near future. But I feel so dumb for having readded him and having tried to initiate conversation again. I havent initiated contact anymore though, I wanna keep my dignity intact. I just Dont wanna feel dumb about myself anymore. Any help or advice that could help me.not feel like a fool would be appreciated.
hippychick3 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Hey guys... This is what happened after I posted the thread below : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/559833-would-you-delete-him-well So long story short a guy stood me up, I tried to make conversation but he kept playing little games and I deleted him In whatsapp which means he couldn't see my picture so he noticed I had deleted him. Anyway, 6 days later he texts me out of the blue, didnt even mention the fact I had deleted him, and then we start talking. I honestly thought he May have had regretted his actions so I re added him to whatsapp. We texted for a good amount of time and then he had to leave. The next day, I texted him a link about a piece of news, he took one day to reply and then I made a comment about it as well. My comment didnt need an answer, and he didnt say anything either. Anyway... This has happened 8 days ago. Mind you, we live in different countries and he stood me up when I was in his City and Willing to meet me. He said one week later that it was a dumb move not showing up. But anyway.. I Can see he is pulling back, perhaps because we live very far away from each other with no chance to meet again in the near future. But I feel so dumb for having readded him and having tried to initiate conversation again. I havent initiated contact anymore though, I wanna keep my dignity intact. I just Dont wanna feel dumb about myself anymore. Any help or advice that could help me.not feel like a fool would be appreciated. I would delete him again and lose his number. If he attempts to get in touch with you again, IGNORE. In the future, trust your gut and respect yourself enough to sever contact for good with people who treat you with such disrespect (standing you up). You should not have given him that ego boost by responding to him again. 1
Gaeta Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 If I tell you I have been much dumber than you at times would that make you feel better :-) A couple of years ago I let a man stand me up 3 TIMES. YEP! I don't tell that story too often it's sooo embarrassing lol Don't feel bad, we all have done dumb things that's how we learn.
smackie9 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Why do you even bother? are you that desperate for attention that you are willing to take anything, like some chat from a guy that lives in another country? You need to get real with yourself. This activity will take you nowhere. You do not benefit from it, and it is a waste of yours and his time. He isn't going to invest in someone that he can't have sex with. He is going to find someone that is locally located over you. I advise you do the same thing. Guys are not interested in a pen pal or be someones emotional cuddle bich.. Push yourself away from the computer and go out and meet men irl. Get involved in some social activity, where you are exposed to other singles.
Author GingerVixen Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 I would delete him again and lose his number. If he attempts to get in touch with you again, IGNORE. In the future, trust your gut and respect yourself enough to sever contact for good with people who treat you with such disrespect (standing you up). Yeah I should have ignored him But I tend to give people the Benefit of doubt. I was naive. I tend to think people regret making mistakes but I guess they just don't.
Author GingerVixen Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 Why do you even bother? are you that desperate for attention that you are willing to take anything, like some chat from a guy that lives in another country? You need to get real with yourself. This activity will take you nowhere. You do not benefit from it, and it is a waste of yours and his time. He isn't going to invest in someone that he can't have sex with. He is going to find someone that is locally located over you. I advise you do the same thing. Guys are not interested in a pen pal or be someones emotional cuddle bich.. Push yourself away from the computer and go out and meet men irl. Get involved in some social activity, where you are exposed to other singles. Hey, you don't need to offend me or try to say I don't have a life. I just got back from a date It is just I thought we could at least keep talking since intelectually we had so much in common. That's all
Author GingerVixen Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 If I tell you I have been much dumber than you at times would that make you feel better :-) A couple of years ago I let a man stand me up 3 TIMES. YEP! I don't tell that story too often it's sooo embarrassing lol Don't feel bad, we all have done dumb things that's how we learn. Thank you for your message!! I know how it feels... We tend to see the Best about everybody right? Well to live is to Learn, I guess!
Gaeta Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 C'mon guys. She knows she did something dumb, she wants a little pat on the shoulder.
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