billylewis Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I have been messaging a girl on okcupid she has a sense of humor and likes to joke I had asked what she did for work and she said she im the youngest and most attractive full time worker at the hyvee kitchen" I messaged back "Haha since your the most attractive they include a bonus for you right?" Was that sound stupid ,what i said? i wanted to keep a joking atmosphere going that's all i could think of at the moment she hasnt replied and I sent it yesterday morning also a few days before I asked her to hockey and dinner and she said "sure but it'll have to be after the holidays due to work and family"
ScienceGal Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Your response was fine. She seems stuck on herself. Who would refer to themselves as the most attractive person in a group? Conceited much? Move on. 1
hippychick3 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 It's "you're" not "your".... probably not why she didn't respond, but it may be a deterrent for future girls you contact. That has always been my pet peeve and have actually lost complete interest in in any guy who didn't use "your" and "you're" correctly when texting me. 4
katiegrl Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 (edited) It's "you're" not "your".... probably not why she didn't respond, but it may be a deterrent for future girls you contact. That has always been my pet peeve and have actually lost complete interest in in any guy who didn't use "your" and "you're" correctly when texting me. Wow, and I thought I was picky. I majored in English lit in college and I know the difference, however when texting/email quickly, I often inadvertently type "your" instead of "you're." I certainly would not negative judge someone else for doing the same. Now if he couldn't construct a sentence properly, that's different. But minor things like your and you're? Nah..... not a big deal to me at all.... since I am guilty of it myself sometimes. But to each his own. There are plenty of other more serious issues to be concerned about than inadvertently texting the wrong contraction.... To the OP....honestly I do not think it was because you wrote "your" instead of "you're." I also don't think your text was in any way off-putting or stupid. You were bantering...it was cute! You're just feeling anxious because you like her. It's the holidays, people are BUSY. Relax.... it will be okay. Edited December 15, 2015 by katiegrl 1
smackie9 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 like anyone on OKcupid......you are an option. She might have found a better option.
hippychick3 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Wow, and I thought I was picky. I majored in English lit in college and I know the difference, however when texting/email quickly, I often inadvertently type "your" instead of "you're." I certainly would not negative judge someone else for doing the same. Now if he couldn't construct a sentence properly, that's different. But minor things like your and you're? Nah..... not a big deal to me at all.... since I am guilty of it myself sometimes. But to each his own. There are plenty of other more serious issues to be concerned about than inadvertently texting the wrong contraction.... To the OP....honestly I do not think it was because you wrote "your" instead of "you're." I also don't think your text was in any way off-putting or stupid. You were bantering...it was cute! You're just feeling anxious because you like her. It's the holidays, people are BUSY. Relax.... it will be okay. I am super picky mostly because I do a lot of report writing and editing for my job...which doesn't mean I am perfect by any means. I'm sure I've made my share of spelling or grammar mistakes while posting here! I can overlook the occasional your instead of you're only if I'm already convinced the guy knows how to use it correctly and it was truly a mistake. For instance, my boyfriend and I actually talked about that on our first date and how it's a pet peeve for us both. He is an excellent speller and uses mostly correct grammar when texting. So, if he throws out a your instead of you're here and there, I know it's a mistake and not intentional. It was always the guys who consistently misused it that I wasn't convinced they even knew how to use it correctly....big huge turn off!! 2
TheArtist Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I know it's not really the place but on the odd occasion when back when I was online dating if a girl's profile was a grammatical trainwreck I wouldn't even contact her. If you don't have time to do it properly how do you have time to make an effort in a relationship? To the OP, you were joking, she was joking, it's fine. Don't worry about it, just let it happen naturally. 1
katiegrl Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I know it's not really the place but on the odd occasion when back when I was online dating if a girl's profile was a grammatical trainwreck I wouldn't even contact her. If you don't have time to do it properly how do you have time to make an effort in a relationship? To the OP, you were joking, she was joking, it's fine. Don't worry about it, just let it happen naturally. Yeah I agree about the grammatical trainwreck, but I can forgive contractions....cause I know on some phones (like my old LG), it was a pain in the ass locating the apostrophe symbol.... so I would often omit it, at least when I was in a hurry. However, when first started texting with a guy.... I would take the time to find it as I didn't want him to think....just like you said.... that I was grammatical trainwreck! LOL So I get your point and yours too hippychick.
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