dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 A friend of mine mentioned to me she has a ton of first dates, they never, and I mean never, go beyond that. Another friend stops his at three dates, when he decides whether or not he wants to sleep with a woman and continue seeing her until that happens. I tend to have a ton of first dates, or through five dates with the same guy before one or both of us decide we're not compatible, or full on relationships. So it tends to be 1, 5, or like 500 for me. This causes me to have a lot of anxiety for dates 2-5, because historically it's either going to go the distance or not. Do you have a typical pattern?
Shining One Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 One of my requirements for a relationship is mutual investment. I'll give a woman three to five dates to demonstrate. If she does not, then I move on. Thus, three to five would be my common numbers. 1
Author dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 One of my requirements for a relationship is mutual investment. I'll give a woman three to five dates to demonstrate. If she does not, then I move on. Thus, three to five would be my common numbers. How does she demonstrate that to you? I wonder if I've run afoul of that in the past.
Shining One Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 How does she demonstrate that to you? I wonder if I've run afoul of that in the past.It's not a common requirement, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. She demonstrates by paying for a date, cooking dinner, treating me to something, etc.
GemmaUK Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I don't have a common date count at all. I tend to weed out before a first meet on OLD or get to know someone somewhat IRL. Those I have felt unsure about have turned out to be worse first meets than I could have imagined. Laughably so! The last two men I dated I admittedly brushed over my gut instincts to some degree but they were really way different to any other men I had dated. One turned out controlling, needy, emotionally physically (to a lesser extent) abusive, the other (dated very briefly) was also controlling and had anger issues. One lasted 7 months with me attempting many break ups and the other guy I only dated about 5 times before he went totally cray cray. Both were total charmers - something I will avoid in future now that I have learned and know all the signs to look for.
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