Gaeta Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 "What are you looking for?" Yes I absolutely ask this question and I want a detailed answer. It's also my pleasure to answer that question when it's being asked to me. It has nothing to do with if I am interested in him or not. I am on a dating site to meet a man serious about building a long lasting relationship. I would not see again a man that cannot tell me what he's looking for. He also asked me when my last relationship was Legitimate question and I also ask it. and "the last time I f**ked somebody," "to assess my emotional availability." The first date? Asking this stuff?? And so crassly? Totally inappropriate. I would have gotten up and left. I don't want to hear this question on a 1st date or on a 10th date. I don't want to hear it EVER. Also, prior to the date he'd made several comments that were sexually suggestive, I would not have met him. I don't meet men that make sexual innuendoes. I would probably say something like: did your dad raise you or drag you? total trash. The only reason I went out with him was because we have mutual friends, and one of them assured me he was a great guy, so I gave him a chance. Otherwise, his comments would have led me to believe he was a creep just looking to get laid. Tell your friends what a loser they set you up with. I told him this, and he said he makes those comments to test women, and he wouldn't have gone out with me had I not responded just the way I had. I remember last time a man told me his questions were a test. I told him to go waste someone's else time and hung up. This guy is 40. Aren't there more mature ways to evaluate compatibility and character than lame tests? He's a meat-head. He's not a man, he's a wannabe with the maturity of a 12 yo. 1
truth_seeker Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Oh, okay. Right. It's me that's the problem with this one. Right. In your earlier posts I was with you 100% but then you're just adding more and more and more, at that point I wonder is something off with you. Just saying.
Author dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 In your earlier posts I was with you 100% but then you're just adding more and more and more, at that point I wonder is something off with you. Just saying. Such as? Do tell.
truth_seeker Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Such as? Do tell. You keep revealing more and more as the thread keeps going. Why? The guy is low class the second you wrote about his "who's the last person you f-cked" question. The more responses I read form you it's like you're stabbing him and twisting the knife. Inform the person who set you up with him about his inappropriate behavior.
Author dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 You keep revealing more and more as the thread keeps going. Why? The guy is low class the second you wrote about his "who's the last person you f-cked" question. The more responses I read form you it's like you're stabbing him and twisting the knife. Inform the person who set you up with him about his inappropriate behavior. I'm on my phone and didn't type everything in the OP to make it any longer than it was, and the details I included later weren't necessary to the immediate OP about those specific questions/tests but relevant to his behavior as the discussion developed, so you draw that conclusion? A thread is a discussion. A conversation. Facts and substance develop over time, it doesn't end at the OP. Why am I defending myself here? This is crazy. It wasn't a set up. We met online, as the OP says. We just happen to have mutual friends. I've no desire to bad mouth him to our mutual friends.
Ami1uwant Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Some of these questions are pretty standard... What Are YOY Looking Gor Means Are You Looking Gor Casual OR Serious OR Are You Loking For A Fantasy Catch Thus NEXTING All The guys. Asking about relationships are fair...in some ways it to judge if you are capable. A red flag would be someone who hadn't dated in 10 yrs and was not married. Another piece 8s if you are ready to data with a recent breslup/divorce. If I was the first one you dated after divorce likely means you aren't serious and want to play the field.
GemmaUK Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 You had a 'recommendation' pretty much from a mutual friend. Don't trust these in future. Just don't. Go with your own feelings. My one sole feeling about one guy was that the distance was too far - I should have bloody well stuck with that feeling - but he had met a mutual friend so I ended up meeting him - my bad. The guy is a total jerk the more I have read about him. I certainly don't blame you for saying more than you did in the OP. You wouldn't have gone on date one though if he wasn't a mutual would you? I certainly wouldn't after those messages. He would have been weeded out before meeting as not at all for me. 1
Author dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 You wouldn't have gone on date one though if he wasn't a mutual would you? I certainly wouldn't after those messages. He would have been weeded out before meeting as not at all for me. No, I definitely would not. 1
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