zigger Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I have never thought that I would write about something like this on a website but I just cannot stop thinking about it, trying to find a perfect solution. So I met this girl about three months ago, at the beginning of our school year. I was introduced to her by our mutual friend but it all went totally ridiculous and kind of pathetic. I started to text her because it was the only way to contact her - she is in another school in the same town but we both live in different villages by the town. Throughout these three months we texted regularly- every few days, recently every day. Once every two weeks I've been having an opportunity to meet her in person on a bus station. I screwed some of the opportunities because of my supernatural shyness but at these days when I pulled myself together I think we were both having fun. About two months ago I asked her for her phone number during one of these accidentally-on purpose meetings. She seemed happy and laughed so loud that I think that every person in that station heard her very clearly. She gave it to me, I called her and got... rejected. The reasons were quite simple and surely not real. But I decided not to give up on her so easily. Throughout next two months we continued to talk, I tried to ask her out again but by the look on her face ' Please don't do it' I could know the answer without her saying it. And yet... We're still talking, we're still chatting AND flirting. I tease her and it could look well if these rejections didn't happen. The thing is that she is being chased by a lot of guys. I mean - A LOT. I found out about some men that keep chatting her with some boring texts. And she stopped to respond to them. It kind of cheers me up- I mean we're still talking quite a lot. The problem is that she seems not quite decided. One day she answers with one-liners and the other day just the opposite. Onw day I even got a photo with a question what I thought about it. Recently she called me Darling' twice and I'm still figuring out if that was a good thing or just the opposite (like if she was talking to some young pathetic boy who fell for her). I'm totally nuts about her, she's on my mind almost constantly. We've got much in common. I would like to defeat my shyness and talk to her the right way, the flirty way, watch her reaction. But in a few days there'll be a Christmas break for almost two weeks and during it a New Year's Eve(I'm crazy but I'm so afraid that she's gonna meet somebody then). Before that I may have one or two occasions to talk to her. I have no idea what I should do - take the initiative now and act so confident now or wait till the end of break and during that break keep chatting/flirting (because the proper 'flirt' started just a week ago) to finally talk to her after break when she maybe would have another attitude. Maybe some of you wonder why I'm still trying. I don't know. I just totally fall for her and I'm positive I wont give up before that final try. So what should I do? I keep arguing with myself. Some part of me wants to act, some wants to wait. But when I wait these occasional one liners are killing me. On the other hand, every time I want to approach her on that station, I lose all my confidence and I'm just afraid that she'll see through me and notice the lack of it. Or maybe I should make her jealous some way? Or try to raise up my value compared to her - stop writing, act as if I didn't care? Because sometimes I think that I was just being too nice and not a 'bad-boy'. I was thinking about it but then I'm always afraid that the lack of contact won't do anything good. Please help me, I'm going crazy. Sorry for my poor English
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She knows you like her. She is sophisticated enough to have many men chasing her. She likes the attention you give her. It makes her feel good but she does not return your affections. She is using you to boost her ego. Sorry. Continue at your own peril. This will never turn into a loving relationship for you. 1
beloved1985 Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 She knows you like her. She is sophisticated enough to have many men chasing her. She likes the attention you give her. It makes her feel good but she does not return your affections. She is using you to boost her ego. Sorry. Continue at your own peril. This will never turn into a loving relationship for you. I hate to admit this, but you are propably right. Women just want to be hunted too boost their ego.
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