GeorgeWP93 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Basically in the summer I started seeing a girl I had spoken to on and off but not seen since we met on a night out about a year or two before. Instant connection, we've both had experience in relationships although not long ones. Both agreed we had never met someone we had so much chemistry and in common with, everything was great and then I guess the spark just fizzled out, I stopped being the man I am and put her on a pedestal and I guess it just ended. She admitted she wasn't sure in a relationship at first but i respected her decision and she decided to give it a go in the end and I guess she just wasn't ready for the honeymoon period to end. Anyway it hit me hard I spent weeks googling these websites and being miserable, I sent her a text after about a month of no contact but didn't get a reply but obviously you get over it in the end although to this day I still miss her intensely, I regret my mistakes and feel it's such a massive missed opportunity why is that, she wasn't the nicer girl I've met? About 2 months ago I started seeing a mutual friend, for me it was a slow burner, was in control of myself throughout because I wasn't that bothered, she met my family, I met hers although I already knew them but it was brilliant as we all knew each other and had some great fun, I knew she was talking to another lad but I had teased her about him before we had started seeing each other and she always just said he's definetly not anything special, however my experiences I let her get on with it, one night she was speaking to my friends about me and this other lad, she asked me what we were I told her that if she was considering this other lad then see you later she said not a chance. Long story short she is with him now. I was livid for a short period... I mean why straight up lie I gave her opportunities to be honest? Third girl I've known for ages and somethings always been there she invited me to her uni I made sure I tell people I'm looking for something serious she agreed and said that she feels now she's older it would work better between us. Saw her at uni, date, sleep with her and now I've given up trying to make effort with her as she replies with Enthusiasm but barely replies. Again, why say it could work when you have no intention of trying? This girl I'm now dating, I don't really think anything will come of it but I'll give it a chance, she's a friend of a friend and seems normal apart from the fact a friend of mine who is a male slut and her got pretty close. We shall see. Just needed to post something as I keep missing the first girl intensely and it's driving me mad. This has all been from the start of April to now. Obviously I've been with girls before but I'm of the age now that I want something serious.
Zippy2000 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 About 2 months ago I started seeing a mutual friend, for me it was a slow burner, was in control of myself throughout because I wasn't that bothered, she met my family, I met hers although I already knew them but it was brilliant as we all knew each other and had some great fun, I knew she was talking to another lad but I had teased her about him before we had started seeing each other and she always just said he's definetly not anything special, however my experiences I let her get on with it, one night she was speaking to my friends about me and this other lad, she asked me what we were I told her that if she was considering this other lad then see you later she said not a chance. Long story short she is with him now. I was livid for a short period... I mean why straight up lie I gave her opportunities to be honest? . Sorry to hear about your situation but the middle part of this post sounds a lot like me when I was young. A classic example of me being not bothered or ambivlanet only to find out the later the girl gets the other guy. Now I work harder at the relationship and am more consistant. You have to tell a girl early on you like them or you risk friend zoning them. Maybe its the way your pursuing them. Read your post again when you mention seeing a girl on and off, and anotehr girl you have known for ages. You have what I call a "window of opportunity" to get them to become your girlfriend. If you dont they will look elsewhere for love and affection and in this case they did,
scooby-philly Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 What a great place to vent ha? You seem correct in your vent slash/analysis on all three situations - of course it is a one sided view, but from your angle it seems okay. I will say - having not started to date till my late 20's almost 30....just keep it up. You'll learn to brush things off quicker and never forget - if you start jumping onto a board like this, then there's something going on you need to discuss/think about
Glitters Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 You are upset but I would still say that don't mess with a nice girl. It comes back to bite you big time. Learn to value what you have , when you have.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 Haha it's a brilliant place to vent because most of your friends will just tell you to man up and move on and avoid the topic completely. I'm experienced with women I just chose these ones as this year is the first year I've felt in a position to meet someone to become serious with. It wasn't that I didn't make effort, I did, I made a lot of effort it's just the fact that it was effort instead of me being desperate to do it. I don't think it came across that way, just disheartening to keep meeting people that will straight up lie to your face for as long as they want you. I never mess women about, even though I've been messed about on numerous occasions everyone i date gets a chance, I don't speak to other women and I'm always completely honest about my intentions. It's just been a frustrating year and a miss someone I'll probably never see or say a word to again.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 So the girl I went to see at uni keeps directing snapchats at me since I've stopped making effort but I'm thinking more and more about the first girl, is the only way to stop thinking about her to actively stop yourself from doing it or is it just normal?
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