Monday Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 *caugh* My little sister's ex boyfriend to be exact Ok...since the beginning of her Senior year, my baby sister has had a thing for a guy in her class...and since he's so dumb and ugly, and she's so perfect and beautiful, he had a thing for her too. So they got together. He was a good guy. He'd come over to visit her at my parents' house, he'd play Manopoly with her and let her off free if she landed on his Hotels... anyhoo, after dating her for about six month, he dumped her. And here's the glorious reason: She's not allowed to date. Now...my parents are stricter than strict. You think God has strict rules? You ain't seen NOTHING! So...my sister's boyfriend would come visit her at my parents'. But he would show up a couple of hours late...and sometimes, he wouldn't come over, because he wanted to 'sleep in' or something dumb like that. He saw her in school every day. He had a truck. He could come and go as he pleased. He KNEW that my sister wasn't allowed to go out with him when he and her got together. But my parents would let him come over. But they weren't allowed to go into a room and close the door (my parents didnt' think it "looked" right) Well...he wasn't happy with this. This wasnt' enough for him. He knew what he was getting into...he was dating a beautiful, innocent, Christian Virgin with STRICT parents. So...a month before their prom, he breaks up with her, claiming, "he loves her, but he can't just see her at her Mom and Dad's, because it's too strained...he feels like someone is always watching them." Ok...I lived with this when I was TWENTY!!!! MY HUSBAND DEALT WITH IT FOR TWO MONTHS AND MARRIED ME!!!! We didn't sleep together before we got married...He loved me enough to accept that I came with strict parent baggage...until we got married. Well, her goofy boyfriend was trying to get her to move in with him. He was saying crap like, "I love you, but I can't be with you at your parents' house." I say BULLCRAP!!! You don't Loooooooove her, you want to get her alone so you can screw her And I'm sure she wants to screw you too, and she would've thrown all caution to the wind already, if our parents weren't tyrants...but HE KNEW THIS FROM THE BEGINNING!!!! So now, he's playing these stupid games, breaking up with her "because of her parents" so she will go against her family to be with him My sister doesn't see it that way though. Where I would say, "Well, if you really LOVE me, then where you see me shouldn't matter...if it's a pnumonia infested cancer unit that you had to come to to see me, that shouldn't be a problem if you LOVE me. Now, if you're just wanting to get in my pants, THEN I can understand why there's a problem seeing me at my parents' place..." But she said she understood I was 18 a few years ago...I remember what it was like to want to be ALONE with your boyfriend. but...come on...don't say the reason you're dumping my little sister is because my parents make you uncomfortable..just be straight with her!!! &*I want something I can stick my dick in, but I can't get you alone long enough to do it, so I'm dumping you*& JUST SAY IT!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T MAKE HER HATE MY PARENTS BECAUSE THEY WON'T LET YOU SCREW HER!!!! GOOD GOSH!!!!!! Am I wrong!?!? Is he GENUINELY in love with her, but can't put up with the pressure? Or does he care about her, but he cares about pussy more, and can't get hers, so he's dumping her??? AM I WRONG!?!?!?!?!
EC Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I think he cares for her but he wants to get laid. And he can't be 'alone' with her because of her parents. Besides it's really hard to find a girl with really strict parents now a days,. A 'good girl' so hes probably frustrated because he has hoochies and guys friends with hoochie girlfriends and so hes like its not fair I want a hoochie. Also you said right before prom. The night where everyone gets laid and you think he will go with a Christian gf virgin who probably has to be home at 11:00pm. I dont think so. I think he broke up with her and will find another date. I feel so sorry for your sister. Things like this made me hate my parents because of how strict they were with me and guys. Now I love them and thank them but before I hated my parents for doing that to me and I doubted myself and had a lot of insecurities. Better for her that he dumped her. She can now freely find another who truly cares for her.
morrigan Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I think that his reason is a crock of BS. If he truly wanted to be with your sister, yes, he'd get a little irritated by your parents' rules, but he'd realize that if he acted considerate of their wishes, eventually he'd win their trust, and they might loosen up a little. My mom wouldn't let me date at all until I turned 18. I missed out on seeing Metallica due to that, but now that I'm older I'm grateful she wouldn't let me date that young.
quankanne Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 monday, it sounds like you're more upset about the jerk's behavior than yer little sis is ... what has been her response? can you tell her that the guy worth waiting for is the one who treats her like gold and who will wait as long as it takes for her to be lifted from under y'alls parents "you can't date my little girl" rule? because the boy/guy who willingly sacrifices is the one who is worth his weight in gold.
Monday Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by morrigan I think that his reason is a crock of BS. If he truly wanted to be with your sister, yes, he'd get a little irritated by your parents' rules, but he'd realize that if he acted considerate of their wishes, eventually he'd win their trust, and they might loosen up a little. Exactly!
Monday Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by quankanne monday, it sounds like you're more upset about the jerk's behavior than yer little sis is ... what has been her response? can you tell her that the guy worth waiting for is the one who treats her like gold and who will wait as long as it takes for her to be lifted from under y'alls parents "you can't date my little girl" rule? because the boy/guy who willingly sacrifices is the one who is worth his weight in gold. She is like I was. She thinks the boyfriend is right...she understands...our parents are horrible...bla bla bla bla bla... And I got used, abused, crushed, and my heart was stomped on. If I'd just listened to my mom...but alas...*sigh* And she hasn't learned from any of my mistakes. I had a boyfriend play the poor pitiful me, your parents hate me card. My parents didn't hate him but I sided with him, and moved into an apartment. I could've saved the money, and moved into a SAFE place, but I moved into the first place I looked at, because he pushed me so hard to get away from them. Then, as soon as he had me away from them, he started working on me. Then he and I had sex...and he dumped me the next day. So I KNOW what he's doing. I tried to tell her, but she loves him, and all she can see is that he's dumping her because of Mom and Dad. She doesn't see that he doesn't love her enough to put up with them. I'm just so angry at him for trying to come between my parents and my sister...just to get in her pants! If he was truely worth anything, he wouldn't put her through this. He's making her hate her parents...he's telling her that the reason he is dumping her is because of her parents. What a little jerk! It makes me angrier the more I think about it What really ticks me off is what she has to live with now because of him My parents are emotionally abusive. Now that she's made the mistake of confessing that they've snuck off and made out during lunch (*and what human being over 16 hasn't????) they are "oooooh, woe is me....my daughter is making out with a boy.....oooooooooooh woe is me, I'm so disappointed in you...oooooooh woooooooooe is meeeeeeeeeee, you shouldn't sing in church any more, because you're such a horrible sinner you're going to bring a reproach on the chuch..." Ok...they didn't have sex. They touched under the clothes, and kissed....oooh, God will strike lightening on them. But since she wasn't "allowed" to, they are soooooo disappointed. This 'ex' offered for my little sister to move in with him. Ok, after all the mind tricks he's playing (I'm dumping you because your parents hate me...*even though they really liked him*) she THOUGHT about moving in with him. But she didn't. She decided it wasn't worth it to her. My mom bawled like a baby because my little sister thought about moving in with her boyfriend So now they make sure my little sister KNOWS how disappointed they are in her, and how much she's hurt THEM. NEVER MIND the pain she's going through. And all because of this stupid little prick who can't keep his little prick in his pants If he LOVED her, he'd have said something like, "I don't think we are in the same place in our lives" or some bull sh*t like that...dont' blame Mom and Dad and make my sister have to live in MISERY!!!!! Now that I've talked about it, I'm THIS CLOSE to driving down there and beating the crap out of this little twerp
CurlyIam Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Monday, I love you to death,but your parents's stuck up attitude made you such an easy pray and are making your sister an ever easier pray. She's over 18, she has the right to some privacy. Just because you took it, doesn't mean that she has to take it also. I was a virgin till I was older than 19 and a half. I moved out to college, started dating this cool guy and could have gone at it immediately. Nope, I waited to be sure. I was living all alone at first and than got an appartment mate and yet waited some more. If your parents raised her up to have her own convictions, than she's SAFE. If they don't trust her and need to guard her, she'd just as well have sex with her ugly bf in his truck when mom and dad aren't looking. My point: tell your sister to move out with a friend. IT's time to face the real world and your parents are doing EVERYTHING they can to prevent her from it. They are practically keeping her hostage in her own house. Tell her to move out and start bc pills. And wait for at least 4 months prior to her moving out. If the guy still sticks around, she may have a chance not to be used for sex exclusivily. Bf or no bf, moving out isn't just an option, is what I, as a loving sister and friend would highly suggest.
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