lunaleone17 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 (edited) We were together for 10 months, and I was his first girlfriend. We were happy, we met in college. Summer happened, and we had to be part for a few months. It wasn't the best because I have been in long distance relationships before and they never worked. I had trust issues, he had trust issues, so it wasn't the best for us. We reunited in the Fall, and things weren't the same. I thought the distance was the problem, but it wasn't. He accused me of cheating over the summer, and I was suspicious too but then that soon went away. We started arguing more about his friends, and how he never gets to spend time with them so I gave him some space. I'm confused because we've been broken up for a few weeks, but we talked. We even hooked up but it still hurt because the emotions were still raw. He said "if I was to be with anyone it would be you, but I'm not sure if I should be with anyone right now" he said he is confused about what he wants, and he needs time to think. So should I give him space? And how long should I give him that space? I'm scared that if I give him space he's going to meet someone else. I feel like he's just stringing me along but why would he do that? I'm his first girlfriend, I was his first kiss, and we had lost our virginity to each other. The connection is still there and he still hasn't deleted any photos of us on social media. So what should I do? This was my first long term relationship, and I'm still hurting. If anyone has any kind of advice that'd be so great. He has been stressed about school so maybe that's the problems as well? Help! Edited December 15, 2015 by lunaleone17
d0nnivain Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Recognize that your connection is weak at best, facilitated by your proximity at school. If you couldn't make it through 15 weeks of summer break without suspicion & distrust what exactly are you trying to put back together?
cupcakebunny Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 The relationship will always be important to you because it was your "first" in a lot of ways, but as the previous poster said...you should be able to go 15 weeks without significant trust issues. Again, it's one thing for a passing wonder and then letting it go but for it to devolve into all out arguments with no proof or reason for suspicion other than "distance" is sort of a big red flag. Those trust issues have a way of getting worse and don't get better without a lot of work and he seems to not want to put in any. I would cut your losses and enjoy school. It only happens once.
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