Why is she acting interested after rejecting me?

[QuentinJ]

This girl and I work together. We got close. Started texting and talking to each other every single night. This went on for a few months. Long story short, I asked her out and she said yes only to reply she was busy later on. Since she didn't give me a reschedule I took that as a sign she was rejecting me. Afterwards, I went no contact with her. And she ignored me back. When the work environment began getting hostile (with us ignoring each other), I decided to start being polite again eventhough i was still upset to keep the work space friendly.

 

Problem is now she's back to doing flirty things she did before that made me think she was interested. She's tried to text me a few times. She likes everything on my instagram page (i have 30 photos on there, she's liked 20 of them, more than anyone else). I catch her staring at me all the time. Yesterday she was just hovering in my work space pretending to be busy but, once I said something to her, she immediately came over and started talking. I was talking to another girl at work this week and she just stared at us from across the room like she was jealous. She laughs, smiles, twirls her hair, all the body language signals girls do when they're being flirty. She'll stand super close to me. She'll do all sorts of sweet things for me. I can't explain it but, you can tell when you and someone else are having a moment and they're trying to be tender with you. She does that alot. Like she'll hand me something and will just stare at me for a couple of seconds afterwards. She still tries to come find me in areas throughout the building and talk to me about her life and have deep convos like we used to have before, eventhough I try to cut her off and keep the convos short. She tells me how amazing I am and how much I'm there for her and how good of a person I am.

 

Through all of this, I've been extremely apathetic towards her. I know I'm on here asking this question (so she's on my mind) but, when I'm around her, I act as if I'm not interested but, yet she continues to do all of these things. I don't get it. She also blocked me from her facebook last week, which is a sign she's over it, only to go on my instagram every day and like everything i post (like today). Her behavior is all over the place. Did I miss something? I asked her out. She blew me off. I'm trying to move on. Trying to distance myself. Why is she acting like she wants me still?

Edited December 15, 2015 by QuentinJ

[Snakechammah]

Do you really want to get involved with someone like that?

 

She sounds like an attention-seeker.

 

Dude, if she likes you, she wouldn't have blown you off.

 

Move on and pick a kinder and healthier girl.

[Omei]

I don't think I even need to read the post if shes already rejected you but acts interested to maintain your fancy on her yeah she doesnt want you but she wants you to still want her because its an ego boost, likes the attention.

[Glass Hut]

Sounds very similar to my recent episode: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/561771-got-turned-down

 

Most people characterized that girl I fancied as an attention whore who just wanted my attention and that she is a horrible person and to stay away from her. I personally still want her but I am apparently unable to realize I am being used emotionally and it's a bad thing keep doing to me.

[Leucine]

Well, regardless of how she's acting now (you aren't being any better, for the record), you blew it when you first started ignoring her. Some people actually might be busy once in a while and not committed to arranging time for you specifically when you haven't even been on one single date yet. She was obviously interested judging from the following events, but since you couldn't handle what you perceived as a rejection, it has now come to both of you being really uncomfortable around each other. If you're going to ask out someone at work that you see around every day, be a man enough to not make any fuss about it when it doesn't go exactly as planned.

Edited December 20, 2015 by Leucine