Hadn't he ever loved me?

[Seneya]

It's a bit long. My bf broke up with two weeks ago because he was very sure his parents wouldn't allow me to marry him. But I don't think his parents are the only reason for his decision. He himself seemed distracted and less invested in the relationship, I felt like pushing him to be in this relationship.

He texted me the day after we broke up to ask how I was. I replied casually. On Day 2 he texted me again but I didn't reply because I didn't feel like replying. When he saw no response he got worried and texted me to ensure if I was okay. I ignored him again. From that day we stopped all kind of contacts. I stopped being on Facebook completely because then I would have gotten the urge to stalk him or send him messages which I didn't want at all.

Then I texted him few days later because I was missing him badly, it was just a casual message. He replied positively so I thought he still had feelings for me. Then a day later I asked him if we could be friends and he said we would be but we need to lessen the amount of communication. I asked him if he still loved me, he said he wouldn't be answering that question. That was the last contact we had.

He stopped talking to me now. I think he has moved on so am I trying. But the question is how can he move on so easily? Does that mean he never loved me?

[d0nnivain]

No it doesn't mean he never loved you. It means that he's working to move on. He may have emotionally checked out of your relationship before he officially ended it making his time to emotionally heal seemingly shorter.

 

 

Focus on yourself & your healing. Don't worry about him.

[xuanqi1988]

When dealing with breakups, We often get caught up with the question: did they ever love me? Because if they did, how could they have changed so drastically and even without any legit reason?

The truth is it doesn't matter whether they loved you or not, its all in the past and what's done is done. We should focus on the current situation and move on.