Author Glass Hut Posted December 28, 2015 Author Posted December 28, 2015 I don't disagree. This is a mess. I should've been more forthcoming and assertive with her when I had the chance and at least she might have slept with me when she was single. Now I'm in hell and I don't want to be here. Also I'm a grad student in my early 30s and she's quite a bit younger and I can't easily duplicate her. But again both of you are probably right. I didn't respect the boundaries and she'll never forgive me for the way I mishandled this situation. But I will be nice to her because I do wish her the best.
joet Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I don't disagree. This is a mess. I should've been more forthcoming and assertive with her when I had the chance and at least she might have slept with me when she was single. Now I'm in hell and I don't want to be here. Also I'm a grad student in my early 30s and she's quite a bit younger and I can't easily duplicate her. But again both of you are probably right. I didn't respect the boundaries and she'll never forgive me for the way I mishandled this situation. But I will be nice to her because I do wish her the best. Why do you want to be with someone who disrespected you behind your back? If anything, you should learn from this situation about being more demonstrative when talking to women you are interested in. Forget this girl and any potential friendship because you'll always be waiting for her to change her mind about you.
CollegeKid101 Posted December 28, 2015 Posted December 28, 2015 I don't disagree. This is a mess. I should've been more forthcoming and assertive with her when I had the chance and at least she might have slept with me when she was single. Now I'm in hell and I don't want to be here. Also I'm a grad student in my early 30s and she's quite a bit younger and I can't easily duplicate her. But again both of you are probably right. I didn't respect the boundaries and she'll never forgive me for the way I mishandled this situation. But I will be nice to her because I do wish her the best. Okay, so trickier situation considering you're a bit older. Do you feel somewhat out of place in grad school? Could potentially be the reason you were so invested in this girl, but that's just a suggestion, I could be completely wrong. Anyways, man you sound like a great guy. You clearly care about her and like her. She hurt you and you weren't even dating. Would you want to actually date someone like that? Do not think you're in hell. Things will get better, you'll meet a girl who doesn't fancy multiple guys at the same time and plays with your feelings. Try online dating, hell even Tinder can get you laid if that's what you're looking for. The point is, she's just a girl. There's tons more out there and being on a college campus only benefits you. Be nice, but don't go out of your way to talk to her or even let her believe you still care about her. Because guess what? You don't! She's irrelevant and does not matter. Continue focusing on yourself and if it helps you, her flaws. Remember she chose another guy over you, would you really want to be with someone like that? I wouldn't. You're going to be just fine, grad school is tough. My close friend just got prescribed anti-depressants due to how stressful grad school has been and he's been unlucky with girls as well. He's a completely different person now after he got some medication from his doctor. His outlook on life is way better and he does not care about trivial things that do not matter. While I'm not saying you need some sort of drug to help you get through this, it's nothing to be ashamed about. Depression is a real thing. I wish you all the best and I apologize if I came off as rude at first
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