Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Im 27 and she is 40. She tells me how cute and funny I am, and in the next breathe she says, "but youre far too young for me, it'd be like kissing my son!" and "if you're expecting sex, we shouldn't meet. I'm as clean as snow she says she has "bawdy humor" but also says she is shy initailly meeting. Jokes about xray vision and if I can see her bra/panties in her pictures. Then the next breath, "I don't have sex with anyone who I don't see a long term relationship with." So, what gives?
winny Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 What do you want? Do you want just sex? Or are you looking for a long term relationship? Go ahead and meet her. But this seems to me like a weirdo woman. So be careful.
Author Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 What do you want? Do you want just sex? Or are you looking for a long term relationship? Go ahead and meet her. But this seems to me like a weirdo woman. So be careful. Ideally a FWB situation. Definitely not a relationship. What makes you say she sounds weird?
bluefeather Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 That just sounds like a challenge. Go for it. But dont be disappointed (especially not in her) if you fail to bring her around.
winny Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Ideally a FWB situation. Definitely not a relationship. What makes you say she sounds weird? Have you told her thats what you want?
SoThatHappened Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 She's already saying some weird things and you haven't even met. Red flag = run. That's just me but I'm also very good at spotting red flags now. She's also 13 years your senior. Not a bad thing but she's almost a generation ahead of you. She sounds weird and it doesn't seem like humor, just weird.
truth_seeker Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Im 27 and she is 40. She tells me how cute and funny I am, and in the next breathe she says, "but youre far too young for me, it'd be like kissing my son!" and "if you're expecting sex, we shouldn't meet. I'm as clean as snow she says she has "bawdy humor" but also says she is shy initailly meeting. Jokes about xray vision and if I can see her bra/panties in her pictures. Then the next breath, "I don't have sex with anyone who I don't see a long term relationship with." So, what gives? She's toying with you. She likes the attention from a younger man. The son comment is bogus. She's not that old and you're not too young. You're almost 30 and she's only 40. Keep your head on straight with this woman. Don't let her play mind games with you. Go into this knowing what you want, get it, and get out. Be focused and definitely do not catch feelings for this crazy broad. 1
xcupid Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 She's talking about sex and you haven't even met?! She sounds like a cougar.
truth_seeker Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 She's already saying some weird things and you haven't even met. Red flag = run. That's just me but I'm also very good at spotting red flags now. She's also 13 years your senior. Not a bad thing but she's almost a generation ahead of you. She sounds weird and it doesn't seem like humor, just weird. This woman is a RED FLAG. She's unstable and nutty. All OP can do is have some meaningless sex with her. Just hope she isn't Glen Close in Fatal Attraction. I've said it here before, but older women in relationships with younger men, something off with that. Just to use celebs as an example. Hugh Jackman is 13 years younger than his wife. He's in his 40's and she's almost 60. Something weird about that. Yet, Derek Jeter is 40 and his fiance is 24. I see nothing wrong with that.
Ami1uwant Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 She's talking about sex and you haven't even met?! She sounds like a cougar. Sounds. ?!?!!?!?!? Try is a cougar. This is going yo go mowhere.
Author Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 Last night we were texting. She is in grad school and working on a paper, and I jokingly said I'll work on her paper for her and she just has to pay me in kisses. She laughed and declined, and then later texts me "**** it, this paper is taking forever. are you still offering doing my paper for sex? haha jk. we'll talk about it tomorrow"
dobielover Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Have you told her thats what you want? This. Have you told her what you're looking for? She's told you what she doesn't want, and that doesn't align with what you do. So why are you pursuing this?
central Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 You'll know after meeting her. She's keeping her options open, is all - attracting you with sexual innuendo, yet pushing you away. If she likes you in person, she'll probably seal the deal, and if not, well, she said you're too young so has a ready excuse.
Author Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 You'll know after meeting her. She's keeping her options open, is all - attracting you with sexual innuendo, yet pushing you away. If she likes you in person, she'll probably seal the deal, and if not, well, she said you're too young so has a ready excuse. hmmm this makes sense.
Author Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 we are meeting tonight for drinks
Author Mark1 Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 If I suggest we go back to my place or her place, and she says no, should I tease her and push it a bit? Or wait until the second date?
bluefeather Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 If I suggest we go back to my place or her place, and she says no, should I tease her and push it a bit? Or wait until the second date? That takes skill. I don't know you so can't tell you something so cut and dry.If you have to ask, I would go with no. Leave it alone. Good luck either way, though...
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