zep52 Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 We split up back in October for the first time and since then have got back together twice, now here i am again for the third time, same old story she comes back to me after i chase her but after about 6 weeks she starts getting moody and argumentative resulting in a row and we go our separate ways, i know she misses me and god knows i miss her but what is it with the moods ? She can be so loving one minute and then in the blink of an eye turn completely on me accusing me of things that are just not true, twisting everything i say so as to justify her mood, it lasts for days and ends up with me losing my temper and saying things i know will hurt her, and then NC for a couple of months, She has always come back before, but this time it feels different, she sent me a text 2 weeks after the row telling me that she was with someone else who she REALLY LOVED, tore my heart out and ever since i have been haunted by those words, the rational part of me says she said it to hurt me, a get back, but there is the other side that thinks maybe she is, its tearing me up Everyone says i should keep strict NC and see if she returns, but I'm finding it really hard to keep from contacting her, should i just ride out this pain and move on ? or should i wait and see what happens ? i just don't know, i miss her like crazy, and I'm sure she is missing me but how can i ever trust in a future for us with our track record, its like its all a game to her, what do you guys think, Dave
Craig Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by zep52 She can be so loving one minute and then in the blink of an eye turn completely on me accusing me of things that are just not true, twisting everything i say so as to justify her mood, it lasts for days zep52, NC is best and don't go back. You can't trust someone as unstable as she is. I'd guess that she will become more and more unstable as she ages and more than likely wind up alone with only her mood swings to keep her company. The thing that hurts in these kinds of relationships is that the good times are so good and that is hard to let go of. Inevitably the partners of these people (men or women) do let go of the relationship. Sometimes the partners of people like this stay in the relationship for decades and in the end are left with nothing but a deep embittering stressful sadness and memories of years wasted. It's time for you to heal and use this as a learning experience and to do that you have to maintain NC.
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