Bakezz Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Hello, I joined this site about a year and a half ago to help cope with the break up of my girlfriend on 3 years. Reading advice helped massively and was able to overcome the bad feelings, albeit slowly! So I'm back for some more advice on a current situation and would love for someone to enlighten me! I've stayed single since breaking up with my ex for over a year and have spent the entire time focusing on and improving myself. I now have myself a job as a police officer and gained my self confidence back! So in my current situation, I started speaking to a girl I had seen about while I've been out having a drink and things. We texted daily for over a month but I never saw her, then we decided that we should do something, so I went to hers and got a pizza and watched a film and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex! This continued for a couple of weeks on a few occasions and the other week I got the vibe that she was only in it for sex! I asked her what we are doing and how she felt and her reply was that she is a very closed person but she likes spending time with me and that she does like me! I don't know whether it's me overthinking or what, but she takes her time replying to texts and doesn't seem very enthusiastic over text! I know she takes her time replying to other people aswell as I've witnessed it. But it just confuses me because she always has her phone in her hand hahaha I still get the vibe that's she's just about sex and she is not actually that fond of me, which sounds great to some guys, but in the job that I do, it's nice to have someone to talk emotionally to aswell as a coping strategy! The other issue is that she's going 'traveling' to Australia in a month for potentially a while, although she says she reckons she's only going for a month! I have absolutely no problem with her travelling or going away as she is a little younger than me and I'd be extremely selfish if I ruined it for her! My question is, what do I do? I like her, more than I thought I would, but on the other hand, I'm strong enough to cut it off and move on! I just don't know which way to go! Thanks in advance and sorry if it makes no sense, feel free to ask more questions!
xcupid Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Wait until she comes back from her trip to aussie land and then see if you both reconnect or whether you've found someone else in the meantime.
Mrin Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 It's probably about the sex and the low key companionship. At least right now. Women are often amazingly pragmatic souls and she's going down under for "probably" a month soon. No way a pragmatic woman lets her heart get all wrapped up in a police officer right before a walkabout. So ya, right now it is just what it is. See if anything is there when she comes back.
Author Bakezz Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 Sorry to bring this up again, it's just completely rattled my brain again and for once I genuinely don't know which way to look or what to do! So some time has passed since I first posted this and we've been okay, I decided to carry on with the whole thing, stupid me. Nothing bad has happened since the original post, she's had a few family problems to deal with and has thanked me for being there for her and what not. I did something nice for her the other day and afterwards she sent a nice text saying something along the lines of "I don't know what I've done to deserve you but you're amazing and you have no idea how close I was to saying those three words, but I'm a wimp" That made me happy, but she goes to oz on Friday and I still don't really know what's going to happen, so I asked her tonight. Her reply was something along the lines of "I don't know what's going to happen and I was going to go single as it would save either of us getting hurt" I told her that's fine and thanks for letting me know and I had the intention of just leaving it completely and that's when she said she didn't know what she wanted and that if she could get it out of her head that I wouldn't meet someone else and that I would wait for her, she'd go to oz with us being together. So I literally do not know what to do, whether she's just stringing me along or genuinely does want to be with me. Anyone that can make sense of this and help would be so appreciated, I'm so stuck right now! Thank you Edit - in one of the texts she did say that she loved me!
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