begman Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 My ex sent me an email today after months of NC. It wasn't anything major. She sent a bunch of pictures of her brother in Iraq and talked about how he is doing. I don't know if I should respond or not. I briefly saw her on Saturday at a bar. I was on my way out as she was coming in. I was with my ex ex. I didn't talk to her. I'm trying to move on and I still have feelings so I wasn't to happy about the email. Should I respond? Why is she emailing me after all of this time? She didn't ask how I'm doing she just talked about her brother and thought I would be interested in seeing the pictures. She broke up with me and has been seeing someone. Women, I don't get them and the games they play.
justwantsmiles Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I hate when they do that. If there were no big cues that she wants you back or something, then the email means nothing in those terms. She's just missing the person she used to talk to most. Perhaps she's feeling a bit loney and in a moment of mini-panic she decided to see if you're still on the hook. Responding will give her her answer. If you really feel you have to (or really, really want to) then I'd wait at least a week, then respond. Seeing you with your ex ex could have triggered a twinge of jealousy. It always happens whether you want to be with a person or not... seeing them with someone else hurts. Acting on it usually results in nothing but re-opened wounds. Feel your pain brother -- I'm on day seven right now. I wish it was months!
Author begman Posted May 31, 2005 Author Posted May 31, 2005 Thanks brother. Day 7 huh? Keep your chin up. It will get harder before it gets easier but the one thing that you have to look forward to is that it does get easier. I'm friends now with my ex ex after almost two years. We've been actually talking about getting back together. I don't know if we will but we are friends now which is more important. It is the last relationship I had that still hurts but with everyday it gets better. Until she emails me or I see her out. That part sucks but it doesn't affect me as much as it did months ago. Days become months and before you know it she will be a distant memory.
justwantsmiles Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I agree with the "gets easier" aspect of it except that mine works on the second floor of the company I work on the third floor of. Everyone in the place knows we're together, NO ONE knows anything is wrong, and I see her in our cafe, parking lot, and hallways every day.
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