brokengrounds Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Im going to try and make this as short as possible, but I need some advice most of all. About a year ago I fell in love with a man that was in a relationship that I didnt know about (first mistake). I lived 5 hours away so there wasn't much that could really be done. I cut off contact and before I knew it he was single and ready to commit to me. So the first half of our relationship was long distance but he always made an effort to come and see me whenever he got a chance, which ended up usually being every weekend. We had so much fun together, it nothing I had ever experienced before. I was head over heels in love with this man and for the first time in forever I had finally felt someone feel the same way about me that I did about them. Now our relationship wasn't always rainbows and butterflies. We definitely had our problems, nothing serious though. We fought over the silliest things and would disagree on certain things, but nothing that I ever thought were a big enough issue for us not to be together. We began discussing closing the distance to make things more serious. He was from my home town so it was a pretty easy decision for me to move back there be close to not only him but my family and friends as well. I was so excited when moving day finally came. So fast forward a little bit. I moved back to my home town and immediately moved in with my boyfriend. Now hes never lived with a girlfriend before so it was a bit of an adjustment for him. But we had lots of fun, share mostly similar interests so we would do those things together. The past few months I've had a little bit of personal issues, not really sure what. But you know when you just feel sad for the sake of feeling of sad? Thats what I had been going through. I felt like I was closing myself off from him, which is not what I had intended to do. We began fighting more, still over just stupid things but I think maybe he was beginning to notice this. I realized myself that nothing was seriously wrong in my life and that I needed to smarten up and not let what ever is going on effect my relationship. Then very suddenly something changed. My boyfriend (now ex) was extremely closed off for about two days. I had asked if anything was bothering him, but he never said anything, hes also not very good at talking about his feelings. Finally I got up early one morning before he had left to work so we could talk about things. He said that he was unhappy and that the relationship wasn't everything we had thought it would be. I agreed that I was also unhappy, but I meant in a more personal sense not anything to do with him. That night I came home from work and we broke up and I packed all of my belongings and moved back in with my parents. We continued talking, mostly through text. I was very confused at how sudden everything had felt. He now says he is going through depression, which I know he battled with when he was younger, and that he needs time to be able to make himself happy before he can be in a relationship again. I understand this and of course only want him to be happy, but I also know how important this relationship is to me. We had our entire life planned out together all the way to retirement so this is very devastating for me. There is absolutely no serious problems in our relationship, nothing that we wouldn't be able to work through at least. I don't know how to let all of this go, let him go. I just changed my entire life to come here and be with him and now this has happened. We've been broken up for a week and last night I finally made the decision that he have to go onto no contact terms which kills me Is this relationship really over? Some one help me, please.
Pamvhv Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Sounds like there's someone else and he's a grass is greener kind of guy.
Author brokengrounds Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 I really honestly don't think this is the case. But who knows, perhaps you're right.
mightycpa Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 When it comes out of the blue like that, and they are evasive, there is generally someone new that interests them. When it comes out of the blue, but they explain the circumstances of how they got there, it is more about falling out of love. Not a rule, but a rule of thumb.
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