summerlove22 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 There's this guy that I posted about a few months ago, who gave me his number and suggested we go out for drinks but when I got round to texting him he was really vague about it and it never happened. Since then, we have gotten friendlier in person, whenever he sees me (about once or twice a week), he always comes over to me for a chat, he calls me beautiful, and sometimes gives me hugs or kisses on the cheek. We have been slowly getting to know eachother in our interactions, and I still get this vibe that he likes me but he's just not asking me out. I thought maybe he's shy/scared of rejection, so over the past few months when we chat and I mention a party or an event I'm going to and he sounds interested in it, I tell him to come and he says yea sure but when it comes round to it he doesn't come, or if I text him with the details he doesn't continue with the conversation over text. I've given up in "asking him out' but I don't understand why he won't just go out with me if he gave me his number all these months ago. Has the fact that I've asked him out put him off me? But then why is he always so friendly with me in person? When people see us interact together, they think somethings going on (a few people have asked me if we are going out), they say he always talks to me none of the other girls, and we get on really well. I'm really attracted to him, and I'm sure he is me - he calls me beautiful, and I catch him staring sometimes. I'm really confused here, and I don't know what to do.
ravfour4 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 You are currently a side option for him, one he is disrespecting by continually calling you beautiful. You're there in case all other girls don't work. That's why he leads you on just enough to keep you around, but never actually meets up. He likes the ego boost you give him. Pull away and stop responding to him, if there's any attraction there it will grow when he doesn't know if he has you anymore. If you keep asking him to do things and show him you like him, you will never progress, but really you should just find someone new.
Glitters Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 An interested guy acts interested. You wont have to question, especially after a certain amount of time has passed.
angel.eyes Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Most likely he just wants to be (platonic) friends. The other possibility is that he's somewhat interested, but not really. For example, he has a girlfriend, or he's going through a dry spell and he's on the fence because you aren't really what he's looking for but nothing else is panning out. If he were genuinely interested in dating you, it would have happened by now. He hasn't been shy about seeking you out to chat, giving you his number, suggesting you go for drinks, etc. He just refuses to follow through and make it happen even though you're on board and trying. I think he's keeping you on the hook in case he runs out of options. If a guy doesn't get it together and ask me out in a reasonable timeframe (like a week or two) I'm on to the next. I would recommend you do the same and focus on other guys. Don't let this guy string you along. It will just be a waste of time, emotion, and headspace.
preraph Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I think it's one of two things. Either he's all bark and no bite (doesn't have the nerve and is too nervous to actually go out with you) or he is really just playing with you and probably has someone in the periphery he's more focused on than you and not serious and not ready to ask you out.
frus69 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 lol you sure he doesn't secretly have a gf? 1
Erik30 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 Based on what you're saying, he doesn't seem to be shy. You've asked him out months ago and it still hasn't happened, so I guess he's not that interested. A guy who likes you wouldn't keep blowing you off. Maybe there's another girl in his life
thecrucible Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I wonder if he has a romantic interest already? Maybe they had a bad batch but they got it resolved after he had asked your number? Sounds unlikely but I've encountered guys like this - it's like they want to dip their toe in the water and still feel like a catch while they have a gf. It's shady behaviour but something I have seen before.
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