vincentvin Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What if you want to travel with her to another country but she doesn't earn much. Will you pay on her behalf?
TheTraveler Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What if you want to travel with her to another country but she doesn't earn much. Will you pay on her behalf? how long have you been dating?
Methodical Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 If it would be a financial burden for her to accommodate your request, by all means, pay her way. 1
TheCatInTheHat Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What if you want to travel with her to another country but she doesn't earn much. Will you pay on her behalf? Absolutely.
Author vincentvin Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 how long have you been dating? Been dating for around 8 months. The thing is that she makes 50% of what I make and I can afford to go where I want to go but she has to save until she reaches the threshold. So I was wondering if its a good idea to spend on her as I don't want to spoil her. What do you all think?
Lily blue Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 My boy friend did. I had to go to see my kids in another state and he paid for my flight and gave me cash and his debit card. Drove me to airport and picked me up after I came back. After two weeks, I gave him the money, he refuse to take it. I would do the same for him.
kismetkismet Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 You don't want to "spoil" her? She's not your child... If YOU want to go on these trips, and you want her to be there, and she can't comfortably afford it but you can... then of course you could help her out financially. It's not even just for her if you are the one that wants her company. I have helped boyfriends out to come on trips with me when times were a bit tough because I wanted them there. Otherwise you could go alone, but if you are more comfortable with that than with helping her out it's not a very good sign for how much you care about the relationship.
Yungste16 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 It depends on how long we've been dating and if it the vacation was with me and how expensive it was and also how good of a girlfriend she is.
TheTraveler Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Been dating for around 8 months. The thing is that she makes 50% of what I make and I can afford to go where I want to go but she has to save until she reaches the threshold. So I was wondering if its a good idea to spend on her as I don't want to spoil her. What do you all think? Have her chip in what she can afford. For example, you pay for flights, etc. She pays for the hotel, etc. You both get to go and both are contributing in some way.
WhirlwindGuy Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I absolutely would. If money is an issue for you, perhaps you should be dating someone closer to your earning levels?
wb1988 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 (edited) Have her chip in what she can afford. No, I hate to say it but it's much better to just pay the whole thing. If she pays even a dime then she'll feel like she paid, like equality, and suddenly it doesn't even feel like you're treating her. I once traveled with an ex and unfortunately our check in luggage was over-limit and we had to pay £80 for the extra. Although I paid maybe £2.5k ($4k) all-in for the trip she brought up the fact that she paid the £80 so many times that it almost felt like she paid her equal share and robbed me of the fact that I was treating her. Never again!!!!!!!!!!!! My boy friend did. I had to go to see my kids in another state and he paid for my flight and gave me cash and his debit card. Drove me to airport and picked me up after I came back. After two weeks, I gave him the money, he refuse to take it. I would do the same for him. Yeah but will you? Like ever? Yes I would. Gaeta I know for a fact that if the situation was the opposite you'd be saying that the guy is a deadbeat and OP should dump his ass. Edited December 14, 2015 by wb1988
xcupid Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 She pays what she can. You make up the difference.
Maggie4 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 If you don't want to cover all costs, at least don't split it down the middle, cos traveling together is not twice as much as traveling alone.
jen1447 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What if you want to travel with her to another country but she doesn't earn much. Will you pay on her behalf? Yep. Wouldn't even be a topic.
MoreAmore Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 In every relationship I've had where my partner made significantly more, he has paid for my way in travel. In my current relationship where we are more similar in earnings, he pays sometimes and I pay sometimes when we travel. If you have a partner, you don't worry about spoiling them (your partner is not a child) or him/her taking advantage (why be with them if that's what you think of him/her?) 1
deep_night Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 if you actually want to give her the trip as a gift/surprise yes, you pay for her too. if it's something you've planned together, then the fair thing is that you share the expenses.
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