Inflikted Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I wouldn't necessarily say I have "social anxiety", but I am very socially inept, and as it is, I can barely hold a conversation with another person, let alone forge an actual connection with anyone. Anyway, I find myself in a position where there's just no potential to meet anyone and establish a social life, or anything like that. For a long time, I was banking on being able to connect with coworkers from the place I worked; we generally hired and lost people fairly frequently, a lot of them were people in their early to mid 20s that were closer to my peer range. I never actually connected with any of them, of course, due to my social issues, but at least there was potential there. However, the place I worked closed down a few months ago, and I had to find new work. I've settled into a new job, however, unlike my previous job, employee turnover isn't very high at all, and we don't hire very often. We're also made up of a fairly small crew, about six people not including myself. And while I basically like all my coworkers, they're not really in my "peer" range. They're all older than me, they're all engaged/ married and/ or have kids, so they're more about their families than having active social lives, so I can't really relate to them very well. So now I'm stuck in a spot where I'm either at home or at work, and work is no longer a viable source of meeting new people to potentially make friends with, and whatnot. But I don't know what else to do. There aren't any activities, hobbies, or "groups" that I'm even a little bit interested in exploring. I have no interest in athletic things. I'm not interested at all in doing volunteer/ charity work. I can't think of any interests I could explore in such a way to meet people. I'm not the type that could go out to a bar, or whatever, by myself, and meet people (I'm more the type that would just sit by myself in a corner, keeping to myself). It just kind of drives me crazy now, knowing that I'm at a point where I literally have zero potential to meet people and establish any semblance of a social life. And I don't really know what to do...
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 You have to find a way to conquer your anxiety I suggest joining a group called ToastMasters. It's really about public speaking but it can help build confidence. Getting into therapy will also be beneficial.
Author Inflikted Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 You have to find a way to conquer your anxiety I suggest joining a group called ToastMasters. It's really about public speaking but it can help build confidence. Getting into therapy will also be beneficial. It's not really "anxiety" I have, though. Being around people or in social situations doesn't make me "anxious" or "nervous", or anything like that. I just can't connect with anyone, in any way. I always tend to feel out of place.
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