LookAtThisPOst Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I think there is a general thread called "Online Dating". We could boost it up the board a bit. I can certainly relate to a lot of what you are sharing here. Yeah, and when I read them, they all start to sound the same. "Looking for my partner in crime", "Life's too short to sweat the small stuff", "I like to keep busy", and the ever popular, "I like to live life to the fullest!" Don't forget the comparison/contrast of the ability to wear clothing that's either casual, when out in the yard to formal...at an evening formal, "I can wear torn jeans to my little black dress when out on the town!" "Must be taller than 5'10" (She's 5'3") 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I have been witness to a woman in real life that admitted that she just browsed and read emails on OK Cupid, but never responded nor met anyone. I think some do it as an ego boost or..."just curious" and are actually too timid to meet someone. It appears the safety behind the computer is all they need. 1
Author TheArtist Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Definitely the worst ones have 'I like going out but also staying in with a DVD' hastily scrawled on there in an effort to reach the minimum word count. So?! I can't start a conversation based on that! Tell me something unique so I don't just have to write 'Hey, how you doing?' Is it any wonder these people are still single?! Gah!! I've noticed that a lot of the profiles read like a CV, with 'I am easy going', or, 'I am a hard worker', so I'm wondering if writing a lot more like you're talking to your potential date would work better. 'I love reading so cuddling up next to you with a good book sounds like a good evening to me'. OK, I've patented that, I thought of it first.
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Definitely the worst ones have 'I like going out but also staying in with a DVD' hastily scrawled on there in an effort to reach the minimum word count. So?! I can't start a conversation based on that! Tell me something unique so I don't just have to write 'Hey, how you doing?' Is it any wonder these people are still single?! Gah!! I've noticed that a lot of the profiles read like a CV, with 'I am easy going', or, 'I am a hard worker', so I'm wondering if writing a lot more like you're talking to your potential date would work better. 'I love reading so cuddling up next to you with a good book sounds like a good evening to me'. OK, I've patented that, I thought of it first. Or..."I hate writing about myself, so if you have any questions, just ask!" Of course, I do admire the fact they put a nice set of 8 photos up of themselves. lol Or those without a min. word count just say, "Just ask!" Or the ol, "If I don't respond, it means I probably think we wouldn't make a good match"...man talk about having it end before it even started. 1
Author TheArtist Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 It makes no sense at all. If this stuff happened offline and no one spoke to anyone because they were an inch too tall or didn't talk to you because they were waiting for the hot guy in the corner to repond, then the race would be finished. Surely if online and offline were treated in the same way then people would have more success with it all. And if you can't be bothered to fill in a profile that frankly, you have as long as you ever need to make it well written and interesting, but instead write, 'Fill this in later', then what does that say about what you would be like to date?
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 It makes no sense at all. If this stuff happened offline and no one spoke to anyone because they were an inch too tall or didn't talk to you because they were waiting for the hot guy in the corner to repond, then the race would be finished. Surely if online and offline were treated in the same way then people would have more success with it all. OH, definately. When I was rather discerning on who I contacted online, I'd carefully keep an eye out for who I considered a good match. I recall this one woman, a science teacher, very local to me, cute, pretty eyes, nice smile. You could say average looking to other men, she had some weight on her, but not that big...but definitely my equal in looks. She was into geeky stuff, comic book movies, you name it, the works. Even same belief systems and values that she ascribed to were a match tom e perfectly! I got really excited and emailed her, pointing out the various things and attempted to ice break my initial email to her by touching on our common interests. She said, "Sorry, but I don't think we'd make a good match." I said, "Why? Based on all the stuff we are into and our common beliefs and shared interests...I think we'd make a great match." She didn't respond after that...but, I am HIGHLY sure if we met in person under organic circumstances, I would have scored her phone # and a date, easily. I've had a few instances like this that were quite mind boggling as to not even entertain a quick meet for drinks or something.
Author TheArtist Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Oh, I've had that happen many times! I think the online dating community is kind of setting themselves up to fail, especially with the, 'I'm back on here again, sigh!', or, 'I'm about to give up with this!', titles. Maybe the fact that you wrote that line is the reason you're not having any luck? It's not exactly a good reason for me to reach out, is it? And I think rather than writing what you're looking for, write what you're offering. I'm not going to date a girl just because I'm her perfect man, am I? What's in it for me?! This starting to become more of an online dating rant, but I certainly feel better for letting it out.
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 'I'm back on here again, sigh!', or, 'I'm about to give up with this!', titles. Yeah, they pretty much have grown weary when they start saying that. Saw one that stated... "Third times a charm!" Of course, she lives local and I've already emailed her in the past...no response. You think by then she'd start giving guys like us a non-obligatory meet n' greet. They wind up being permanent fixtures of the site. Sometimes I'd email again a couple months later in case they change their minds. What's sad is, if they live in a small town you'd think they'd give up and relocate, otherwise it would just behoove them to be more realistic and just try to be more open minded about meeting face-to-face. 1
Author TheArtist Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Yes, done that one too. It seems we're both hitting the same problems here, so I just hope more women who are looking at going online are reading this. Sort out your profiles!! I think it's time to get back to offline dating for sure.
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