Dating Instagram Style

[nids]

I like someone, who I believe is into me. However, we have not met in person or spoken over the phone. He has several Instagram accounts, which is how we met. He communicates through photos and videos and it appears that he has proposed to me. I can’t be for certain, because our relationship is via Instagram. It is odd, but it is 2015 and social media is the new form of communication. He comes from a traditional Middle Eastern family so I am hoping that I am the first person he has met via Instagram. I am tempted to get on a plane and visit him, but I’ve already indicated that he visit me. He hasn’t arrived. There is a substantial travel distance between us. Should I have fun with him or find a real relationship. I’ve already indicated my wedding dress and jewelry pieces to him, yet he won’t come to my front door. Any insight on traditional and conservative Middle Eastern courting practices would be helpful. He has posted some interesting photos and videos, but I am frustrated, because I don’t know if these are for me or his followers. I’m told that Muslim men don’t “date” the way that other places in the world might. Any thoughts or comments…

- Lonely and confused waiting for Middle Eastern Prince to come to her front door

[Redfisher]

Has to be a joke No?

[nids]

Please, serious responses!

[shyguy3543]

I mean, the girl I've been seeing and I met through instagram. But she lives 40 minutes away.

 

Proposing to someone through instagram? Eek, that's rough!!! I don't know how to really help in your situation, unfortunately

[nids]

I sent a direct message, if anyone finds themselves in this position. I'm new to Instagram...

[clia]

I don't understand. Have you ever directly spoken to this guy? What makes you think he's directing any of these videos or photos at you personally?

[nids]

It is my father's heritage, which I don't want to reveal. He has posted things such as styles of dress, fauna and other cultural things that are not necessarily unique to him. I know it is crazy, but I'll hope that he is trying to communicate, we'll see if he answers the direct messages.

[dobielover]

Are you sure it isn't like ISIS propaganda? Doubtful he's going to be welcome here anytime soon.

[nids]

 

I disagree, there are many peaceful Muslims in this world. Sorry no hints as to my father's heritage.

[darkbloom]

This is probably the strangest thing I've ever heard.

 

Instagram is not a real relationship. Having several Instagtam accounts should also raise your red flags. That is not reality, it is what he chooses to portray to the world.

 

Tread with caution.

[Jessie1231]

Has he ever messaged you personally and privately or have you just assumed all his public posts are meant for you?

[Michelle ma Belle]

For all that is holy...NO!

 

Anyone other you can see that this is all in your head. We may be in an age where technology plays a part in how we date anymore BUT it doesn't eliminate the need for COMMUNICATION DIRECTLY with the person you're interested in for heaven's sake.

 

How old are you OP?

[SwordofFlame]

Is this possibly how ISIS recruits?

[TheArtist]

Don't all photographers communicate through their photos? They might look like they're speaking to you, that's the idea, but it doesn't mean they want to get to know you. He could be using you as his muse, 'Oh, weddings... good idea... I'll take some photos of rings'.

 

Seriously you have to communicate verbally before you even consider anything to be happening. This is what is wrong with the internet; you can be anything you want.

 

At the moment I'm a panda.

[darkbloom]

Also. Side note.

 

You've never spoken to him but you're waiting for him to show up at your front door and be your Prince?

 

That only ever happens in Aladdin. And he used her balcony on his magic carpet. Not her front door.

 

Come back to reality please.