HeavyHeart15 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What are some good answers to say in response to people who ask what happened or why we're getting a divorce. Something that gets the point across and avoids any additional questions. How about... "I didn't like the a**holes girlfriend" lol
minimariah Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 sweetheart... be honest. -- he cheated on me, lied to me & dumped me for his affair partner - definitely gets the point accross and shuts people up FAST! i'd tell you to keep it neutral and to say something along the "well, we didn't work out" lines BUT go ahead & be honest. he doesn't deserve any better. 3
Popsicle Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What are some good answers to say in response to people who ask what happened or why we're getting a divorce. Something that gets the point across and avoids any additional questions. How about... "I didn't like the a**holes girlfriend" lol This is a really good question and something I remember struggling with right after D. A LOT of people think it's a good idea to say disparaging words about their ex-spouse in an effort to explain why they are divorced, but I disagree with that. I think it's better to just say "It just didn't work out, we couldn't make it work" and leave it at that. When you find time with very close friends or family, you can get into more specifics, but you don't have to slam your ex-spouse. Afterall, they were someone very special you shared your life with for a time. 2
mystikmind2005 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 This is a really good question and something I remember struggling with right after D. A LOT of people think it's a good idea to say disparaging words about their ex-spouse in an effort to explain why they are divorced, but I disagree with that. I think it's better to just say "It just didn't work out, we couldn't make it work" and leave it at that. When you find time with very close friends or family, you can get into more specifics, but you don't have to slam your ex-spouse. Afterall, they were someone very special you shared your life with for a time. Agree,,, negative thinking and emotions toward ex's are very alluring sometimes, but in the end they do not bring you any benefit and don't aid you toward being able to get on with your life. 2
Miss Clavel Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Just say, "its so painful for me that I can't even talk about it". And, then, don't! In my experience people just want to know because they are afraid, somehow that what happened to your life could happen to them, like divorce is contagious, or they are emotional vampires or secretly they just want to feel superior. Good luck, it will get easier.
ralfgarnett Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I would keep it simple, be firm but polite and say something such as: "I appreciate your concern but I would really prefer not to talk about it if you don't mind" then change the subject, this is basically what I said.
mystikmind2005 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Just say, "its so painful for me that I can't even talk about it". And, then, don't! In my experience people just want to know because they are afraid, somehow that what happened to your life could happen to them, like divorce is contagious, or they are emotional vampires or secretly they just want to feel superior. Good luck, it will get easier. I always thought they don't really want to know at all, but are clumsily trying to make conversation? lol (i know that is how i feel when i ask such things)
Yasuandio Posted December 16, 2015 Posted December 16, 2015 This response suggestion is about you (not him): "I have chosen a positive direction for my life." Believe it. Yas
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