jason88cubs Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 for a dating site? any experiences? i see 3 types 1)pickup line 2)something witty like i think i would be a good macth (with humor) or 3)a longer message that asks stuff about her? which one would you say is better?
Erik30 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 A combination of 2 and 3, but a short message. Maybe a funny comment (inside joke you think she would get) and a question about something she wrote in her profile. You shouldn't worry too much about having to come up with something great. If the girl is not interested, it doesn't matter how good or funny your message is. You'll just get a "sorry, I don't think we're a match," (and not even answer your question that you put so much thought into), or ignore you.
AspenBaldwin Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Whatever you do please do not say: 'Hi, how are u?' That's like the worst line everrrrr!
PogoStick Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Whatever you do please do not say: 'Hi, how are u?' That's like the worst line everrrrr! When girls message me first, it's even worse: "Hi" or a "Hey" if I'm lucky. So I give them a ****ty response "Hi", most of them don't get the hint.
mrldii Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 4. The one that gets her to respond [positively]. Sorry, OP, but despite what you've read/heard, we don't all share the same, one brain cell...what works for one 'girl' may or may not work for the next 'woman'. Good luck figuring it all out without cheat sheets, OP...
lilmissjava Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I got a first message that read something like "everytime a star falls i miss you so when you look at a blank night sky it will be your fault that i miss you so much" I promptly deactivated my account. Obviously it didn't work for me, but it may work for someone else?
Redfisher Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 4. The one that gets her to respond [positively]. Sorry, OP, but despite what you've read/heard, we don't all share the same, one brain cell...what works for one 'girl' may or may not work for the next 'woman'. Good luck figuring it all out without cheat sheets, OP... I'm enjoying your spunky attitude tonight...
hippychick3 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Nothing too long or cheesy. Just be normal. Being cute and normal will make you stand out.
mrldii Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I'm enjoying your spunky attitude tonight... It's cute that you think it's "spunky"... ...and really cute that you think it's [just] "tonight"... 1
JustGettingBy Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I noticed in your profile you said (insert thing from her profile here). I was wondering/thinking...(write an opinion or question that gives her a chance to write a response of at least 2-3 sentences)
Author jason88cubs Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 i feel like if i ask something about her profile i never get replies
kismetkismet Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 whatever you do don't use pick up lines that you found on the internet somewhere and spam them to a bunch of girls. It's pretty obvious when that happens. It depends what kind of girl you're after though. The best way to get ME to respond is to say something funny and a bit weird. Or ask a random question like.. "what is your favourite sandwich." But if you're not naturally actually funny and weird then that's definitely not the way to go. The other way was usually to ask a question that referenced something in my profile. That way you know the guy actually read your profile and isn't just sending you a canned message because he likes your face and sending out the same thing to 100 girls is the most efficient way to get messages back. I'm not saying you have to come up with something thoughtful EVERY time. But if it's a girl that you are particularly interested in messaging you back, then definitely say something genuine and personal.
loveweary11 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 for a dating site? any experiences? i see 3 types 1)pickup line 2)something witty like i think i would be a good macth (with humor) or 3)a longer message that asks stuff about her? which one would you say is better? Dik pic.
Shanex Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 A funny, witty and clever one or two liners gives me a 1/2 response ratio to first contact. My pics are of decent quality though.
J21 Posted December 15, 2015 Posted December 15, 2015 I've gotten away with "Hello how's it going" or some variation plenty of times. From my experience, it doesn't matter what you say, if she's interested she will reply back. If she is not interested, you can write the wittiest message and she wont. So you're really over thinking it there buddy. Let's say you came up with something really witty, and she wasn't that interested but replied anyways. You better come up with something even more witty on the next message because the conversation will fizzle out, and quickly at that. Then you will post something like: "I sent her a really witty message and she replied! I sent her another message about XYZ and she stopped messaging!"
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