wheream_i Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 I'm a 37 year old male. I've been around the block, have lots of experience and this still baffles me. I can't wrap my head around it. So, there I was swiping on Tinder (I know, right?) when I come across a match. I start chatting with a girl and we hit it off right away. She sends me her number and I call her. She's very friendly, open and outgoing. She's a stand up comedian and tells me I can search for her material online. She's pretty funny and extremely sexy. She also tells me she is bisexual and asks how I feel about that. It's not my business and I didn't ask. She was probably expecting a typical "dude" response. She didn't get one. We move on. I tell her I'm interested in meeting and we set up a time and place. Not even a real date, just meet, have a drink and feel each other out. She doesn't show up. Just texts me and says she's going to have a late night. If it was a real date, I would've been pissed and felt stood up. But honestly, I wasn't really upset. I was hanging out with friends. The next day, she tells me she had to pick up her drunk brother. I don't I believe her but I let it go. She asks to see me later that night. I tell her I'll be out and about. She says she will come to me and shows up within the hour looking smoking hot and showing tons of cleavage. I thought it was a bit much but I wasn't complaining. I notice she seems really nervous and keeps playing with her hair so I bring it to her attention. She says she was worried that I wouldn't like her. I assure her that I'm into her and to relax and just have a good time. With that said, I see her personality come through. Funny, confident, sexy. I'm totally turned on by her. I keep that to myself. She turns the conversation to sex. Not me. She brushes her long hair back, exposing her cleavage. She looks great. We begin talking about having sex but tells me it's not going to happen tonight. I tell her I didn't expect it to. She tells me she can totally see it happening though. We lock eyes and she leans in to kiss me. Now, we can't take our hands off each other. It's getting late and she has to go. I walk her to her car, tell her I really enjoyed her company and I'd like to see her again. She agrees, we kiss some more and I walk away. I text her the next morning. Hours go by and I don't hear from her. Later that night, she says she's been busy. She follows up with "I think I'm getting back with my ex-gf." Lol, I'm completely baffled. I ask if her experience with a male was that bad. She laughs and says no. I never hear from her again. I know the answer to my own question. She wanted validation, needed attention, have someone fall all over her, etc. But, I can't believe how blatant the change in attitude was literally overnight. Can someone explain this behavior?
oberkeat Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 (edited) Interesting read. She was flakey, simple as that. Maybe even a little unstable. OLD has a surplus of these types of women. Edited December 13, 2015 by oberkeat 2
Author wheream_i Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 Interesting read. She was flakey, simple as that. Maybe even a little unstable. OLD has a surplus of these types of women. Absolutely it's flakey. But I just cannot imagine doing that to someone. Initiating, showing affection, attention and then "just kidding"!
insert_name Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Absolutely it's flakey. But I just cannot imagine doing that to someone. Initiating, showing affection, attention and then "just kidding"! I can. That sort of forward, femme fatale behaviour on a first date is like she is compensating for something. Obviously out to make a real impression because that is all she wants- the impression. She doesn't have to sleep with you, just know that she could if she wanted to and she has got all the validation that she needs. In my experience girls who go overboard on the first date with overt sexuality are to be treated with suspicion. They are usually out for attention from whoever whereever and there is usually drama not far behind them. You have probably dodged a bullet.
Author wheream_i Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 attention whore...... No doubt. I guess being a stand up comedian should've given it away.
Redfisher Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 probably did a huge line of blow before the date...Comedians love that ****.
PogoStick Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Should have asked if her gf would mind if you are her boyfriend too. At the very least I'd keep this girl's number for a booty call down the road. Sounds like a sure thing the next time you see her.
mssweet Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Absolutely it's flakey. But I just cannot imagine doing that to someone. Initiating, showing affection, attention and then "just kidding"! She is simply being flaky/insecure/inconsiderate. She got her "fix" - validation, ego-boost, or whatever she was looking for and moved on.
katiegrl Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Sounds like she intentionally seeks out experiences like this to include in her next comedy act... Maybe changing a few details here and there for maximum laughs. 1
truth_seeker Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What a charming woman. Probably the breast date you've ever had! [insert rimshot]. 1
WomenWubber Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 (edited) Maybe this is her way of getting back at men after years of being used for sex on a constant basis. Edited December 20, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Maggie4 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Well, I can't explain. But I'd say it's pretty rude for a woman to behave as if all men are easy. They are not. If it had been a man who had talked about sex so much, the woman would have been very offended by the sleazy guy. Yet, some women think it's ok for them to be overly sexual and the man would not be offended and would only be grateful?! No way! She made a fool of herself. Next time a woman behaves this way on a date, don't humor her. Then she'll either hate you or respect you.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I wonder if her Tinder leap was because her relationship imploded shortly before it. I recognize the whole "I am going to get over someone by getting under someone else" mentality going on here. But she froze up a bit. Wanted to know she was still sexy, seek some comfort but couldn't dive in feeling it was still a betrayal to the relationship. (Even if they werent "technically" together). Then the rough patch ended and she went back to gf. That's honestly my guess. When I met my husband, I was nowhere near over my ex. In hindsight I feel some guilt for my husband pursuing me while I was still CLEARLY grieving the relationship. Frankly, I was very upfront about not wanting to dive into another relationship with anyone. But he was just too awesome in the end to pass up. We also saw each other everyday. It wasn't like OLD. The reason it was relevant: when we had our first sexual contact it was WAY too soon for me and I ended up crying because it felt like I cheated on my ex, even though he really heartlessly dumped me. Pretty nasty feelings. I can see wanting to jump into bed with a sexy stranger that you could be into, but not being able to make that final leap because of the emotional the to the relationship still being very raw. Sounds like you were totally a good guy, but you got caught in the collateral damage. I think when women make themselves VERY AVAILABLE like that, they are often in a dark place, they are dysfunctional, or they are crazy.
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