melvin01 Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 Hi, I'm 33 in a month and sick and tired of a love life that goes nowhere. Hasn't helped that I've been pretty much infatuated with a friend of a friend for the last 5 years (we went on a couple of dates and I didn't have the guts to push things on, tried to forget about her but have never been able to). I do occasionally e-mail her and she replies, but it's always me who initiates the contact and nothing more than pleasantries ever come from it. I know, almost certainly, that nothing will ever happen but I feel tormented by two things: first by the fact that I believe I did genuinely once have a chance with her, but blew it; second, I've never, before or since, met anyone quite like her - beautiful, very intelligent, great figure, great sense of humour, couple of years younger than me (just about perfect for me and, not that I like describing people in these terms, a definite 10) I want to get on with my life, and find something meaningful with someone who will love me back, so I know that I need to stop feeling like this but I don't know how. If anyone has been through this kind of infatuation/obsession/unrequited whatever and come out on the other side of it I'd love to hear how you did it. Thanks Andy
todreaminblue Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 (edited) hey melvin, I am a big believer in everything happens has a purpose and a reason even if we dont know that reason....doesnt mean the reason isnt real....if it was meant to happen with you and this woman it would have, for whatever reason or purpose unknown to you or me.... it didnt happen...maybe because there is a much better match for you just around the corner.....maybe it was a lesson you needed to learn about taking risks and jumping in .....or a lesson about you should not taking things for granted or think they will always be available to happen you have to move on them...and not sit back.....or simply to follow your heart and move when it tells you to move.....which i am one to do because a heart doesnt lie..............who knows.... all i know is that you cant live regretting what is done.....however hard it is to move on you have to do it.....and you will move on.....try limiting contact for a while.....maybe try and go on other dates .....give love a chance to bloom elsewhere.....and surround yourself with the things you love....people...places...hobbies....music...good friends...and give your heart a time to see that....theres more to be had in todays and tomorrows....limitless chances....limitless possibilities and opportunities...its time spent much more wisely than to live your life in regret of yesterdays....and keep telling yourself that until you really believe it.does it work?.....yes it does..in my experience with unrequited love.........i wish you much love and happiness in your future.....the best of wishes....deb Edited December 13, 2015 by todreaminblue 1
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