funnyman7878 Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 So this topic somehow came up the other day as we were discussing past relationships and my GF told me she has slept with 5 or 6 guys in the past. What is bothering me a bit is how can someone not know exactly how many people they had sex with, considering that sex is such an intimate act... how can it be "5 OR 6"??? Am I reading too much into this?
d0nnivain Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 the exact #s make people crazy. She is giving you a range & is most likely down playing the #. Assume she means she's still in single digits. Ask concrete Qs about health but other than that, unless you want to unnecessarily cause even more problems then you already have, stop pressing this line of discussion.
mrldii Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 Another benefit of growing old: we 55-YO women can reply "I don't remember" and others believe it's simply memory loss kicking in... 1
ManyDissapoint Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 So this topic somehow came up the other day as we were discussing past relationships and my GF told me she has slept with 5 or 6 guys in the past. What is bothering me a bit is how can someone not know exactly how many people they had sex with, considering that sex is such an intimate act... how can it be "5 OR 6"??? Am I reading too much into this? 5 or 6? If her partner count were that low, she would know the exact number. I would say this is a strong tell that she is lying about her number.
Author funnyman7878 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 5 or 6? If her partner count were that low, she would know the exact number. I would say this is a strong tell that she is lying about her number. Hmmm.. I thought so too! Anyway no point confronting her about it
Myragal Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 Another benefit of growing old: we 55-YO women can reply "I don't remember" and others believe it's simply memory loss kicking in... Ha. So true. Actually it is 4...definitely 4. Had the opportunity for 400 but I have zero attraction to a man in 'that way' until we are a definite couple. Then a tigress. Back to the question. Stop it. Let it go. This is the type of mental gymnastics that erode and destroy a relationship. Best to bite on a bullet or do 50 push ups when you start to dwell on these things. 1
Author funnyman7878 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 My only concern is that if someone has been changing men so often perhaps they unkowingly enjoy the thrill of something new and get bored with the same.... they may not quite know how they like being with the same person for an extended period!
jen1447 Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 With a number that low, it's about as ridiculous for you to quibble about a potential difference of one (no offense) as it is for her to supposedly be unsure. When you get into higher numbers it's almost impossible to remember exact figures.
salparadise Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 When you get into higher numbers it's almost impossible to remember exact figures. That's why God invented scientific notation. I think she just forgot the mention the exponent. 6.022×10^23
Wewon Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 This is why you don't ask questions that you don't want the answer to. I've never seen a couple exchange this information and walk away better for it. My guess on the 5 or 6 number, its low, my guess is that she may be defining sex more generously (vaginal vs oral vs hand). Let it go, nothing good will become of it. 1
hippychick3 Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Not sure why it matters. My number is pretty low and given the fact I'm in my 40's, I would have to think really hard to know the exact number. It's not as if she said 10 or 100. What difference does it make if it were 5 or 6 or 9?
RedRobin Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 What is your count, OP? Is it a possibility you are projecting a bit? Having a woman with a 'low count' isn't going to make YOU more faithful. Amiright? Instead of asking for numbers, why not ask what her values and dating goals are? It's not that hard. Then you can see if they match. It's too easy to lie about numbers anyway... focus on the values and goals and how they have demonstrated them.
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