Seneya Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 Hello to all. My bf recently broke up with me because his parents wouldn't allow us to get married. And he plainly broke up with me. Now, I tried to stay friends but he said we would talk less than before as it would be difficult for us to move on. Is his love so weak and timid that he can't even fight for it? During the first year he had said to me that he would still marry me if his parents were against it. But now he is acting like a coward!! I'm shattered. I want to give up hope that I'll get him again. Please help.
Marco Valerio Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 People fight for what they love and what they want, if he's not fighting for you... Maybe thanks to his parents he got the perfect excuse. Always ask yourself, what would you do if you were in his position? 2
geronimo Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 I went through the exact same thing as you did. My ex used her parents as an excuse to get out of the relationship and I felt the same way that is her love for me not strong enough for her to fight for it? Soon I realized there was another guy in the picture who she jumped into a relationship with soon after our breakup. I'm sure the parents thing had to play a part but it wasn't the deciding factor for her to breakup, as this forum taught me she just used it as a smoke screen to get out of the relationship without guilt. I'm not saying your ex did the same thing but its quite possible. At the same time maybe he does value what his parents think a lot more than the relationship and you just gotta accept that reality and move on, you will find someone who will be on the same page as you and will be willing to fight for you just as much as you're willing to fight for them. goodluck. 1
Author Seneya Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 I went through the exact same thing as you did. My ex used her parents as an excuse to get out of the relationship and I felt the same way that is her love for me not strong enough for her to fight for it? Soon I realized there was another guy in the picture who she jumped into a relationship with soon after our breakup. I'm sure the parents thing had to play a part but it wasn't the deciding factor for her to breakup, as this forum taught me she just used it as a smoke screen to get out of the relationship without guilt. I'm not saying your ex did the same thing but its quite possible. At the same time maybe he does value what his parents think a lot more than the relationship and you just gotta accept that reality and move on, you will find someone who will be on the same page as you and will be willing to fight for you just as much as you're willing to fight for them. goodluck. You know what I also think his parents are just an excuse . I have always felt that maybe he just lost the attraction. He wants to take taste of his single life again. He plainly ignores me now and not even bothers replying my friend's messages.
Author Seneya Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 People fight for what they love and what they want, if he's not fighting for you... Maybe thanks to his parents he got the perfect excuse. Always ask yourself, what would you do if you were in his position? He is just being a jerk. 1.5 years ago he loved me like crazy and was so loving but now all his love went out from the window. And what surprised me was how easily he moved on.
geronimo Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 You know what I also think his parents are just an excuse . I have always felt that maybe he just lost the attraction. He wants to take taste of his single life again. He plainly ignores me now and not even bothers replying my friend's messages. I know what its like and I know it sucks. Best thing to do from here on out is go complete NC, and I also know that you're probably tired of hearing that but its for the best, you don't need to see what he is up to and if he ever did want to contact you again, he will figure it out, in this day and age getting hold of people is very easy. So block delete and move on with your life, you will find someone better.
Author Seneya Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 Thanks a lot I feel much better now. 1
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