aviva_dawn Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 I don't understand a few things that are going on in our relationship. My BF has been (and still is) encouraging me to buy a car. He has a new one of his own and doesn't live with me, so I doubt that whether or not I buy a 1995 Honda Civic would affect his transportation needs. I'm 21 and have never seen the need to have a car until my BF mentioned it. I'm content with taking public transportation for now, being that it's convenient, cheaper than the cost of operating a car and helps me save money for when I actually NEED to have a car. BF is 29, has a career and is in the process of looking for a house. As I've thought about it, I do need a car being that the classes that I need for my major are offered in the evenings this fall. The buses stop running toward my neighborhood at 9pm and I need to catch a bus at the college at 8pm to make it to my house by 9. So, after thinking it over, I have decided to buy a used car. My question is why my BF saw fit to begin encouraging me to buy a car in the first place, even before I began to think about it? (He also wants me to finish college as soon as possible.) His answer to whenever I ask him "Why are you interested in whether I get a car or not?" He says "Having a car will make things more convenient and easier." He won't elaborate on that. We met in August 2003, had a LDR for six months after that, lost touch with one another and when I moved back to my hometown (15 minutes from where he lives.) we began our relationship anew in February 2005. He asked me in March if I wanted our relationship to be exclusive. So, in reality, we've been together for a little over three months. Can someone please clue me into why my BF has been encouraging me to get a car?
BrotherAaron Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 It doesn't sound like nothin weird. I can't see what ulterior motives he could have for you getting a car. He probably can't imagine how you could live without one. The real question is - why are you so eager to find a problem?
belle_babe76 Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Maybe he would like you to have a car to share responsibilities, i.e. the designated driver on a night out. Now you are thinking about a car though, if it is only to get you from A to B and you prefer using public transport your idea of a used car is a good one.
noname Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 His answer to whenever I ask him "Why are you interested in whether I get a car or not?" He says "Having a car will make things more convenient and easier." He won't elaborate on that. take his words for what he says. he probably thinks it would be easier on you. i wouldn't read into it any further than that...
yellowrose Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Maybe things cross his mind from time to time like, "Gosh I'm out here at bla-bla restaurant after work with my friends, but it's off her bus route. I wish I could call her up and have her come meet me, but she can't get over here." Or something trivial like that. I can't see where he'd want you to have a car for any other reason that from time to time he wishes he could see you and it's not convenient. It's really kind of sweet, I guess.
greeneyedgirl23 Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 It sounds to me as if he wants you to have a car so that it is easier for the two of you to see each other. Is he usually the person picking you up to spend time together? Or do you have a license and borrow a car to visit him when you don't use public transportation? It also seems like he has a good head on his shoulders and like he has good things going in his life. You said that he has a good career going, and that he is ready to buy a home. Maybe he wants you to be where he is in life. This would explain he wanting you to finish up with school! Just a thought.
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