sportygirl89 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I have a small gift (coffee mug and chocolate) that I want to give her. Us not talking the way we usually does bugs me for some reason (We are both at fault for the fight). If you were in a fight with a friend (verbally not physically) would you appreciate the gift? I'm giving a couple other girls gifts tonight, so it wouldn't just be her.
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 How do the peace making conversations go? I gave her the gift she said it was sweet. So I left the door open. Don't really expect anything but at least shows I'm willing to try and work things out.
basil67 Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 How do the peace making conversations go? I gave her the gift she said it was sweet. So I left the door open. Don't really expect anything but at least shows I'm willing to try and work things out. I can't really answer without knowing what happened. If you tell us why the two of you fell out, then perhaps we can help with ideas on how to make it right again. Do you need to apologise for any actions of your own which happened during the fight?
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 (edited) I can't really answer without knowing what happened. If you tell us why the two of you fell out, then perhaps we can help with ideas on how to make it right again. Do you need to apologise for any actions of your own which happened during the fight? I did but still feel like I could do more. If this doesn't help I'll move on from this friendship. I put a lot of blame on her not taking responsibilities of my actions. Edited December 13, 2015 by sportygirl89
lollipopspot Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 How do the peace making conversations go? I gave her the gift she said it was sweet. So I left the door open. Don't really expect anything but at least shows I'm willing to try and work things out. Maybe you left the door open, but a more forthright "Let's talk and work things out" would be better (if you want to make up).
carhill Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 IMO, depends on the definition of 'friend', as each of us define friendship differently. My sense of your situation is you care enough to consider this gift and an opportunity to set things straight and apologize for your side, so give it, have the talk and see where things go. Don't rule in or rule out any outcome going in. 2
JustGettingBy Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 IMO, depends on the definition of 'friend', as each of us define friendship differently. My sense of your situation is you care enough to consider this gift and an opportunity to set things straight and apologize for your side, so give it, have the talk and see where things go. Don't rule in or rule out any outcome going in. I would agree with this. Since you're still calling her your friend, but bring up the fight, it seems as if you want to repair the damage and show trust, something a gift would do for sure.
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 I would agree with this. Since you're still calling her your friend, but bring up the fight, it seems as if you want to repair the damage and show trust, something a gift would do for sure. She thanked me for the gift in person and by text last night. I explained I wanted to get past the weirdness. I'll give her time to think about it. I don't expect us to be best friends or anything anytime soon but at least I tried and that's all I can do for now. Now we hope time is on my hand.
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