Thatmixedotaku Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 This might be a little long winded , please forgive (first post ever) So , last year i met this girl, at my university who i instantly fell for...she was pretty, exotic, interesting and felt like a perfect match for me in every single way . The communication begun with her texting me one day , i did not believe it..honestly she felt way out of my league, after a while she told me she had a boyfriend (should have been a red flag) but he treated her badly and she liked me way more. So last year one day she sends me a text saying how she has decided to stay with her boyfriend cant be with me,,,understandably i was upset and heartbroken, we had an argument and i broke off communication with her . So, even though me and her were not in contact , we are in the same university and see each other often. She after a while started sending her friends to apologize to me and "become friends" again, but i did not give her the time till last month, when well...we really made up, we kissed shortly after and i asked her to be my girlfriend again. She said yes this time . I was head over heels . I had loved her for so long , even after the problems , and for me this was ...i was floating . Last weekend, she was noticeably colder, more distant. I kept asking her what is wrong, she kept telling me she has money problems from home and she is not "normal" then . However , (i realize I was wrong for this) i kept talking, asking her not to be cold to me, to talk to me normal, to be like she always was with me . The very next day , after the exact same convo and me begging her to talk to me normally again, she dumped me. She screamed about how i was too emotional, how she had never seen a man that emotional in her entire life (that really stung) , about how my emotions scared her . She had so much hatred in her voice, so much disgust . I begged her to give me a second chance , that i would be different, that i would be less intense ....she kept saying no and very harshly and screaming no, and goodbye . i'm really torn up about this...part of me just needed to rant, some part of me wonders if i really did deserve this, was i too "loving" too "emotional" ..its making school a nightmare especially with exams and tests and all
marky00 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Something was up. People don't act cold because they are having money issues. Sounds like you might have been a victim of the forced dump. That is she was getting cold feet, started acting cold, u get upset ... leads to an argument... she dumps you and gets to put on the guilt on you. Yep, its pretty much the worst kind of dumper out there. Yes when she asked for space you probably should have given it to her but her reaction here seems extreme. I'm guessing her old bf is back or she met someone new. 1
Author Thatmixedotaku Posted December 12, 2015 Author Posted December 12, 2015 That is true....well, it all happened so fast . Just two days before we were making love and kissing all night and then from nowhere ....she also didnt seem to care at all, and doesnt seem affected... is basically almost a different person, did a complete 360, in the space of 2 days
d0nnivain Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 What do you mean you asked her to be your GF again? She was never your GF in the 1st place. She was always dating the other guy. When you noticed she was upset & cold, she told you why. Instead of backing off now that you had an explanation, you pushed, & pushed & begged her to do something she could not do at the time -- give you her full attention because her mind was else where. You had no respect for her as a person. You made it all about you. You didn't even brainstorm with her to help her solve her problem. I don't see you being either emotional or too loving. I see you being selfish & uncaring when she had a problem. 1
Author Thatmixedotaku Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 Well, i was selfish for that day...that is true . It was my first time seeing her like this and i was confused and i apologized later that very same day . Also , i offered to help and she was my girlfriend ..the "again" i guess was me feeling like she was that way before when she really wasnt . But I messed up...all it took was one day . One day of me being an ******* . I guess i deserve it
Author Thatmixedotaku Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 And i used the words "Emotional" and "loving" because those are the exact same words she used ...not mine . Basically the entire line was "I have never seen such an emotional man in my life"
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 I'm not saying you deserved the way she treated you. However, one day of you being pushy / clingy did irreparably damage the relationship. I think it's more because it wasn't as stable as you thought it was. Sorry.
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