Coollaxer Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 My girlfriend of 8 months on dec3 is just eating at me. She keeps bringing up from the past something that did and I ****ed up. So here's how it goes. Both 18 and both were virgins. Long story short we had sex and we waited till the time was right. I promised her right after on her bed in her room that I wouldn't tell anyone and I ended up telling my friends. She went through my phone to find out that i had told my friends since I was lying and telling her I didn't. so I guesse there was no trust from the get go. Now fast forward to now, at least 10 times since it happened (5months ago) she has brought it up and told me that I really hurt her and I know i did. But we had a conversation about it a few weeks ago and finally decided to burry it and move on, but right before that conversation she had told me that she told her best friend and she was so sorry bc she felt dumb that we have been fighting about this and she told her ( she told around 4 friends and I ended up telling 5, 6 but it got around to 8 wen my friends asked me and I couldn't keep a straight face lol) friend. Well I completely disregarded it and said it was in the past and we can move on with out penalty. Well last night she brought it up and we just started fighting about it... She basically tells me if God has us go our separate ways than it happens. And I treat this girl like a princess no exaggeration. Even her friends tell me I do treat her they way. Any advice for this? Please help me out...
ExpatInItaly Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I understand you betrayed her trust, and I know you realize that too. That's on you. But she also chose to continue the relationship after that. That's on her. What's done is done and you cannot rewind, obviously. I don't know what she expects you to do to rectify the situation now - has she sprecified what she wants you to do about it now? So at this point, it sounds to me like one of two things: A) She is a drama queen who thrives on conflict and relishes holding this over your head for leverage or B) She is already preparing to break up and this will be her reason for leaving. Be gentle but firm that you can't change what happened, but if she chooses to stay with you she simply can't continue to re-hash this. Or the relationship will be over.
PogoStick Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 A) She is a drama queen who thrives on conflict and relishes holding this over your head for leverage or B) She is already preparing to break up and this will be her reason for leaving. A) She's 18, so this is automatic. B) Probably true, and she uses the past to manipulate power in the relationship. The OP should end it.
Author Coollaxer Posted December 12, 2015 Author Posted December 12, 2015 I know I messed up and everything but on top of that we had sex and the condom broke, and she took the pill. And I ended up not going with her to take it and she took it on a Parking lot, is that a big deal? And also I told my friends that too bc I was having an extremely hard time and i turned to my best friends for advice. She asked if there was anything else to know and I told her no and then I ended up coming clean and telling her that I tokd them too but I was scared to tell her that. I was tryin to avoid trouble but I actually created it.. She is also bery mad about that too... And she is VERY dramatic so I don't know how to fix this but I need some help...
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