Xiomn Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 How big of a deal breaker for you is it if you support a particular political party but the person you're dating supports the opposite political party to your views? Curious as I'm a political student and finding someone with an interest in politics and current affairs is a preference for me but by no means a deal-breaker.
d0nnivain Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 My parents were of opposite parties & so are DH & I. I have no problem with somebody's views. I have a huge problem with people who don't care enough to vote. 3
Snakechammah Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I usually date foreigners so they don't give a rat's a** about my country's politics... But if I were to date a citizen then yes, I'd rather that he supports the same political party. I can't date someone who constantly disagrees with me on how a country should be ruled... LOL 1
WaitingForBardot Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Yes. And I married her too! 30 years canceling out each others votes and counting... ..lol.. 7
loveweary11 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I couldn't. We would have too many fundamental differences and core philosophies about life. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Hmm...it would depend on how involved they were in their politics. I'm very liberal. Dating someone ultra conservative who weighed in heavily on subjects like gay marriage/rights for example would be a big issue. I can't imagine being with, never mind in love with someone who stood at the complete opposite spectrum politically. I know it's possible but I haven't yet met one I could stand being in the same room with never mind a bed. 8
Lois_Griffin Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Hmm...it would depend on how involved they were in their politics. I'm very liberal. Dating someone ultra conservative who weighed in heavily on subjects like gay marriage/rights for example would be a big issue. I can't imagine being with, never mind in love with someone who stood at the complete opposite spectrum politically. I know it's possible but I haven't yet met one I could stand being in the same room with never mind a bed. LOL. And I'm the exact opposite. Liberals make my head explode. While I'm conservative fiscally, I'm socially moderate. So I'm not ultra conservative. But no, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone on the opposite side.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 A fiscal republican, I could. A "religious right" Republican, I couldn't. 3
dobielover Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I'm a Democrat and have typically dated Republicans. However, I could not, and absolutely refuse, to date someone who truly supports and intends to vote for particular candidates, this campaign season, Trump being the example. That's a deal-breaker. 3
burnt Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I have a huge problem with people who don't care enough to vote. I have never voted and never will. I do not watch the news or read the newspaper. I have no clue about what's going on in the political front--in this country or another. I hated hearing people talk about politics all the times as a child and always thought making a difference in the world lies in your own hands through what you do, not who you vote for. I have always hated the idea of "my country is more important that another country". I don't understand why this mentality is celebrated. I see myself as a global citizen. I believe that it's FAR more important that I pay more attention to what I DO individually than what party is elected and is empowered to RULE. So how do I contribute as a citizen? Not through voting, by actual concrete actions. I don't care to vote for a party that claims that it will pass laws to protect the environment. Instead I see it as the responsibility of EACH citizen to practice a lifestyle that protects the environment--like--I don't buy any plastic bottles of drink, ever; drinking water is sufficient. I don't use the car to drive around when I'm able to commute by bike; I don't use pesticides or herbicides EVER; I don't use any plastic bags, I carry cloth bags. I walk around in park, voluntarily pick out garbage left by other people. I live a minimalist lifestyle and produce minimal amount of garbage. That's how I contribute. See my political view is that: you don't need to side with any political party to be a responsible citizen. How can I want to vote, when I can't agree with the voting process itself? I find it ridiculous and sick when people hear my view and see me as "irresponsible citizen" because I don't vote. How about, allow each person to define, hold, and practice their own political views, including if their political views means to refrain from voting. Voting by definition is founded on the idea that "each person has the right advocate for what he prefers", therefore, logically speaking don't you think that if one person believes in not engaging in the voting process, that idea should be acknowledged and validated also? Allow people to be different, hold different views, even if you think they are wrong. Allow them to coexist. See, even though I'm against voting, I do NOT have any problem with people who do vote--I respect their own ways of defining themselves. But I do wish that respect was reciprocated back toward me. But I DO have a problem with people who have a problem with other people who hold different views. (There goes Socrates put to death one more time for having views)
Popsicle Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I've always dated men who were not into politics, but they voted, and they could care less how I voted. I prefer it that way too.
Gaeta Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Depends what country you are from and what are those opposites. Do they run deep in people's beliefs or they're just that, views. For the Canadians on here they will understand when I say I am not a separatist and I would never be able to date or marry a separatist and hear him go on and on about how our Province should separate and become sovereign country when I know it would throw us in a long difficult depression for generations. 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Where I am, how you vote has a direct influence on how I do my job (National Health Service) so I'd struggle to be with anyone who wouldn't share my views on something that really matters to me, especially in today's climate. I have mainly had Rs with guys in the medical field (my area of work) so how they regard their jobs and where they think the NHS should be heading (so who they would vote for) is important to me. 1
gaius Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I am dating someone with opposite political views. But I don't see politics as being a core value, like a lot of other people do. The people who let their identity be defined by their politics and party pretty much. I'm not like that so I've never had a problem with it.
loveweary11 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Should probably add that I'm a rabid member of the voter apathy party. Care nothing about government, politics or any radical political ideology. If I don't like the country, I'll just leave. Plenty of options out there.
Myragal Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I just have to put on dress, heels, let my hair down and no guy is concerned about my political views. Most people have views but also perspective. Most people with healthy social skills are aware that we are not all cookie cutter clones of each other. If someone's polititics turn me off it is more to do with obsession... Black and white view of the world. They would also turn me off if they were obsessed with video games, watching sports, guns, ice cream.
ASG Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Hmm...it would depend on how involved they were in their politics. I'm very liberal. Dating someone ultra conservative who weighed in heavily on subjects like gay marriage/rights for example would be a big issue. I can't imagine being with, never mind in love with someone who stood at the complete opposite spectrum politically. I know it's possible but I haven't yet met one I could stand being in the same room with never mind a bed. I'm with you. I couldn't possibly date someone ultra conservative. I can, however, and have, date someone who sits further right than I do in fiscal terms. I think a happy medium can be achieved there. But never someone who opposed gay marriage or looked down on immigrants and the like. I wouldn't date someone who was a Trump supporter (or equivalent, since I'm not American and not in the US), but I could potentially date a Republican (or equivalent, as above). 1
jen1447 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Hmm...it would depend on how involved they were in their politics. I'm very liberal. Dating someone ultra conservative who weighed in heavily on subjects like gay marriage/rights for example would be a big issue. I can't imagine being with, never mind in love with someone who stood at the complete opposite spectrum politically. I know it's possible but I haven't yet met one I could stand being in the same room with never mind a bed. LOL. And I'm the exact opposite. Liberals make my head explode. While I'm conservative fiscally, I'm socially moderate. So I'm not ultra conservative. But no, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone on the opposite side. In reference to Michelle and Lois' points, I'm mostly of a Libertarian bent, but that shows as fiscally conservative (believe it or not - most ppl can't lol) and socially liberal. (That part should be obvs due to my lifestyle.) But the social part is actually more "don't mess w/me" i.e. Libertarian than supporting liberal ideologies, and the fiscal part is moreso "what's mine is mine" than supporting conservative ideologies, also i.e. Libertarian. I could easily live w/someone of a diff political perspective if that's all it was, bc ppl everywhere have diff ideas about everything and I'm fine w/ideological differences, but if their ideology crosses over into activism I'd have a very tough time w/that. (e.g. someone who participates in marches to increase the tax rate or to outlaw same sex relations, etc.)
GravityMan Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I would prefer to date someone who's politically aware and pays at least some attention...BUT is also smart enough to keep politics at arm's length, and is wise enough to not be gullible and understand that the CNNs, Fox Newses. MSNBCs (i.e. mainstream media) of the world are more about entertainment, narrative, pandering and propaganda...instead of news. That's mainly because I believe that 95% of government politics is a mixture of corrupt, out-of-touch, and narrative-pushing...and also because politics can be a very volatile subject if brought up in front of the wrong people and/or in an ill-advised way. The political landscape may play a factor in shaping and changing social & cultural awareness. I don't mind dating someone who has differing political views. I would have a much bigger problem with someone who tries to IMPOSE their views on me or anyone else...even if I personally agree with the views. (That applies to far more than just political views, of course.) It's possible to have opinions and discuss/debate them in a non-imposing and open-minded way. Most mature people do that. Having compatible values is more essential to me. And the following helps too: I just have to put on dress, heels, let my hair down and no guy is concerned about my political views.
Eighty_nine Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I'm very liberal and while I would considerate (and have) dated someone who identified as moderate, that's the absolute furthest I can go. Like someone else said, I can hardly stand being in a room with them let alone in bed. Haha. I also have issues when partners family members are conservative -- just have to bite my tongue. And I'm a social worker, so it's even harder for me to hand republican complaining about assistance programs etc. when I know first hand how much they help people in need.
katiegrl Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Should probably add that I'm a rabid member of the voter apathy party. Care nothing about government, politics or any radical political ideology. --- ***If I don't like the country, I'll just leave. Plenty of options out there. ^^It's great you have the resources to do that. I don't at the moment ...I wish I did! I would love to move to Italy, Australia, Canada or the UK! Not feeling too great about the US at the moment...
katiegrl Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) I am socially liberal, fiscally conservative. I consider myself to be an Independent. I don't support either party... I vote for whomever I believe is the better candidate....no matter what party they are affiliated with. My bf used to be the same ....now he is a staunch Republican all the way....ultra conservative, a huge gun supporter, it's causing lots of problems in our relationship now. We are really growing in different directions... ugh....but that is another thread altogether. Edited December 12, 2015 by katiegrl
Haydn Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 No. I am `Liberal-d-up` A Con...No chance. A girl who liked `Nigel Farage or Trump`.... (abhorrent to me no matter how good she looked in a pair of La-Coste low tops... But could be a stretch if a `Pringle` was involved... But only for a minute...
antonio1149 Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 Interesting question. I'm fairly liberal and probably wouldn't date a super-conservative. Not necessarily because we might disagree on some issues, but because I find that these types tend to be somewhat illogical, and/or insensitive, and/or hypocritical, and/or subject to very superficial or "black and white" thinking. For example, I recently dated a young woman who had a religious upbringing and was opposed to gay marriage because ... well, it says so in the Bible. But she had no problem with premarital sex, which is condemned far more in the Bible. There's even a word for it ("fornication"). I dated a sweet lady a few years ago who I came to find out was a devout Christian and believed that Obama was a "Muslim." That was probably something she heard in church, or from another very conservative Christian friend, and just swallowed it whole without thinking much. The not-thinking part was a dealbreaker for me.
mrldii Posted December 12, 2015 Posted December 12, 2015 I have, and was in a 10+ year-long live-in relationship with someone with differing political views. We were well aware our votes typically cancelled one another's out. I could do it, again. Unless, of course, he was a Trump supporter. But, that would have less to do with our differing politics, and more to do with the fact that I'm not attracted to idiots, so we'd never have a first date, anyway.
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